Intombazana enyanisekileyo neyokwazisa kakhulu yanamhlanje- unjani? Ukwanela, ukuqaqamba, ngenjongo, kuphumelele. Andiqhelanga ukuba ndibuze, amathemba akho kuphela. Udinga ingubo okanye i-smartphone- iya kusebenza, imoto-iya kufumana amalungelo kwaye ithenge ngetyala, igumbi liqokelelwe kwigalelo lokuqala kwaye lithathe imali. Wabafundisa uMama notata. Kwaye bafundisa ukuba ukufundisisa okokuqala kunye nomsebenzi, emva koko ubomi buqu. Kwaye emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngokubanzi, esi sisithembiso esihle. Kodwa yintoni esiyibonayo ekugqibeleni?
Inene namantombazana afanelekileyo awayenebhongo ngokuba abazali babo, nge-25 (kwaye abaninzi kunye no-30) abazukutshata. Hayi, ayizizo "iimpuku ezingwevu", zinxibe ngokunxiba, jonga kakuhle, kunzima. Banoluhlu olubanzi lwezinto ezinomdla zokuzonwabisa, abahlobo abaninzi kunye nehlabathi eliphakathi. Kodwa bonke basebenza ndawonye, ngonaphakade bexakekile, abafuni kuphulukana nomzuzu. Kwaye ngesizathu esithile, bayakholelwa ukuba zonke impumelelo ziseza, kwaye ubomi buqu buya kulinda.Kwaye le yimeko yehlabathi. Nazi abazali ababesisoyika izolo ukuba intombi yabo iya kukhathalela i-16, bayaqonda ukuba ngoku bafuna ukuba nabantwana. Kwaye baqala ukoyike omnye: ukuba intombi ayinakukhulelwa, kwaye abayi kulinda abazukulwana bakhe.
Ukoyikiswa kwezalamane kukhula minyaka le, kuba abanini batshabalale, kwakamsinya nje into enzulu kwi-Horizon ibaluleke kakhulu, okanye inyula "iikopi" zayo nonina. Kutheni le nto isenzeka? Kutheni le nto i-natpashka engathandekiyo ukusuka ekungeneni okokuqala itshatile engama-22 kwaye ilinde umntwana wesibini, kunye nobuqili bethu kunye nobuhle bethu buyedwa?
Ityala kushishino lwamandla, apho la mantombazana akhupha. Iingcinga zabo zitsalela imicimbi ethile nabantu. Makhe sibone ukuba yintoni enokuphazamisa ulonwabo.
1. "Ndinako konke" okanye "kufuneka ndifezekise yonke into ngaphandle koncedo."
Ufakelo oluthandwa kakhulu ngexesha lethu. Rhoqo le ntombazana iyayithanda loo mntu wayethanda kuye, akakwazi ukuba angayenza njani kuye. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ikhupha i-phango, ziva mntu. Ngapha koko, akaze acele uncedo, kwaye imizamo yakhe yokusebenza iluncedo ngokupheleleyo. Emva koko uphoxekile kwaye amagqabi, ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba kutheni esenza ngathi le ntaba iphela iphela.
Kwaye inyani kukuba wayebanda nje ". Indoda ibalulekile ukuba yeyakho ithemba kunye nenkxaso, ivakalelwa iyimfuneko. Kwaye ilunge ngakumbi - iyimfuneko. Kwaye umbulelo ongazenzisiyo emehlweni entanda yakhe ngowona mvuzo ubalaseleyo.
Mnike eli thuba. Sukunamathela yonke into emagxeni akho, vumela umhlobo wakho abe nenxaxheba ebomini bakho kwaye uncede usombulule naziphi na iingxaki.
2. "Ndifuna usapho, kodwa andikabi namsi."
Kwenzeka ukuba umnqweno wokwala indlwane yosapho ivuthwa ngaphambili kunokuba ebomini ngokufanayo, ukuphela kwenye kuphela. Kodwa, ngethamsanqa, kuthetha ukuba ikamva lisenokwenzeka ukuba leliphi kwenye indawo kufutshane! Ukuze yonke into ilungile, kufuneka uphulaphule ngenyameko. Ngaba uphupha luhlobo losapho?Khawufane ucinge ngazo zonke iinkcukacha: • Bangaphi abantwana kunye nesabelana ngesondo; • Zinjani iimpawu umyeni umyeni; • apho uhlala khona kwaye loluphi utshintsho olufana nalo; • kukho izilwanyana zasekhaya; • Usuku lweveki oluqhelekileyo kunye nosuku oluqhelekileyo, njalo njalo.
