Eyona nto uyithandayo, mhle, incinci - indlela esuka kwikhonkco lahle, kwaye kubonakala ngathi konke kunokwenzeka ukuba kukhusela ubuncinci ukuya kwi-hsterics. .. Sikuqonda njani!
Ukusuka ecaleni ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi iingxaki zokufutshane azizizo iingxaki ezinjalo, kwaye ngokubanzi abo ngokwabo babekatyalatyalane. Ngelixa awuzukujongana ... kunjalo I-Sean Grover Ugqirha we-psychotherapist eneminyaka yamashumi amabini yamava, wake waqonda ukuba, opholileyo opholileyo, wayengenakuhlangabezana nokuziphatha kakubi kwentombi yakhe. Kwakufuneka agcwalise iqhekeza le-cones ngaphambi kokuba yonke into iphuculwe. Ngenxa yoko, uSean wabhala incwadi "Umntwana wam cinezekile! Ungayibuyisa njani ukuqonda noxolo kwintsapho apho abantwana bengaphuli kwaye krwada " . Kwinguqulelo yaseRussia, wafikelela kumshicileli "Umshicileli weAlpina" Ke ngoku wonke umzali unokubona ukuba njani esipilini, kwiindidi ezahlukeneyo zosapho "- kwaye ziqonde indlela yokuhlangabezana nazo.
Kunjalo nje! thina Ukucwangcisa ikopi enye yale ncwadi Kumagqabaza kwinqaku lethu! Ukuthatha inxaxheba, kuya kufuneka wenze uphononongo lwe-repost kuyo nayiphi na inethiwekhi yentlalo kwaye isiphosele ikhonkco, Apha kwizimvo . Ophumeleleyo uya kukhetha ngokungacwangciswanga kwaye axelele uMatshi 3, 2016!
Iklabhu yabazali abahluphekayo
Umphathi ophelekelekileyo akayedwanga ehlabathini: amalungu eqela le-Club ebandezelekayo ngokuzazi njengoko sisihlwele saza sangena kwangoko ngovelwano oluvakalayo omnye komnye. Kwaye uninzi lwazo sele lukwazile ukuqonda: Ixesha elineminyaka emibini ubudala "liyasilela ukulinda. Iimpukane kakuhle ngexesha "lesikolo esibi" esibi "," umfinane oyoyikekayo "... njalo njalo, ukuya kwi-infinity.Kwimeko, unokufumana izibonelelo zethu kunye nentuthuzelo. Ukuba umntwana ugqibelele i-Pesik engekho mgangazana kunye nengelosi, kubomi babantu abadala kuya kufuneka ukuba aqine ngokupheleleyo - ngenxa yokunqongophala kokuzithemba nokungakwazi ukuziqonda njengomntu. Kwaye okwangoku, ukuba ufuna ukuba ubuncinci ifihle kwi-chad yakho - ayisiyonto eqhelekileyo. Ukuchasana komntwana ngokuchasene nezalamane luphawu olufanelekileyo lokungabi sempilweni kusapho.
Kwithuba lento yenzekayo. USean uthatha iimeko ezisixhenxe ezipheleleyo ezisebenza ikakhulu zabantwana (izifo, ukwenzakala ngokweemvakalelo, ukwenziwa koqhawulo-mtshato, iingxaki zokufunda, iingxaki zokuthetha, kunye nentetho nganye nganye. Nangona kunjalo, kunjalo, njenge-Pescialogist yengqondo enobulumko, ekuphela kwepilisi ye-pan-panacea ayifihlisi.
Andikwazi ukukunika icebiso elithathela ingqalelo ubuntu bakho. Andiyi kukunyanzela izisombululo zendalo. Uluhlu lwamanyathelo angafunekiyo kwaye aluncedo anceda ukugcina ikhosi oyifunayo, kodwa kunqabile ukuba kukho amandla. Eyona ndlela isebenzayo yokufezekisa utshintsho kwindlela yokuziphatha komntwana ayiqhelekanga, hayi ulawulo kwaye ingabi ngamandla. Kungcono ukuqala nokujonga ngenyameko esipilini. Qala kuwe.
Utitshala, i-ice ngokwakho
Kwishishini, ukuba izinto zimbi, kulisiko ukufuna unobangela kwizenzo zabaphathi abaphambili. Ngomzali-ibali elinye, utshilo uSean.
