UNyaka oMtsha sisizathu esihle sokuqalisa ubomi obutsha kunye nobudlelwane obutsha. Okanye iguqule kancinci. Kuba ihlala isebenza kwiminyaka emihlanu eyadlulayo, ngoku iba ngunobangela weengxabano. Ngakumbi ukuba sithetha ngomntwana ogcweleyo.
Ewe, ewe, lixesha lokuba uvume ukuba umntwana okwishumi elivisayo, nangona engeyonto injalo enoxanduva, njengawe, kodwa ngenye into nomntwana. Ufuna inkululeko engakumbi, ixesha elingakumbi lobuqu kunye ... Ibango elingakumbi, kunjalo.Oku akuthethi ukuba sicebisa ukuba singene ngokukhawuleza izindlu enesiphako, i-wiretise yendalo iphela, vumela yonke into ukuba ithintele i-vemit njalo. Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba uzuze malunga nemida. Ke qala!
Khetha umzuzu
Imashumi mathathu ingayi kubakho ngaphambi kokuba i-gonves yokuqala ilukishe okanye ilala nje, kodwa yesibini kaJanuwari linani elilungileyo. Ikhowudi ngalo mhla ngumhla we-A-A-TETE, oko kukuthi, ngaphandle kwabangaphandle. Nje ukuba uhlale ngaphandle kolunye uhlobo (umzekelo, kwizitulo okanye ngaphezulu kwetafile), umntwana uyakrokrela u-Noladny kunye nexesha. Sukutsala irabha, unganikeli mntwana wam. Bhengeza ingqondo: "Oku kuthethwano ngoxilongo! Lixesha lokuba sobabini sijonge inyani ebusweni kwaye siqonde ukuba ukhulile (la). Malunga nale nto kwaye ndifuna ukuthetha. " Ngaphezulu kakhulu, i-choo ubunzima kwaye iza kumamela.
Mnike igama
Nika umntwana ukuba axele ukuba yeyiphi indawo yoxanduva nenkululeko yeminyaka elishumi elinane (ishumi elinane ngonyaka oneminyaka elishumi elinesine) ikwishumi elinesithandathu ubudala. Kule ndawo, kunokwenzeka ukuba ukhunjulwe, kuba ukrokrela into, kodwa emva koko unika i-tirade ende. Ii-cerades kwi-faispalma kunye nezichaso. Awukaxoxa, usamamela inqaku lokufumana iqela. Ngamaxesha ngamaxesha, ukucaciswa, phinda ezi zinto. Nokuba babonakala njani izidenge, zama ukuyenza ngethoni engathathi cala. Ngendlela, kwangaxeshanye ufumanisa izinto ezininzi ezinomdla kwaye uya kuqonda ukuba umntwana akayenzi into ukuze akwazise, kwaye ngenxa yoko wakuqonda ngelungelo lakhe. Umzekelo, i-linger kwindwendwe de kube sezinzulwini zobusuku.
Eyona nto inokwenzeka, umntwana uya kudlula ngokudluliselwa kwamalungelo, ke ungalibali ukucela iinkcukacha ezithe kratya malunga nemisebenzi / yendawo yoxanduva. Chaza ukuba kude, kokukhona babefanele ukuba njalo, sifumana iibruns kuzo. Umhlaba ulungiswe kakhulu. Mayithethe ngakumbi ngesihloko soxanduva. Kwaye baya kunika amanyathelo asebenza kwabo bachaphazelekayo kwimisebenzi yabo.
Thatha iLizwi
Kodwa hayi ukuze ukusasaza "umchasi" kwi-Fluff nothuli, kodwa ukwenza into ukuba ixoxe, kuya kuthiwa kweliphi inqanaba layo, linokwamkelwa kangakanani. Chaza ukuba kutheni abanye "amalungelo" bengavunywa. Umzekelo, "hayi ukubiza", ukuba uyalibala kwenye indawo. Ngokwesiqhelo, kwanabantu abadala abanayo ilungelo enjalo, balumkisa ukuba usapho lomqeshi, nokuba luhlala lufika khona. "Ilungelo lemali", ewe, onke amalungu osapho athabatha inxaxheba ekugcineni ubomi bosapho (abo balungisa le mali, kwaye abo balungiselela ukufumanisa impumelelo), kodwa Ubungakanani bemali ekhutshiweyo buxhomekeke kuphela kwiimfuno, kodwa, ewe, nakwizinto zohlahlo-lwabiwo mali. Ngokuthetha, ukuba awuyihlawuleli i-quature, intsapho iya kuba esitratweni, ngoko ke, nokuba lingakanani na amalungu entsapho afuna ukuyithenga, kwaye kufuneka akhuphe igazi kwintlawulo yokusebenza. Eli nqaku libiza awanakuncelwa nakwesiphi na isibonelelo.
Nantsi indawo enzima kakhulu, kuba uyafuna ukugwetyelwa, khomba ngaphezulu kwenqaku, ukuzisa yonke into ukuya kwi-Old kwikhontrakthi yakudala kwaye unike umntwana inkululeko engaphantsi kweklasi yokuqala. Kodwa lo ngumdlalo onganyanisekanga. Nobabini kufuneka ndenze amanyathelo amabini ahlangana, kungenjalo yonke into ilize. Kwaye hayi, inyani yothethathethwano ayisiyonyathelo. Mnike ixesha elingakumbi. Mnike intsimi engaphezulu (endlwini okanye ngaphandle kwendlu). Mnike inkululeko engakumbi. Kungenjalo, as, uya kuyilalisa. Kufana nesityalo, esasingabi sanele imbiza yayo kwaye kufuneka idluliselwe kwityhubhu, kodwa iya kujika.
Ngaphezulu kwayo yonke into inokuyijika le ngxoxo. Kungabi ngabancedisi. Singacebisa ukuba wenze ntoni. Sukuzama ukubeka uxinzelelo kwigunya eliphakathi. Sukuzama ukuqaqamba. Ungaqondi kwaye ungangcungcutheki; Ukuba yinto engaqondakaliyo kunye nokuthuthuzela umntwana, uthethathethwano, echaza ukuba iingxoxo ezinokubakho kwithoni yabantwana azizange zifumaneke, kwaye ziya kuqhubeka khona ukuba i-chado iya kufumana amandla okuthetha ngokwenqanaba lawo.
Ngokugqwesileyo. Ngoku wena okanye uvumile, okanye akunjalo. Ukuba ubudlelwane bakho nomntwana kwincopho enjalo kukuba uthethathethwano abakhokeleli kwanto, akufuneki ukuba bangabantatheli abanengcebiso kunye naye, kodwa ngabantwana besiqhelo sengqondo. Ukuba kufunyenwe imvumelwano, ixhamlule izandla, ivuye. Iintsapho ezininzi aziphumelelanga.
Umnqweno omhle!