Bazali baseRussia boyika. Kwakukho iingxelo ezimbalwa kumaqhinga ee-pedophiles kwinethiwekhi zentlalo-ngoku baya kuthatha abantwana ngokuzibulala! Abanye bayagxeka ukuba ngubani obekek 'ityala, akwenze oko.
I-hysteria efanayo ka-2007, xa lonke ilizwe lonke lixoxa ngokuzibulala kwaye libeka ityala lokugxeka i-emo kwaye ilungele, ibonisa ukuba kumnqweno wokukhusela abantwana, abazali bafikelela kubudlelwane kunye nabo. I-pain ngumcebisi ombi.Kodwa nyani kufuneka uhlale kwaye ujongeke, ulinde ikamva, elithi, mhlawumbi, liya kuba yinto engeyiyo imbonakalo yosapho lwakho?
Kutheni becinga ngokufa?
Bonke abantwana - kwaye nabo bonke abantu abadala - ngamanye amaxesha obomi bacinga ngokufa, kuba umntu, ngokungafaniyo noGuinea pig, kufuneka aphile ngolwazi oluchanileyo. Mhlawumbi ngumbuzo ochaphazelekayo - kutheni becinga ngokufa kwabo?
Iwaka lezizathu eziliwaka. I-Tragic-umzekelo, udlwengulo ngabalingane ofunda nabo okanye isalamane, ekungekho mandla okuvuma - kubonakala ngathi uya kohlwaywa, okanye ukhulelwe. I-Psychophysiologisologicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogicalogical-I-Neurosis kunye nokudakumba. Abo babonakala ngathi, ngakumbi iposti yeposi, ithemba okanye "ithemba okanye" ithemba "lokwazisa kubazali
Phantse wonke umzali, evale ngezizathu, amabango ukuba wayeya kuqaphela. Kodwa akunjalo. Ngokwenyani, siyeke ukuqaphela abantwana bethu ukususela kwalo mzuzu xa bekwazi ukuhamba ngaphezulu okanye kancinci ngokukhuselekileyo ukuze bajikeleze indlu okanye esikolweni. Iingcali zengqondo kwilizwi elinye: Asithethi nabantwana bethu. Sibanika umthetho womyalelo wokuyalela okanye, bakhumbula ukuba kufuneka ungene ekuthembeni, sizama ukuba sithembele ngaphandle kwesepha, ukuqalisa "ukuncinwa" ngokungagungqiyo.
Kwaye oku akuthethi ukuba singabazali ababi. Kodwa kuba abantwana bethu kuyingozi.
Kutheni becinga ngokufa kwabo xa yonke into ilungelwe?
Amaxesha amaninzi aphindaphindwayo kwimithombo yeendaba, engazibulala 'ngaphandle kwale ", akukho nto ifanekisiweyo." Kwenzeka - ababonanga, abazange banikele ingqalelo. Kwaye ukanti bayazibulala kuphela abakwishumi elivisayo kuphela abaye bahlaselwa yidlwengulo, ixesha elide, uthando lwexesha elide, uthando olungonwabisiyo, lwalungakwazi ukujamelana neemviwo okanye lufumanise ukuba bakhulelwe.
I-Psychologists bathi: Ukuze umntwana adlale ekufeni (kwaye amaninzi, eninzi, inzala kwisihloko sokufa yidlala ubukhulu becala), ngenene ufuna ii-ankile ezintathu. oontanga Abantu abaya yamkelwe yaye lowo ngokwakhe ilungele into ngokuphathelele (nokuba yinto ezimbalwa Nerds upheka, kungekhona iklasi okanye iqela lebhola). Unxibelelwano oluhle nabazali-ukuthembana kunye nobudlelwane obusondeleyo. Inene, kwaye ayisiyomidlalo yabantu abadala ezama ukuba ngoomama abalungileyo kunye ne-dips, njengeemovie. Kunye nokukwazi ukwenza izenzo eziguqukayo, zilungile apho, njengomntu osebenzayo oqinisekileyo-nokuba ngumsebenzi wexeshana okhethiweyo- nokuba ngumsebenzi wexeshana okhethiweyo-nokuba yinto ekhethiweyo yokuchitha imali ngokokubona kwakho okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, into eyonakalisayo , kubonakala ngathi iwile ingca kunye nokutshutshiswa kweebhentshi eziyadi.
Okumangalisayo (kubantu abadala) ngamanye amaxesha ukuzibulala kuthathwe njengokuphela kwenzame, ubuncinci beyokuchaphazela uxolo kunye nobudlelwane nabanye (kuya kuphela nethuba elifanelekileyo lokulawula ikamva lakho. Iisetshi zihlupheke kakhulu - ukubonisa i-barna ukuba abazenzeli ngokupheleleyo, njengoko ethanda ukucinga. Thelekisa kakhulu? Hayi kumntwana ophantsi kwe-hyperopica.
