Ayiyonyani into yokuba umtshato olungileyo awuyi kubizwa. Nathi ngokwethu siyakha le meko, uyayinqula, kwaye uqala kwaye uyizise le nto. Kwaye sihlala singena kwiNgcali yomsebenzi kwindawo emi-6 emva kokuba inyanzelekile ukuba ilungiswe ...
Utsho uJohn Gottman, ingcali ekhethekileyo ekulungiseni imitshato enesiphene kunye nomsunguli weziko lonke lophando. Waphuhlisa yonke ithiyori, iminyaka engama-25 ubudala ehlola amakhulu abantu abatshatileyo. Yintoni exabisekileyo ngokwahlukeneyo - ugqirha wezengqondo ixesha elide kwaye utshatile ngovuyo utshatile. Kodwa ayikho malunga nethamsanqa! Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umanyano lwalo lwangaphambili lwaphelelwa ngumtshato - kwaye luzise amava amaninzi aluncedo. Ke i-nettman ayicebisi kakubi! Khawulezisa ifomula yakhe yomtshato owonwabileyo kunye neengcebiso, indlela yokuthumela kwicala elonwabileyo;)
1. Ubuhlobo phakathi kwe-M kunye ne-W
Ikhona, ewe. Kwaye akasiyo isithintelo, kwaye umtshato! Ngokuchasene noko, yonke into igcinwa kuyo njengamdala weminenga. Omabini amahlakani atyala imali eyinkunzi exhaphakileyo: impilo, iimvakalelo, izicwangciso, iminqweno kunye nethemba. Ukuba unomkhweli-right kuye, kodwa awukwazi ukuthutha ikwayala ngaphezulu kwento, le yintsimbi ephazamisayo. Kuba i-patch iza kwaye ihamba, kodwa inokuvuseleleka. Ukuba uyayazi indlela yokunxibelelana ngayo. Kunye nokunxibelelana nomntu ongenabuhlobo- nafig?
2. I-vacuum cleaner njenge-aphrodisiac
Indoda encedayo kwiNdlu ibangela ukuba iqabane libe nembonakalo eyomeleleyo. Konke kuba ngezinto azithandayo ngo: Planga, sithandwa. Ndiyakuthanda kakhulu oko ngenxa yakho ukuze ungenise i-batch engalinganiyo kunye nenkunkuma. Kuyaphola kunokufumana i-mammoti.
3. UKHUSELEKO LOKHUSELEKO
Kubomi bemihla ngemihla sihlala sibhenela omnye komnye. Kwaye ngeencoko ezibalulekileyo ("Khawufane ucinge, azindibhatali kakhulu!"), Kwaye kwi-trifles ("O, jonga ukuba le tika!"). Indlela eyahlukileyo inokuba yahlukile: "Ewe", "musani ukukhathaza, ndixakekile", "Ikati? Kunye "phakathi" Okanye -Ubaphendula ngokupheleleyo: ayinamsebenzi into oyithethayo, kodwa unikela ingqalelo, sisabela ngokucacileyo, "jika" kwiqabane. Okukhona inokwenzeka, kokukhona amathuba okuba aphakamise iintliziyo ezinkulu. Zonke izibini ezifundwayo ze-gottman eziguqulelwayo "zajika" kuphela kwi-intanethi kuphela ezaphuka kwiminyaka embalwa.
4. Ububele Buya kuwusindisa Umtshato
Olu asikuthambileli, hayi ukuthembeka, hayi imvakalelo. Obu buchule abukutsiba kwingqolowa kwaye ungayigqibanga ukuxoka. Iqhina likholelwa ukuba ububele ayisiyonto ingekho okanye hayi. Yintoni efana nemisipha ekufuneka iphucule. Kwaye baya kukuzisela ngexesha elinzima. Kwaye eyona mzuzu inzima yile, kunjalo, impikiswano. Ngokuqinisekileyo, wonke umntu oqwalasele ukuba ngamanye amaxesha kumzuzu onzima akhubekiwe "athwale" ukuze angakwazi ukuthoba ngokungafanelekanga, ungazivali iindlebe ukuze uxolise. Ewe, ke amandla okwenza oku akufuneki kuqeqeshelwe iikati. Oko kukuthi, kwintsapho encinci yosapho.
5. Iimpazamo kufuneka zixolele
Ukuba iqabane libe nemincili kwaye latsho ubudenge, kufuneka ndenze ntoni? Qhoboshela ipani ... Oko kukuthi, ukumazisa ukuba ukhathazekile apha- kwaye ulibale kwaye uxolele. Ngaphandle koko, ibhombu yentshukumo yentshukumo ecothayo yenziwa ngaphakathi kuwe, oyile emva komzuzu omnye entlokweni yakhe ye-ka -kueringry! Kwakhona: xole kwaye uyeke. Ukuba yayikukukhawuleza. Kwaye ungabi nangqiqo ngokungathandabuzekiyo.