Ingxaki yayikwindlela yam yokuziphatha kwayo. Endaweni yokuncedisa intombi yakhe ijamelane neemvakalelo zayo kunye neempembelelo, ndityhole nje kwaye ndifune ukuyilawula. Okubi, ndaphendula inzame yakhe yokundiqhekeza ngento yokuba ndingazange ndimkele. Xa wayebabelana, ndaziphatha ngakumbi nangakumbi. Endaweni yokuqonda, ndambonisa ukuba ikhuthaze kuphela intombazana ukuba ayikhusele kwaye ihlale inganyamezeleki.Emva kothotho lweemvavanyo ezinzima kumdlalo wezengqondo odiniweyo, isityhilelo ekugqibeleni sihlanganisiwe. Endaweni yoko, ezintathu:
Nye. Ukuba ndifuna ukuba aziphathe ngendlela eyahlukileyo, ndalandela ukuqalisa ukutshintsha umfanekiso wakho wesenzo.
2. Kuya kufuneka ndijongane noloyiko lwam kunye nokungaqiniseki okuchaphazela unxibelelwano lwam kunye nentombi yam kwaye ndivuselele ukuba ibe mhlophe kunye nezikhubekiso.
3. Eyona nto iphambili ekufuneka ndiyenzile kukutshintsha ubudlelwane nomntwana kwaye ndiyeke ukusothuswa yinxalenye yakhe, - funda indlela yokulawula ngayo iimvakalelo zakho kunye neentshukumisa zakho.
Ukuqonda kwaye ungazinzanga impahla yeemvakalelo zexesha elidlulileyo-iingxaki zokuzithemba, ingqumbo, uloyiko kunye noxinzelelo, ukungakhathali kwe-nartissism, ukungakhathali - konke oku kudala imiqobo phakathi kwakho nomntwana wakho. Zama ukuyitshintsha, ngaphandle kokuphambukela kwixesha lethu elidlulileyo, kufana nokuzama ukutshintsha isithunzi eludongeni, hayi into echukumisayo ayiphosayo.
Ungayenza njani?
Iindlela ezimbi zokukhusela ngokuqinisekileyo ezingasebenzi-ezithethelela, isityholo kwaye sikhanyele. Nangona kunjalo, indlela yokuphendula yabazali enguSulktic-imvume, isohlwayo kunye nothethathethwano - nayo ayisebenzi. Ukuba ujonga iziphumo ekuhambeni kwexesha.
Nanini na xa, ukunikela phantsi kwentswela-mali yeemfuno zabantwana, usasaza umyalezo olula: kusebenza ubundlongondlongo. Ke xa amabango akho awamthanda umntwana, uya kuphinda abuyele kwindlela efanayo yokufezekisa okufunwayo. Ekugqibeleni, nawe wamnika ukuba aqonde ukuba ukuba uyacinezela njengoko kufanele, unikezele.
Iingxoxo zinokubakho.
Ke ukohlwaywa, iziphumo zakhe eziqhelekileyo zilusizi: umntwana akavumi ukuthobela okanye ngokuvulekileyo, okanye ngendlela yokuthengisa ngokuthe cwaka; okanye utsala ukuba ukucaphukisa ngokwakho kwaye uqhutywa kwizithethi ezixinzekileyo; Okanye ngaphezulu uhlaselo lwabazali.
Ungazinceda njani
Izinketho ezinemizekelo kunye nokunikezelwa okukhethekileyo ukusuka kwiSean - isiqingatha esihle sencwadi. Sisenokubakho kwezinye kuphela.
Nye. Isixhobo esibonakala sinzima, kodwa iluncedo kakhulu - Gcina idayari . Kuyanceda ukoyisa umkhwa okhohlakeleyo wokuphendula ngokuthe ngcembe kukuziphatha okungenakuphela kwabantwana. Kwaye okubaluleke ngakumbi - khumbula ubuntwana bakho.
Ewe, ukuqonda ubudlelwane kunye nomntwana kuya kufuneka Gimba kulwalamano lwakho noMama noTata . Ngapha koko, le nto abazali abahlala behlala bengamaxhoba omchasi wabo? Abo babenengcinezelo ebuntwaneni; Abo bahlala bengahoywa; Abo bazisa i-daffodils. Emva koko samkela ezi zitayela zemfundo. Kwaye nokuba uzisebenzele: "Andisoze ndifane nomama!" Kwaye uzama ukukwenza konke ngokuchasene noko - emva kwayo yonke loo nto, i-antiscenarial ikwayimbonakalo yemeko, kukwaye nokuxhomekeka kwixesha elidlulileyo kwaye kukhokelela kwi-Chegars ...
Akunakwenzeka ukuphatha gadalala ukuba impembelelo yokuba amava abantwana ancedisayo, ngakumbi ekwakheni ubudlelwane nomntwana wakho. Yintoni oyikhethayo - Khuphela indlela yokuziphatha yabazali bakho okanye uhlala esenza yonke into ngokuchaseneyo - okanye usayifumana indlela yakho?