Yintoni engenakwenzeka ukuthintela ukuzibulala
Inkolo. Ukuba umntwana uthe wakhangela ngokomoya kwaye akakulungelanga ukuyikhangela kwiincwadi ezingcwele, iyakuthatha ukulibazisa kubomi bonqulo njengoxinzelelo, uyayazi loo nto kwigama elithi "uxinzelelo" Ingcambu iguqulwe nje "njengengcinezelo"?
Iingxoxo zemiphefumlo. Akunakwenzeka ukuba ulungiselele incoko enjalo hayi ngokuzenzekelayo, ngakumbi ukuba ibingafumaneki phakathi kwakho. Yintoni eza kuzanywa ukuthenga, umntwana okwishumi elivisayo uya kugqiba ukuba ihlehlisi ngokuzithemba. Ngaba uziva umahluko?
Ukuvalwa kwenethiwekhi yentlalo. Enye yee-ankile ezintathu - oontanga, sikhumbula. Ngoku olo nxibelelwano lubalulekileyo lwenzeka nge-Intanethi. Yiyo indlela esiphambi kwethu, izalamane ezimbi, bezixhonywe kwiifowuni, zisombulula umsebenzi wakhe wesikolo kunye. Enye nje isixhobo sonxibelelwano esisetyenziswayo. Ewe, ayingabo bonke oontanga, apho umntwana okwishumi elivisayo etsalela ukunxibelelana ngokulinganayo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha baxoxa ngokuzibulala. Kodwa ubukho babo bubalulekile, kwaye ingongoma. Ukongezwa kwethuba lokuhamba kwi-intanethi kwaye unxibelelane apho kunokwenza umntwana wanamhlanje ukuphelelwa lithemba. Ibaluleke kakhulu. Kodwa iingxoxo eziphantse zibe ngama-100% amatyala anelisa ngokupheleleyo umntwana okwishumi elivisayo.
Faka imifanekiso eyoyikisayo. Iminenga, iibhabhathane, iiSutha, amangcwaba ... Ukuba umntwana wakho okwishumi elivisayo, i-hysteria elandelayo yabazali kwisihloko sokuzibulala, uziva mnandi, indlela yokuziphatha ebukeka ngayo. Ngokungathi abantu abadala babhengeza imfazwe yemfazwe.
Vala i-Flonomini iingoma kunye neemovie. Ngesizathu esinye. Ngapha koko, ulwazi lokufa ngokusebenzisa ubugcisa lubaluleke kakhulu ukuba lube yingcali yabantu abasempilweni. Yayihlala injalo. Naxa kwakubonakala ngathi akukho - khumbula i-necrounticism yeengoma malunga ne-shorner kunye neefilimu ngamagorha emfazwe. Kubantu abakwishumi elivisayo, bathanda kakhulu kwaye bekhathazekile.
Izangqa kunye nokufunda. I-Superframe evela kumaxesha eBrezhnev ithathwa njengesixhobo esihle ngokuchasene nolutsha "Durili." Ngapha koko, inika ukudinwa okuqhubekayo, i-neurosis, uxinzelelo kwaye ayishiyi xesha lolwazi ngokwabo, uxolo kunye nolwalamano loluntu. Umntwana akanaxesha lokufumanisa ukuba yintoni ayithandayo kwaye angathanda ukuba. Akukho xesha lokuqonda ubunzima bonxibelelwano, zenziwa lula kwi-kindergarten. Kwaye akukho xesha lokuphumla, kwaye ukuphumla kubalulekile.
Yintoni enika ithuba lokuthintela ukuzibulala
Abahlobo ngomdla. Banokufumaneka kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo ... okanye kwiphulo, okanye ekufuneni indima / i-fuct yeSixeko, okanye kwikonsathi yomculo kwindawo evulekileyo. Hayi nje oontanga abanyanzelekileyo ukuba banxibelelanise abantu abadala- kwaye abo babelana ngexabiso leKatu kwaye baqala ukuthatha umdla omtsha.
Incoko. Akukho mpawu kunye nokusondelelana ngaphandle kwesidingo. Yenza amabinzana malunga nefilimu, ejongene kunye okanye eyahlukileyo. Kufumaneni ukuba into oyithandayo yomntwana ibangela umdla, kwaye yanelise -, umzekelo, kutheni iidosi eziqokelelwa yintombazana okanye zenza, akukho mpumlo. Xelela umdla kwaye ayililo ibali elivela ebomini, nto leyo echaza iziganeko ezichaphazelekayo kumntwana ... Kuyinyani, ukuba uqinisekile ukuba awubizwa ngokuba "udinisa" ngamehlo akho. Emva koko kunye ne-anecdotes zisebenza kakhulu. Eyona nto iphambili kukufumana ixesha lencoko encinci hayi malunga nezinto kwaye uqikelela yonke imihla.
Izithethe ezidibeneyo. Into oyenzayo kunye veki nganye. Bukela imovie ngeMigqibelo. Isidlo sakusasa kwitafile enye ntsasa nganye. Hamba nge-skis okanye i-scooter ngeCawa. Amanqaku ereferensi, phakathi kokuba umntwana okwishumi elivisayo akhululekile ukwakha ixesha lasimahla, njengoko ethanda. QAPHELA, OKWENZELWEYO, ngoko, kungenjalo izithethe zingabi ngaphezu kwesixhobo soxinzelelo olulandelayo.
