I-Pavel Zygmantovich: malunga nabasetyhini kunye netyala

Uninzi lwabasetyhini abatshatileyo basebenza ngemvakalelo engapheliyo yetyala. Uyabasukela aba bafazi nasekhaya, nasemsebenzini. Eyona mvakalelo inamandla kuphela elindelela abafazi nabantwana abazama ukwenza yonke into kuyo yonke indawo "."

Ilahlekile noSa

Yindlela esebenza ngayo. Ukuba umntu uthatha into ebaluleke kakhulu kuye, uzama ukuhlawula into eninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka, azama ukufezekisa okona kulungileyo.

Umzekelo, ukuba umsebenzi ubalulekile emntwini, uzama ukumnika ixesha elininzi lokuba yingcali "efanelekileyo." Ukuba usapho lubalulekile, ke zabalazela ukuba "ngumama ofanelekileyo" okanye "utata ogqibeleleyo."

Kwaye yonke into iya kuba ilungile, kodwa umsebenzi kunye nosapho banoviwo. Ukuba umfazi ufuna ukuba ngumama olungileyo, kufuneka azame ukuchitha ixesha elininzi nosapho. Ukuba umsebenzi olungileyo usemsebenzini. Kwaye kwangaxeshanye kuchitha ixesha elininzi nosapho kwaye ngoko nangoko babe emsebenzini, mhlawumbi, yinyoka kuphela yomboniso othile. Oko kukuthi, akukho mntu.

Kwakhona-ukuchitha usapho, kwaye usebenze ixesha elininzi njengoko ufuna, ubuncinci ubunzima (ukuba kunokwenzeka). Namhlanje yintlanganiso ebalulekileyo intlanganiso, kodwa umntwana wagula kwaye engashiyi umntu - kukukhetha usapho endaweni yomsebenzi. Ngomso uthethathethwano olubalulekileyo, kwaye umntwana uyiMatithekileyo-oko kukhetho lomsebenzi endaweni yosapho. Khetha kwiimeko ezinjalo ngexesha elinye, iinketho ezimbini aziyi kusebenza nangokusetyenziswa kwekhompyuter kunye nayo yonke le nto. Umntwana ufuna umama makabukele ngamehlo akhe, hayi ngefowuni ye-4g.

Ngenxa yoko, umfazi uqalisa ukufumana imvakalelo yokuziva unetyala kwaye phambi kosapho (abantwana kunye nomyeni) nangaphambi kwentloko nakwabo asebenza nabo.

Kwaye okona kubaluleke ngakumbi kwintsapho yabasetyhini kwaye isebenze - kokukhona imvakalelo yokuziva unetyala.

Icinga ntoni imvakalelo yokuba netyala?

Okokuqala, ichaphazela impilo-ntle. Umfazi uba nzima kwaye unovalo. Unxibelelwano kunye nomntwana luhlala luhamba kunye nolunga ngelishwa, bekuya kubonakala ngathi kukukhanya komsindo. Fumana umyeni wakho kunye noogxa bakho. Ngokubanzi, bonke abo baguqukayo, kodwa abantwana baninzi.

Kuba umfazi uhlala ecaphuka, ichaphazela impilo yakhe - apho ngqo "iya kudubula" esi sifo, kodwa ingenakwenzeka ukuba ibaluleke kakhulu, kwaye isifo esithile sele siyinto yexesha kwaye kungasabikho .

Umtsalane wesini uyancipha - into enokwenziwa, i-voltiment icinezela izendla. I-mall, hayi ixesha lokuzonwabisa xa iingxaki ezinjalo zijikeleze. Hlalani, nexhala, musani umhlobo wam.

Emsebenzini, umfazi onjalo akafezekanga - uyaphazamiseka, unexhala, emenza umsebenzi wakhe makabi. Yintoni engayothusi-ngemeko yakhe. ELizwini, imvakalelo yokuba netyala yomfazi osebenzayo ityhafisa ubomi bakhe kuye nakwiingqongqo.

Injani indlela yokuphuma?

Ngokuqinisekileyo, uya kuba ngumfazi wasekhaya, kodwa akusoloko kunokwenzeka. Ewe, kwaye ayifuniyo

Ukuba uhlala emsebenzini, ngoko, ngokungaqhelekanga, ukuphuma apha kwindoda. Njengoko izifundo zibonisiwe (yabona, umzekelo, imisebenzi ye-E. E. A. Aleshina kunye ne-E. V. LeadSorec), ingqondo yamabhinqa anokuziva unetyala kakhulu ixhomekeke kumyeni wakhe. Ukuba unxibelelana kakuhle nomsebenzi womfazi wakhe, kumsebenzi wakhe wobungcali, uyamkhuthaza (kunye nomfazi, kunye nomsebenzi), evuya impumelelo.

I-quali ikwabandakanywa ngokupheleleyo kwendoda esekhaya (oko kukuthi, iyasisusa-ilungisa-ilungisa umfazi, kuba ungumfazi, kwaye ulunge ngakumbi).

Oko kukuthi, ingxaki inokusonjululwa ecaleni kwendlu.

Indlela yesibini kukusombulula ingxaki emsebenzini. Ukuba kukho imeko entle yengqondo, ukuba wonke umntu uyayiqonda imeko, ukuba abafuni xesha lingafuni nokuzinikela 'ekuzifinyeleni', apho umfazi avela khona, kwakhona kwakhona imvakalelo yokutya.

Indlela yesithathu yokuphuma kukuqonda inyani kwaye ungafuni kuyeki. Abemihlali begada abahlali, bangazigqali umama ombi ngenxa yokuba uchithe iiyure ezimbalwa ngaphantsi komntwana kunangaphambili.

Obu bubomi - yile, ngokungakwazi ukudibanisa okungahambelani. Ewe, akunakwenzeka ukuba kwanexesha elinye nangalo msebenzi, kunye nosapho ngendlela efanayo. Ayinakwenzeka nje.

Kwaye ukuba kunjalo-akukho nto yokuba nexhala kwaye ubandezeleke. Xa kubanda ngaphandle, sinokubandezeleka, kwaye sinokufudumeza kwaye siye apho, apho sifuna khona. Ke apha. Konke okunokwenziwa kukungazenzele iintlekele kule nto yenzekayo, ukuthobeka (umntu angathi-kwintanda-bulumko) kubhekiswa kwiziva ezingeyomfuneko.

Khumbula-akufuneki ukuba ube ngumama ofanelekileyo okanye umqeshwa ofanelekileyo. Unokuba "ulungile ngokwaneleyo" kuwo omabini amatyala. Kulungile ngokwaneleyo. Ayifezekanga, hayi. Nje-kulungile kakhulu. Uxolo ngokufumana i-tautology, ngaphezulu kwanele.

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