Uxelelwe: Kwanele ukubala, zithabathe ngesandla, intombi kaSamurai, ubambe ubuso hayi. Kwaye awumameli. Kuba ukuya kukhanya, ukhalaza kwaye i-bang iluncedo kakhulu.
I-Nati isusa uxinzelelo
Zombini i-trap, kuba nye umoya obuthathaka uwela ekuxhomekeni kuhlelo kwaye ukhalaza ngalo naliphi na isizathu sokungaze ubandezeleke. Ewe, uyazi, nokuba ubomvu kwiidosi eziphakathi komeleza impilo, kwaye kwi-nonlimentited iyothuka ihlazo, i-hangover kwaye inxeba langaphambili.
Asikho apha ngokuziphatha, kodwa malunga ne-Psychology: Ukuhamba phambili kuyanceda ukulila kwaye basokola iingxaki zabo. Uloyiko olukhangelweyo lube lungabi lula kwaye lulawuleka ngakumbi.
UNanya unceda ukuthatha imeko iphantsi kolawulo
Ngakumbi xa kungekho enye indlela yevili lokuqhuba. Umzekelo, yintoni onokuyenza kunye noMama, ovela kwisikhumbuzo sakho seminyaka eli-18 kwincoko nganye iqala ngeengcebiso malunga neempawu malunga neempawu? Ngaba nguMkhwekazi, yeyiphi, intwana yentwana yedikiweyo, ayithandani ekuthelekiseni ne-Ex-namhlanje - "Ewe, yintombazana entle enjalo"? Kunye nomphathi? Kunye neendlela ezikhawulezayo? Akukho nto, i-akhawunti.
Kodwa oku akuyeki incoko isisigxina entlokweni yakho, kwaye apha kungcono ukubonakalisa ingqumbo evakalayo enkulu - nangona kunjalo impikiswano, kwaye umntu unobuhlobo. Ngokwengqondo, oku kuphantse ngokufanayo nangokuba unokunika i-otloux kwabo baziva ngathi yindoda enesibindi samalungelo kunye nomntu ophantsi kolawulo.
I-Natut yomeleza ubudlelwane boluntu
Masiqale ngento yokuba akukho mntu uthanda ukonwaba, banomsindo. Banesithukuthezi kunye nabo. Akunakwenzeka ukumamela iiyure ezininzi, bathini abantwana babo abathobekileyo nabahle, ababafundileyo, enjani ukuba yindoda abamangalisa ngayo, indlela ababewenza ngayo kumagumbi abo amathathu embindini wabo. Akukho kwanto yokuthetha ngayo.
Izikhalazo zinika isizathu sokukhumbula iingxaki zabo, zabelane ngamava abo okubalisa, zinike iBhunga elilumko, kunye ukuba zive inxenye yeqela elinentliziyo enamatheleneyo.
Uluntu lukhuthaza izigqibo
Izikhalazo-ezifanayo, enyanisweni, zikhale i-Seards: Ndenzekile kwi-shayze, ndisule kwaye ndixelele ukuba ndenze ntoni. Ukuba ukhalaza malunga nabantu abafanelekileyo - oko kukuthi, abo baqondayo iingxaki- unokufumana impendulo kwaye ufanele ukuphendula kwaye uxabisa ngokwenene icebiso. Kwaye ukuba neqhayiya kunye nokuzola kunye neengcebiso zihlala zingakhweli.
Ukubukela ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba
Ngo-1996, i-Psychologist iRobin Kovalski iqhube isifundo kwaye yafumanisa ukuba ukuziva isikhalazo ziphantse ukuba ziphakame ngakumbi kunalezo zithi cwaka. Apha, enyanisweni, unxibelelwano oluhlanganayo. Kwelinye icala, abantu abazithembileyo bayazithemba ukuba iingxaki zabo zinomdla kakhulu kwaye azinazintloni zokugalela. Kwelinye icala, xa ukhalaza, wonke umntu ukhangela kuwe, avula umlomo, evula intloko kwaye engaziwayo: "Ewe, konke okubi, koyikekayo." Ingqwalaselo enjalo ngokuqinisekileyo ihle. Ibangela imvakalelo yokuba ungumntu obalulekileyo, hayi i-obiege yoluntu.