Yonke le nto iya kunceda ekumiseleni izinto eziphambili kwaye yenze umfanekiso ocacileyo wesiphumo esifunekayo. Oku kubizwa ngokuba kukubona. Ukuvunywa kakuhle, ukunika umqondiso wendalo iphela: "Ndikulungele, ndilindile." Kunye nabo baziyo ngokuthe ngqo ukuba iziganeko ezifanelekileyo zihlala zikhawuleza.
3. "Onke amadoda afanayo. Ewe, kunjalo, kulungile, kodwa kudala bexakekile. "
Iingcinga ezinjalo zihlala ziphefumlelwe ngamava akho amabi. Ngapha koko, akukho bantu bafana. Akukho bantu nabafazi. Ewe, ngokwenene, abantu abalungileyo abalali endleleni. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba awuyi kufezekisa okwakho. Eyona nto iphambili ayizukunxibelelana nabo bonke abakhethiweyo. Khupha ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ukholelwe ukuba kunokwenzeka.
4. "Andifuni ukuxhomekeka nakubani na. Yoyikisa kwaye indenze ndisengozini. "
"Ndiyayixabisa inkululeko yam." Ewe, naluphi na ulwalamano olusondeleyo lunyanzelisa ukusikelwa umda ezithile. Kukho iimbophelelo ezazingekho ngaphambili, ziya kuba ngaphantsi. Kodwa izibonelelo ezilungileyo kunye neziganeko ezimnandi nazo ziyavela kwakhona.Ukuba ufuna ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, kuya kufuneka uthethathethwano kwaye uyamkele into yokuba inxenye yenkululeko ilahlekile. Oku kwenzeka ngokwalo njengoko kuphuhliswa. Ngokufanelekileyo kufanelekile ukuba icinge ukuba ayizukuchaphazela wena kuphela, kodwa nayo. Inqanaba lokuthintelwa linokuhlala luvunyelwana kwaye lufumane ukhetho oluza kulungiselela zombini.
Kwaye malunga nokuxhomekeka komnye umntu-kukho izibonelelo apha. Ngamanye amaxesha kuhle kakhulu ukuba uzive ubuthathaka, uqonde ukuba unokuxhomekeka kwinto enzima. Kwaye lo mntu akayivumeli kwaye ayinike.
5. "Usapho, bantwana - andinamdla kum."
Akukho tyala xa ingxelo enjalo sisiphumo sokukhusela i-psyche. Xa umntu engasebenzi ixesha elide, uthi entliziyweni yakhe: "Ke, kulungile, hayi kakhulu kwaye ufuna!". Ke nantsi into efanayo. Ukuba akusekho "indoda" yakhe ixesha elide, kuthetha into enye: hayi ixesha. Kwaye, mhlawumbi kufuneka uyeke ukufuna. Emva koko ulonwabo luya kukufumana ngokwakho. Eyona nto iphambili kukuziqonda kwangaphambili ukuba yintoni ulonwabo kuwe.
6. Kwaye imeko yokugqibela - xa ungafuni ukutshata. Ngaphandle kwe-rowtennet.
Ukufakelwa okungasebenziyo akukho bhuzula, isxces-i-supervies-awuzange uneengxaki. Akukho mnqweno, kwaye kunjalo! Uthanda indlela ubomi obusongelwe ngayo, kwaye awuzimiselanga ukwala ukwenzela ikhitshi kunye nepelleri yabantwana.
Kule meko, ingxaki ayikho konke konke: Ukuba umntu ukhalela yonke into, akukho mfuneko yokutshintsha nantoni na! Ngoku nje, ngokucacileyo, ufuna enye, kwaye xa ixesha lifikile, yonke into iza kuphuma yedwa. Ekugqibeleni, oku kufuna kuphela umnqweno onyanisekileyo. Yonwaba!