6. Yisombulule akunakwenzeka ukuba yamkele
Ngoku ngokungathi ziindaba ezilusizi. Iipesenti ezingama-69 zeengxaki zosapho zinokuconjululwa ngokomgaqo. Ubuncinci, siyaphula phantsi kodonga okanye iqhekeza ngayo, okuthembekileyo - ufakelo olusisiseko aluyi kutshintsha. Kwaye ukuba bazenza ngathi batshintshwe, kuya kuba kukwenzakala ngakumbi ... okanye ukukhohlisa nje. Ngeempawu ezithile zohlobo lweetyhubhu ezingafakwanga okanye i-shopogolism ezinyanzelekileyo ziya kufuneka zithandabuze. Kulungile, okanye ibaleka kubo. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ngokucacileyo ukuba kanye kuwe.
7. Zintlanu ukuya komnye
Isibini ngasinye sinovuyo nangobubi. Ukuncoma kunye namagama. Ulonwabo kunye nengqumbo. Iinkumbulo ezimnandi kunye namathambo kwi-dando. Ke! I-chip yomtshato owonwabileyo ayisiyonto ingekho micus. Kwaye inyani yokuba zonke ii-ubis kufuneka zibe neenzuzo ezintlanu. Ngosuku olunye lokuxabana - iintsuku ezintlanu zokufumana kwakhona. Kwi-sock enye eshiyweyo-i-bouquet ye-daisies ezintlanu. Njl. Kuyathakazelisa ukuzama ukubala uvavanyo ngenxa ye! ..
I-7 gothtman soviet Umtshato
1. Ungalibali uncedo Isibini esiqhelekileyo, i-gotter, side sivakalelwe kukuba kukho into ehamba, itsala ngephulo lokungafundisi-ntsapho. Kwaye emva kwexesha kangangesithuba seminyaka emithandathu. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba uchithe ixesha kwaye ube nomsindo ngovuyo.
2. Yicoca i "Bazaar"!
Nokuba ingqondo iqabile. Yenza umgudu kwaye ungazikhumbuli izono zeminyaka esixhenxe, ungazichazanga iziphoso ezibuhlungu kwaye ungabizi amagama amabi. I-GOGGERS. Ekugqibeleni, umqamelo we-kin. Kodwa musa ukubakhubazeka.
3. Jonga eyakhayo "Mangaphi amaxesha endinixelele yona, niyakhuthaza nje" - iyasebenza ukuze igalele ingqumbo kwaye ikhuphe isitya. Kodwa hayi ukuze kufezekiswe. Unobangela wokhuselo lwezizithulu kunye nohlaselo olunetyala. Ngokuzenzekelayo nangokuzenzekelayo. "Mamela, ndifuna uncedo lwakho ..." Kodwa le, enyanisweni, isombulula ingxaki.
4. Zama ukudibana Kucacile ukuba ukuzincama, umdla wakho kunye nobomi bakho asilothando, kodwa umntu lowo. Kodwa ayizizo ezona zinto zibalulekileyo (njenge: "Uya kuchitha phi ngokuhlwa kwangoMgqibelo - kwibar okanye mama") kusafuneka enze imvumelwa. Ngamaxesha athile.
5. Musa ukoyika ukufuna intlonipho
Kungenxa engacacanga: "M-ndoda, ye-t-vaza-vaza-vazad?" Kwaye ngengqondo yokuba xa ekuzithobeni kwakho nokuzithemba yayisisiqalo, ayinakuphela kwaye ulibale. Iya kuba mbi ngakumbi. Kufuneka sivakale. Ukuba umntu akafanelekanga - uya kuthatha ingqalelo. Ukuba ungumdlwesi-moto ngokuziphatha, akukho cebiso zolondolozo lomtshato ziya kukunceda. Kwizixhobo zabo - nezandla emilenzeni.
6. Nyunya ukuya phambili kunye ne-ezimbini ngasemva Imidlalo kunye nokungqubana, ukufudukela ekukhubekiseni, ungakulibali ukwenza "ukubuyela umva." Chwetheza: "Ndiyaqonda ukuba awukhululeke kakhulu," Uxolo, ukuba kuvakala kabukhali, "Mna, mhlawumbi, unetyala apha." Obu buthathaka ubuthathaka, yingqondo yengqondo. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba iinkanuko zibaleka ukuze kungabikho msebenzi wokubuyela umva, njengokutshata, unokufumana icala elihlekisayo kunye ne-core yokukhuphela ngaphandle.
7. Kulungile- ezintlanu ngaphezulu! Lo mhlawumbi ngowona mthetho ubalulekileyo kaDotonan ethandweni kunye nobudlelwane boluntu. Jonga kumhlathi wesi-7 ukusuka kwifomula yomtshato owonwabisayo-kwaye uziseke kangakanani, umnandi, ulungile kwaye ungunaphakade. Emva koko ivolumu ye "ILanga" ngokuqinisekileyo iya kudlula ingumthamo we "lifu" amatye amahlanu. Kwaye uya konwaba!
