I-Pavel Zygmantich - "Indoda esenza nzima" - ibonisa inkqubo ecekeceke yokuguqula kubahlobo. Qiniseka ukuba ufunda nabani na onzima ukuguqukela ebantwini.
Khawufane ucinge-umhle ngomntu, umhle omnye komnye, unezihloko zencoko, ukhululekile kunye.Ungawenza njani umhlobo wayo yonke le nto (kukho umbuzo onjalo kwabanye abantu)?
Kuqala yayisesikweni
Masiqale ngento ebalulekileyo phakathi kwethu, bantu, umgaqo wokutshintshiselana ngokulinganayo kuyasasazwa. Kwenye indawo kwinzululwazi yobuchopho bethu efihla ikhawuntala ekwalela okusesikweni kwemeko. Kwakukho uphando oluninzi kwesi sihloko.
Ikhosi jikelele yophando kukuba - abantu ababini abangaqhelekanga bacebisa ukuba idlale umdlalo wezoqoqosho "ungcolile". Isiseko somdlalo silula. Imiba yomvavanyi omnye wabadlali ngenani lemali apho umdlali anokwenza ngayo yonke into ayifunayo. Mhlawumbi kuyeka wena yonke imali. Unokunika wonke umdlali wesibini. Banokwahlulahlula kuhlobo oluthile lwenani. Ayibalulekanga. Kubalulekile ukuba imali ifumane abadlali bobabini kuphela ukuba umdlali wesibini uyavumelana nolwahlulo.
Umzekelo, umvavanyi wanika ikhulu lemiqathango ukuya kumdlali wokuqala. Eso siqingatha sityhalelwe kuye kwisiqingatha secala lomdlali wesibini. Ngoku ivela kumzuzwana kuxhomekeke - nokuba bayakufumana yonke imali okanye hayi. Ukuba umdlali wesibini uyavuma, emva koko bafunyanwa. Ukuba awuvumi- umvavanyi uthatha imali.
Kwaye yile nto iyamangalisa. Ukuba umdlali wokuqala ukhokela imali 50/50, akukho ngxaki. Okwesibini kuvuma ulungelelwaniso olunjalo, kwaye wonke umntu ufumana imali. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba inqaku liphumayo, yithi, 60/40, emva koko umdlali wesibini uyala. Ewe, uyala, nangona uphulukana nemali yayo. Ngoba? Kuba ayilunganga.
Kwakhona, ngendlela, iinkawu ziziphatha-nokuba lelona nye ityeya (njenge cappuchis). Indlela yokuchazwa kwenkcazo yobulungisa ihleli kuthi ixesha ngaphambi kokuba sibe ziinqwelwana.
Wena - i, mna
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Kubudlelwane nangabalusi abasondeleyo kakhulu (kubandakanya kunye no-Buddies) ngokuqinisekileyo siya kusebenzisa ngendlela yethu yocwangco kwi-Intanethi. Sithathele ingqalelo intsebenzo nganye kwaye silinganisa esikalini-yimalini itshintshiselwano nomntu?
Apha uxelele ukuncoma, uyibhiya, yonke into iyinyani.
Uye waya kwikofu kwaye wazisa iqabane lakho ikofu, kwaye wabelana nawe ngeapile kunye ne-bims, yonke into iyinyani.
I-covaaga yacela ukuba umncedise ngentshukumo, emva koko amenywe kwindawo yokutyela kwaye enombulelo - BOMS!
Kodwa ukuba kuwo omathathu amatyala okuphendula kwakungakwazi ukudibana, indlela yobulungisa iya kunika umqondiso, kwaye wena kwinqanaba lentambo ye-spinal, glue umntu one-epithet engathandekiyo. Kwaye akusekho nobuhlobo naye.
Oku kubizwa ngokuba yithiyori yotshintshiselwano olulinganayo okanye lwentlalo) Yonke into kufuneka inyaniseke kwaye ilingane. Mna, kwaye nam.
Ngaphandle koko, indlela yethu yocwangco ekwakheniyo yoBulungisa iya kunika ialam.
Nangona kunjalo, sinokoyisa le nkqubo - kwaye apha ubuhlobo buqala.
Yenziwa njani ubuhlobo
Ukwazi konke oku kungentla, kulula ukuqondakala indlela yokuya kubuhlobo obuvela kubuhlobo.
Kuya kufuneka wenze amaxesha amaninzi ngaphezulu kunawe. Ngamaxesha anje, umntu uyaqonda - ukulungele ukubingelela ezakhe izilangazelelo zethu. Kwaye idini lezinto anomdla kuzo zolunye ubudlelwane (ukuba le ayisiyo isihlobo, kunjalo).
Umzekelo, unganceda umntu osebenza naye ngokuhamba kwaye angamkeli ububele ngendlela yendlela yokuphatha kwindawo yokutyela. Bathi, Ewe, asingabantu abasemzini omnye komnye.
Okanye awunakumamela nje umhlobo kwiingxaki zakhe, kodwa "ulungisa" kwisigqibo sawo.
Le yeyona miqondiso iphambili yotshintsho lobuhlobo kubuhlobo - umntu wabelana ngenkxalabo yakho kwanokuba ayilindelanga ukuba.
Kwakhona. Ubuhlobo luyeyona ndlela iphezulu yokuzithemba, siyakholelwa ukuba umhlobo uza kusebenza kwizilangazelelo zethu, nokuba unokubandezeleka.
Ukuba ubonakalisa ukuba yonke into injalo, emva koko kuvela ubuhlobo.
Kwimeko apho, kugxininiswa - ukwenza okungakumbi umntu kunokuba kufuneka kwenzele izihlandlo ezininzi. Ukuba imizamo emithathu okanye emine ayiniki nantoni na okanye ukuba umntu uqalisa ukuhlala entanyeni, kuthetha ukuba awufanele uchithe imizamo yakho kuyo. Ayizange ithathe.
Kwaye, ndiphawula ukuba phantsi "kwenze" akuyiqondi nje uncedo okanye into kulo moya. Ndiphulaphule apha, kwaye ndithathe inxaxheba ngokweemvakalelo njalo njalo.
Ke, ubuhlobo buvela apho abantu bayayeka ukubala ukulingana kwemirhumo kulwalamano. Ukuba ufuna ukukhawulezisa ubuhlobo bokukhubekisa, inkunkuma (ubuncinci kwi-oda yovavanyo) kubalo olunje kwaye wenza izihlandlo ezininzi kwaye wenze amaxesha amaninzi kunawe. Ubukhulu becala, uya kuya kubuhlobo obuvela kubuhlobo.
Kwaye ndinayo yonke into, enkosi ngengqwalaselo yakho.