Ukususela ebuntwaneni, siqhele ukuqina okuthile ukuba uluntu luhambelana. Kodwa amaxesha aguqukayo, abantu batshintsha, kwaye ezinye izinto ezizezotywala zihlala kwaye zihlasela ubomi bethu, zisanda kakhulu kwaye zizise uhlengahlengiso lwangaphakathi phakathi kwabantu.
1. "Ukwahlula" kwi "mayindoda" kunye "nabafazi"
Indoda kufuneka ihambelane neekhrayitheriya kuphela umntu. Umfazi kufuneka athobele iikhrayitheriya zendalo kuphela kwibhinqa. Indoda ngumzingeli, umntwana omncinci, onzima, enganyamezeleki. Ibhinqa lingumama, umgcini wentliziyo eyasekhaya, enyamezela, enothando. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ukuthwala le nto.
Ukuba umfazi uzuza ngakumbi (kuyavela ukuze ufumane imali) kunendoda, ngokunjalo, ngokweetetri zetemplate zoluntu, oku akusekho lusapho. Njengo kwifilimu "Moscow ayikholelwa." Kusenokufuna usapho olunjalo kunye noSOS, kwaye kubi, umntu ogama lingu-Alphonse. Nangona kusapho olunjalo, wonke umntu uzibandakanya koko kungcono.
Kumntu ngamnye, iseti ethile yeempawu zibekiweyo, ethathwa njenge "ndoda" okanye "ibhinqa", umntu akafanele avale amacala akhe amahle, nokuba akahambelani ne-template esekwe eluntwini.
2. "Kuyo nayiphi na imbambano elungileyo, kwaye enye ayilunganga"
Kutheni nakuphi na imbambano sifuna ukuba netyala kwaye isibakala sokuba isenzo sakhe (isigwebo) asihambelani noluvo lwethu, sizama ukohlwaya kwaye siqonde into yakho elungileyo? Akukho kanye kwaye ayilunganga. Kukho abantu abazimvo ngeendlela, izigwebo ezahlukeneyo, iseti yolwazi, iinkolo, njl. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ufumane apho inyani iyo. Hayi ukuba kunjalo. Kuyimfuneko ukuqonde oku kwaye kwamkela, ke abantu kulula ukunxibelelana.3. "Ukugxekwa kunye nokugwetywa kufanele kumenze umntu"
Ngesizathu esithile, abantu bayazithemba kuluntu lwethu kuluntu lwethu, ukuba impumlo yomntu kwakhona kwiimpazamo zakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo uya kulungiswa kwaye uya kuba ngcono. Kuphela. Unokutyhala kuphela umntu ngokugxeka kwakho kunye nokugwetywa. Ewe, kwaye mhlawumbi awufezekanga. Wonke umntu unokuziphatha ngendlela efuna kwaye ayifumana kuyimfuneko.
4. "Simele siphulaphule abadala, kuba banobuhle kwaye sibubulumko"
Amabali ahlekisayo kakhulu ezenzeka xa umama okanye umamazala enika icebiso lokukhathalela nokuphakamisa umntwana. Ewe kunjalo, abantu bomthonyama abacebise okubi, kodwa kwenzeka ukuba ulwazi nezakhono zabo ziphelelwe lixesha kwaye ngenkulungwane yama-21 ayisasebenzi. Kodwa bayaqhubeka nokucebisa ngokuqhubekayo. Kwaye awukwazi ukungathobeli, kuba bayazi ngcono.
Bazali nabantu mdala kakhulu kunokuba kufuneka nihlonele kwaye konke oko, kodwa akunyanzelekanga ukuba uphulaphule uluvo lwabo ukuba luyasasaza uluvo lwakho. Sele ukhulele kwaye unelungelo lokuphakamisa abantwana bakho, nxiba, coca igumbi, hlamba izitya, njengoko uzijonga njengeyimfuneko. Kunye nenqaku.
5. "Umbutho usiqhubela kwisakhelo!"
Sisoloko sicinga ukuba: "Uya kuxela ntoni emsebenzini ukuba ndiyibeka kule mpahla?", "Ungacinga ntoni ukuba ndivakalisa uluvo lwam?". Sikhathazekile, okokuqala, kwako konke, bayakuthetha ntoni kwaye bacinge ukuba asifaniyo nomfanekiso womyeni ogqibeleleyo, umfazi wam, intombi, umama. Krwela umgca phantsi kwayo nayiphi na into eyenziweyo. Kodwa kutheni abantu bebeka olu "luntu" ngaphezu kwawo?
Umbutho uliqela labantu abanoluvo lwabo, kwaye oluthile, kwinqanaba elikhulu okanye elincinci, limnyanzele.
Susa ii-stereotypes ezifanelekile kwiminyaka emininzi eyadlulayo, kodwa ngoku musani ukuba nengqondo. Emva koko uya kufumana imvisiswano engaphakathi kunye nolonwabo kubudlelwane nabanye!