2. Eyona ndlela ilungileyo yokuphelisa ubundlobongela bomntwana - Zibonakalise indlela yokuziphatha ngokuchanekileyo . Rhoqo ngokuthi nabantu abadala kwisikali esishushu silibale ukuba kufuneka basebenze isampulu kubantwana. Yenzeka ukuba:
- Ilinde imbeko, abazali abanantlonelo abahloniphileyo;
- Bafuna abantwana ukuba babaphulaphule, kodwa bona ngokwabo abathabathanga ukuba baphendule;
- Bafuna ukuba umntwana uyeba ukubapha, kodwa bona ngokwabo babeka ngayo.
Ke, ngaphandle kokusebenza kuyo, awunakwenza ngaphandle ... luphi unolwazi lokuthatha ?!
3. USean usicela, ukubandezeleka kwabazali, ukhathalelo olungcono ... ngawe . Ukujamelana nobundlobongela babantwana, kufuneka amandla. Ungayithatha kumzali otshisayo. Akanawo amandla nganto. Kwaye bayafuna.
Ukungatshi, akufuneki ulibele:
- Fumana ixesha lakho;
- hamba;
- Yenza ububi;
- Phuma endlwini.
Uyilo ngokwendalo lusisusa kuxinzelelo. Kuyanceda ukujongana neealarm, kuphakamisa imo kwaye kuphumle kwinkqubo yemihla ngemihla yosapho. Iiklasi zoBuchule bokuyila ziya kukunika amandla ongezelelweyo, ke kufuneka ukuze kugwetywe i-tyrana yakho engekhoyo.
Ke ayisiyo ingcebiso engenamsebenzi kusapho, xa ungenangcebiso engenamsebenzi! USean unika imizekelo eqaqambileyo njengoko isebenza.
Ungamnceda njani umntwana
Amaqhinga: "UKHUSELEKO" ngqo ngomzuzu wokuhlakulela.- Thatha ikhefu ukhwela, uqokelele iingcinga kunye nokubuyisela ibhalansi.
- Mbonise umntwana wakho ukuba uyithathela iimvakalelo.
- Yinike ukuba uqonde ukuba ii-scands kunye neemfuno aziyondlela yokufumana oyifunayo.
- Ngexesha lonxibelelwano, mdumise umntwana, ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba uziphathe ngokuchanekileyo.
Icebo: Ungakuqinisekisa njani ukuba uphuhliso lwabantwana abasempilweni?
Nye. Setha imbambano. 2. Ukuphucula ukuzithemba. 3. Imowudi yokufaka, ukuthintelwa kunye nemida. ezine. Fumana ukubangela ukuthandwa ngutitshala, umcebisi, umzekelo wokuxeliswa. Ntlanu. Ukuqokelela uxilongo lomqeqeshi.
Yonke ingcinezelo yasekhaya yasekhaya inesifo sokudibana nabo. Kungenxa yoko le nto kubaluleke kakhulu ukunceda umntwana ukuba afumanise iitalente, izakhono kunye neminqweno kwaye uzikhulise. Umntwana uyadingeka kwimithombo emithathu ukuya kwezihlanu yokuzithemba kakhulu - kunokuba luhlobo lwemisebenzi, ubuchule okanye izinto zokuzonwabisa eziza kunika inkwenkwe okanye intombazana ithuba lokuba liziqhayisa ngazo.
Fowunela ukunceda!
Encwadini, amabali amaninzi abalulekileyo, "i-rosebly", ukhetho lokuziphatha. Zonke aziyi kuphinda ziphinde. Kodwa ugqibile ukuphononongwa ngokukhawuleza kwencwadi eluncedo sesinye, icebiso elibaluleke kakhulu.
Ukuthatha isigqibo sokuyeka indlela yentombi okanye unyana, zama ngalo naliphi na indleko ukuze uhlale ube nengxaki yakho. Umzekeliso wase-Afrika uthi: "Ukuphakamisa umntwana, imigudu yele lali ifuneka."
Ke umzali womsindo omncinci ubaluleke kakhulu ukufaka uncedo kunye nenkxaso yezihlobo, zama ukufumana amaqabane kootitshala - kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ungabi nazintloni zokufuna uncedo lweengcali.
Ubambe, ukubandezeleka umzali! Ngapha koko, awuwedwa. Unazo ii-comrades, zihlobo, iincwadi ezilumkileyo- nobulumko bakho. Siyakholelwa kuwe!