Inkxaso yezempilo. Ukuphepha i-hypovitaminosis, ukusebenza kakhulu, ukungalali, ukungabikho kweoksijini kunye nentshukumo. Kuyinyani, kumzabalazo wezempilo kunzima ukuba ungakukhweli kwi-hyperagalirhar ... kodwa kufanelekile ukuzama.
Umngcipheko we-dosage. Akumangalisi ukuba inguqu evela kubantwana ibe ngabantu abakwishumi elivisayo bazo zonke iinkcubeko zehlabathi badlula kwiimvavanyo ezigwenxa ngamanye amaxesha. Umphefumlo awufuni kwanto yokwenza nantoni na. Zama ukutyhala ishumi elinanye kumngcipheko onjalo. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba umsebenzi ophakamayo awunasicwangciso okanye akukho semthethweni. Uninzi lwenza ii-hikes ngemiqobo ezayo. I-Urband Gublets inokunika ne-dose yokufowuna oyifunayo.
Sebenza. Ukuba umntwana okwishumi elivisayo uyafuna ukuzama ngokwakhe kwaye yenzele yona. Ngoku akukho lula kakhulu ukuyifumana incinci, kodwa izama ukuzama. Unokucela nokunceda emsebenzini wakho, ukuba uyakwishumi elivisayo egxalabeni kwaye kwangaxeshanye unike ucelomngeni kubukrelekrele.
Ukudluliselwa koxanduva. Ayigqibi. Makhe, umzekelo, umntu okwishumi elivisayo ukuza kuthi ga ngoku ukhethe ukuba usapho lonke lutya ngoMgqibelo kwisidlo sangokuhlwa-kunye nezithintelo ezithile kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali, kunjalo.
Ukufikelela "kwiintloni". Akukho tekreerer ilungele ukuthetha noMama malunga nokukhusela, ukhuseleko lwezinto zobugcisa zesondo okanye ubuchwephesha bezilwanyana. Kodwa phantse wonke umntu unokuthunyelwa kwincwadi yenqaku eliqinileyo, nokuba akazange aqatshelwe.
Bhanyabhanya malunga neengxaki. Malunga ne-pedophiles, ngaphandle, ukuba nabanye abantwana nge-psycchopapathis, ukukhulelwa kolutsha, ukucinezelwa ngabantu abadala, izifo ezoyikisayo, amahlelo atshabalalisayo. Kuvakala kubi, kodwa kukho inani elikhulu lokupeyinta ezityhila iingxaki kakhulu, zinomdla kwaye zintle. Siphinde senze ukhetho olufanayo.
Uthando. Phantse bonke abazali bathanda abantwana babo. Kwanabo babebantwana babo baye kuzibulala. Inyani yile yokuba omnye umntu akanako ukujonga engqondweni yakho, nokuba yintombazana yakho okanye unyana wakho. Ukuba awuqinisekisi ngokuvakalayo ukuba nayo nayiphi na ingxaki enkulu oya kuyixhasa, kodwa ungakuniki into ebalulekileyo nomntwana wakho obalulekileyo, ukuba uyakuyamkela into engaqhelekanga, umntwana Kuya kufuneka ukuba acinge ngesimo sakho sengqondo malunga nayo kwinto yokuba kuyavakala. Kwaye ukuba inyameko kuphela kunye nezisongelo ...
Ungaqonda njani ukuba umntwana wakho unokukuzibulala?
I-Intanethi ihambelana kakhulu nolwazi oluthembekileyo: Ukusika izandla, izihlalo zobusuku kwi-Intanethi ... Ngapha koko, uninzi lolutsha ngezi zimpawu azizibulala. Kwaye uninzi lokuzibulala umntu ofikisayo alubonisi imiqondiso enjalo.
Kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa imeko inokukhokelela ekuzibulaleni. Ngethamsanqa, kwaye olu lwazi luyi ngokupheleleyo kwi-Intanethi.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho akakhathazeki ngenxa yokuhlukumeza okanye oontanga beemfuyo.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho akaziphathi ngokungathi udlwengulwe okanye ubonakale kubundlobongela obuphathelele kwezesondo ngoku.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho akakhathali ngotitshala odabisayo.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho akakho kwimeko yoxinzelelo lweklinikhi okanye kwi-verge yoqhawulo-mtshato olwenziweyo ukusuka ekuhambeni nasekuqinisekisweni.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho akakhathazeki ngogonyamelo ngokweemvakalelo, uxinzelelo, amahhala amahlelo kumalungu osapho, kuquka nawe.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana wakho uneminqweno yakho eqhubekayo, ngaphandle kwembonakalo ye-goldry-umzekelo, ukujonga i-anime okanye i-roller snating.
- Qinisekisa ukuba umntwana akanahlelo kwihlelo elitshabalalisayo.
Ukuba umntwana ukwenye yeemeko eziyingozi, ukwamkelwa kwamanyathelo. Bafanele bathathwe, nokuba bekungakoyiki ukuzibulala.