Ubudlelwane yinto enzima. Ayikho indlela efanelekileyo yokwakha kunye nokuphucula, kwaye akukho ndlela yokuqinisekisa ukuba yonke into izakufuneka. Sinika kuphela iingcebiso ezimbalwa kulwalamano, olungaxelelwa ngokucacileyo kwasebuncinaneni bam.
1 Buza ukuba umntu osondelelene kangakanani kwigumbi lokulala
Ngokuchanekileyo. Isondo yinxalenye ebalulekileyo yolwalamano olusempilweni nolonwabo, ke egumbini lokulala osoloko lufuna ukunxibelelana, kwaye ungacwalelwa ukuba ufuna "isiqingatha." Umzekelo, abaninzi bahlala befuna ukuzama into ebhedini, kodwa bayifihla, beneentloni. Ke, ukuba ugcina ubomi obumnandi rhoqo kwaye unomdla, uya kuyenza wonwabe ngakumbi kwigumbi lokulala nangaphandle.2 HLALA UVULEKILEYO
Ngokuqinisekileyo, ngamnye uya kuthi xa sele edibana nomfana wakhe, yonke into yayimnandi kwaye inomdla. Zombini zaqhubeka nemihla, zidibene kwimivalo yakuthandayo nakwimibutho kwaye zenza yonke into abayenzayo.
Makhe siyinyani esweni: i-honeymoon iphelile. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba ubuye amaxesha ngamaxesha. Kutheni ungabelwe usuku lwasimahla lokuchitha ixesha elimnandi, njengoko wawusenza ngaphambili - yitya, usele kwaye uyonwabele.
3 Hlamba izithethe ecaleni
Namhlanje, abantu abasaphelelanga kwindima yesini yesini. Kufanelekile ukulibala indlela umama atsho ngayo ukuba ukutya, ukupheka nokucoca yindlela eya entliziyweni yomntu. Nawuphi na umntu wanamhlanje uyawuxabisa umfazi onamandla, omeleleyo kwaye onokuthi ayeke ukumthanda.Ngokuqinisekileyo abantu basetyhini bayathanda, ngamanye amaxesha babakhathalele. Ke ngoko, okungenani ukulungiselela isidlo sangokuhlwa sothando ekhaya kumfazi wakhe wonke. Isibini esinokuhlonipha amaphupha omnye komnye kwaye sizabalazele sonke sisibini esiya kuba nobudlelwane obuhlala buhlala buhlala buhlala buhlala buhlala buhlala buhlala buhlala buhleli nobude.
4 Ukuba yinyani, unethemba kunye nokulungele ukusebenza nzima
Ngaphandle kwamaphupha omntwana, akukho nkosana inomtsalane kwihashe elimhlophe, eliza kuthatha umfazi ovela kubomi bemihla ngemihla. Ngokuchanekileyo kuyafana nakwezinye amadoda - akufuneki balindele ukuba isihlangu sekrystal sivela kwiLobuten siyikhokelele kwinkosazana.
Ewe kunjalo, oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka sivumelane ngendlela yokuqala. Kufuneka ufumane umntu omnye, ngaphandle kokuba ungabufumane ubomi bakho. Kwangelo xesha, musa ukulibala ukuba umntu ohambelana naloo mntu qhina uya kuba nzima kuphela ukukhangela.
Kuya kufuneka ukuba unethemba kwaye ukholelwe ngokuqinileyo ukuba umntu ngamnye unguMntu "wakho". Akukho tyala alinakuqiniseka ukuba baya kuchitha ubomi bam bonke okanye ukuba akukho luthando lokwenyani- lukhona kwaye ufuna umsebenzi okhutheleyo. Ubudlelwane obuyimpumelelo bufuna bobabini amaqabane ukwenza umzamo omkhulu; Kwaye ukuba bathandana ngokwenene, ayizukukhangela njengoMsebenzi.
Akukho ubudlelwane bokuqala.
Nangona abantu abaninzi abathandanayo banxibelelana nabahlobo babo okanye izalamane zabo kubudlelwane, kufanelekile ukuhlala becinga ukuba bonke ubudlelwane bungafani kwaye yintoni esebenzayo kwisibini esinye asisebenzi komnye. Ikwathetha ukuba ayinguye wonke umntu oya kusiqonda isizathu sokuba umntu eze ngendlela ethile.
Inyani yile yokuba akukho nzululwazi kubudlelwane obugqibeleleyo. Kuyimfuneko ukugcina ubomi bakho besini kunye nemihla yakho inomdla kwaye ihlonipha amaphupha omnye komnye kwaye ulahle izithethe zokude. Uthando luyinyani kwaye ngamanye amaxesha lumdaka, kwaye okona kubaluleke kakhulu kukuba kufuneka wenze into ekwenza wena neqabane lakho bonwabe. Kwaye yonke into izakulunga.