wengqondo Belarusian Pavel Zygmantovich malunga yintoni na endithintelayo umntu abe ngutata olungileyo kubantwana bakhe noko aza angenza ntoni ukuba kuhle nguyise ukuba ngutata olungileyo.
Yintoni ofuna ukuba nguyise olungileyo? Okokuqala, kunjalo, umnqweno.
Kodwa ngomnqweno wamadoda amaninzi, u-Aya, akazeki. Ifana nale nto kukufakelwa okuthile (eziqinisekileyo, ziyizimvo ezifanayo, zizikimu zokuqonda).
Njengazo zonke iintlobo zokufakelwa, ezi zichaphazela kakubi indlela yokuziphatha. Kwaye bachaphazela, ngelishwa, hayi eyona ndlela ilungileyo.
Imigibe yokuthambisa
Umphandi waseRussia u-Abramova G. S. watyhila iziqwenga ezilishumi zezityalo ezibizwa ngokuba "yimigibe yotata."
Nye) "Tsala iNjongo elula" -Umntu ukholelwa ukuba unguyise ulula- kufuneka ukondle kwaye unxibe umntwana.
2) "Ukuhamba ubunini belungelo ' -Umntu ukholelwa ukuba umntwana makamhlonele nje enyanisweni; Kwangelo xesha linye akukho ukuqonda ukuba imbeko yomntwana iphakame ngenxa yokuziphatha kukaBawo.
3) "I-Inmonity" -Umntu ukholelwa ukuba kubalulekile ukuba athobele imigangatho ethile, ukuba uqhele kwaye ke ngoko akenzi ngokwahlukileyo kubantwana babo.
ezine) "Treyikisa ubume bamandla" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuba eyona ngxabano iphambili kwingxoxo ngamandla okanye umboniso. Endaweni yothethathethwano-ukoyikiswa.
Ntlanu) "I-Trap Age" -Umntu ugxile kwixesha lokwasemzimbeni njengeXeko yoPhuculo ("Ndisemncinci, ndifuna ukuhamba," akaqondi into kuye ");
6) "Umgibe weSipho" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuba izipho zomntwana yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokubonisa uthando lwakho; Emva kokubonisa umgama wesipho ukusuka emntwaneni.
7) "Umgibe wokuThengisa uMthengi" -Umntu ukholelwa ukuba usapho luyafuneka ukwenza indawo entle; Akathathelwa ingqalelo iimvakalelo kunye neminqweno yamanye amalungu osapho.
Sibhozo) "Umgangatho we-uperupity trap" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuba umsebenzi obalulekileyo unokuconjululwa okanye ngamandla ("kwindoda") okanye nangayiphi na indlela. Ukukhetha, umzekelo, uthethathethwano akamkelwanga (kuba 'bangamabhinqa ").
Thoba) "Trap Ixabiso lentlalontle loMgangatho" - Indoda ikholelwa ukuba umhle kuphela kuba eyindoda, ngenxa yoko akukho mfuneko yokuba enze imizamo eyongezelelweyo.
10) "Umgibe woMonakali Wabantwana" Umntu uyakholelwa ukuba umkakhe womka wakhe umkelwe ngumfazi wakhe makenziwe kuye, hayi ebantwaneni.
Ungazoyisa njani imigibe
Njengazo ezinye iinkolelo, ezi nkolelo zinokulungiswa-emva kwayo yonke loo nto, zikholwe, oko kukuthi, ezinye izimvo ezingeyondawo yokuzalwa kunye / okanye ezingatshintshiyo. Bakuba befikile, baya kuhamba.
Kuya kufuneka kuqatshelwe apha ukuba utshintsho olukwiinkolelo lubalulekile. HARD, kodwa unombulelo.
Ukuchaza indlela ukuqhutywa kweenkolelo, kufuneka ubhale incwadi yonke, ke icinezelwe kakhulu.
Okokuqala, kufuneka ufunde ukucinga kakhulu. I-Sober-Oku kuthetha ngongenelelo olufutshane lwezinto ezahlukeneyo zokugqwetha. Okokuqala, ndicebisa ukuba ndiqhelane nentetho yam "yengqondo yengqondo," apho ndicacisa ngokweenkcukacha indlela iingcinga zethu zisenza ngayo ingonwabisi kunye nendlela yokwenza ukuba indlela yakho icinge ngayo. Cofa apha.
Okwesibini, kuyimfuneko ukusebenzisa ifundwayo. Umzekelo, cinga ubone ukuba umfazi, ovela emsebenzini ngeyure kamva, akanyanzelekanga ukuba apheke isidlo sangokuhlwa konke; Kungangcono ukupheka isidlo sangokuhlwa ngokwakhe-kwaye awuyi kuhlala elambile, kwaye ubomi bakho buya kwenza lula ubomi. Kuyimfuneko ukucinga yonke imihla kwaye ujonge umhlaba ngaphandle kokugqwetha iilensi (kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kunjalo).
Ubuncinci kukhumbule-uqikelelo lwethu aluhlali lubonakale ngokuchanekileyo, rhoqo siphosakele kakhulu kwaye ngaloo ndlela sibubhekisa ubomi bakho.
Utata olungileyo
Ewe, ngokulandelelana ngooyihlo. Utata olungileyo ufuna ukuzalisekisa imisebenzi yakhe yabazali egcwele. Ukhathalela intlalontle yomntwana kuyo yonke imimandla - kwaye inomzimba (utyala), kunye nokuziphatha (fundisa, unike isifundo), i-humes, igalelo imibuzo, kubandakanya i inzima kakhulu), kwaye uqhubeke.
Akukho mntu unokuba ngutata ofanelekileyo- akunakwenzeka. Ke ngoko, akufuneki ukuba uzive uziva unetyala ngenxa yobuntu obulungileyo. Kungcono ukwenza into eluncedo kunye / okanye ochwayitile.
Utata olungileyo akalunganga. Wenza nje into enokwazi, nangakumbi. Oku kwanele ukuyibiza kakuhle. Ayifezekanga, hayi. Nje-kulungile.
Kwaye ndinayo yonke into, enkosi ngengqwalaselo yakho.
Umthombo wombhalo: I-Pavel ZygmanPich Blog