Ngayo yonke loo nto abathandi, ayinamsebenzi, badibana unyaka okanye iminyaka elishumi, ngelo xesha bakubon 'ukuba badinwe-hla bakhathalele ubudlelwane. Ngaphandle, umqala wabo unokujonga ngokugqibeleleyo - bobabini bathandana, bakhathalelane, banento yokuthetha, kodwa yintoni enye yeemvakalelo ezinokuvuswa, kukho umnqweno owahlukileyo.
Kwaye ke umntu wedwa (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha bobabini ngaxeshanye) ivumela impazamo enkulu- uyayifihla imeko yakhe yokwenyani, iqala ukwenza imaski, inyamezele ... ukuba ihambe kakuhle, ikhokelela kubudlelwane ukuwa.Kutheni bebonke - akuthethi ukuthanda i-24/7?
Siza kunyaniseka, amaqabane angeniswe kuqhawulo mtshato kungenxa yokuchasene nokungqubana okungenakuphikiswa, iinjongo ezahlukeneyo, iingqondo zengqondo zesondo okanye iingxaki zemali, yonke into iphosakele - umkhwa wendlela yokwenza iimvakalelo zabo. Nje ukuba umntu othile ovela kumaqabane afihliwe kancinci, kodwa athi cwaka. Kwakukho intsimbi yesibini kunye neyesithathu, kude kube kukucaphukisa ngaphakathi kwimiphetho, kwaye ithontsi lokugqibela alizange liwele ngaphezulu. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba le hla ngamawaka amawaka amazwi kunye nezizathu! Bobabini badiniwe, kodwa bafihle ithamsanqa labo. Kobu buxoki kwaye kukho impazamo.
Kusisidenge ukwenza ukuba sihlala siwathanda amaqabane ethu, esihlala sikulungele ukumamela kunye nenkxaso. Abantu zizidalwa ezintsonkothileyo ezixhomekeke kwi-biorhysms, imeko yomzimba, amathontsi eHormonal kunye ne-cockroisting entloko. Asinakuhlala sisolula isandla soncedo, asisoloko sifuna ukwabelana namandla ethu, sizinike ngaphandle komlinganiso kwaye sithabathe abo bajikeleze njengoko benjalo. Indalo yethu ayizinzanga, kuxhomekeke kwi-oscillations yokuzithemba, uxinzelelo loluntu nakwimveli. Lixesha lokuvuma ukuba umntu omnye ukuba athande umntu omnye ziiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku kude kube sekupheleni kwemihla yakhe - umsebenzi awunakwenzeka. Ke akwenzeki. Eli litopia apho sisinyanzela ukuba siyikholelwa inkolo kunye neentsomi malunga "nothando lukanaphakade". "Ungaze ukhokelele, uphila ngolonwabo kwaye uncume!" I-ALOS, nokuba eyona nkqubo ilungelelanisiweyo inokukhupha impazamo, ngakumbi ukuba inkqubo yenze umntu ophilayo.
Xa ubudlelwane bunika ukungaphumeleli
Ke, elinye lamaqabane lazibamba lokucinga ukuba wayekhathalele kubudlelwane. Oku kudinwa kunokuboniswa ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo-ukucaphukisa, umnqweno wokuchitha impelaveki ngaphandle, ukukholisa ukusondela okanye unxibelelwano olusondeleyo. Ewe kunjalo, ngamnye kuthi unelungelo lokuziva abo, ahlole i-goone-ngesiqhelo, kubalulekile ukuba unike ingxelo ngokuchanekileyo kwesiqingatha, fumana ixesha lokuthetha kwimiphefumlo. Awu, i-90% yabantu ineentloni zokucaphuka kwaye iqhube nzulu kwiloyiko lokuzibuza le nyaniso "imbi" yoyikekayo "eyoyikekayo" yoyikekayo "yoyikekayo. Kubonakala ngathi kusenziwa ukuba sithethe ngeminqweno yabo, kunokuba lula ukunyamezela, ngaphandle kwenzondelelo, uphendula. Kwaye ke wawa ebhedini ngaphandle komnqweno, elinye ixesha lava amehlo kuye "lokufuna" - into engaphakathi eqhumayo, enika okubi. Endaweni yothando olungapheliyo, kukho inzonzobila, emva koko bobabini baqala ukusala.
Ngenxa yokuba sicwangcisiwe ukuba asinakuphila kuphela ngenxa yabanye, i-ego yethu ayizukukuxolela oku. Ngokuzisa le meko ngokugqithileyo, siya kuhlala simamela, iimvakalelo zethu kunye neemfuno. Yiyo loo nto ukuthula kuyinkcitho etshabalalisa iintsapho. Sasiva ubunzima, satsala irabha, kwaye emva koko basithi "bayeke", ngaphandle kokunika iqabane ukuba baqonde into angayenzanga kuye? Uthando lubulewe lungabi ngamagama, kodwa ukungabikho ngokupheleleyo, ukufihlakeleyo ngenjongo. Kwaye ukuba woyika loo nto, uxelele imeko yam, utshabalalisa ubudlelwane bakho, sineendaba ezimbi kuwe - thanda apha kwaye ungavuyi.
Ubomi yinto enzima, kusoloko kukho amaxesha okudodobala kunye nokuphakamisa xa kusempilweni kunye, kwaye xa kukho into eyoyikisayo, kwaye kufuneka siyilungisa. Ukuba waphule into ngaphakathi - ungathi cwaka, thetha ngayo, kuphela uya kuba nethuba lokusindisa ubudlelwane.
Uthando aluhlali lungenasifuba, nkqu nezona ndlela zinyanisekileyo nezivakalayo zinokufumana isigaba sokuphelisa. Akukho sidima sivela komnye nomnye kwaye singenzi rhoqo. Abantu bakhonza umtshato, begcwele iimpazamo onokuhlangana nazo "umntu" wakho, esiya kuhlala esiphila kuye. Akukho mpazamo, ukhwela yonke imihla, kuphela epinki kunye ne-rainbow 24/7. Kodwa ayenzeki. Sonke sidiniwe kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sifuna ukuphumla, ixesha lakho kunye nomphefumlo wakho. Le yinto eqhelekileyo.