Ugqirha wezengqondo ye-Peschologizy Zygggmanvich uphendula olona mbandela uphantsi kobomi, indalo yonke kwezi: "Aphi amadoda okwenyani anyangwa phi?"
Amadoda aqhelekileyo aguqulelwe njengohlobo? Abafazi abaninzi bayavuma. Kwaye ndide ndicinge ukuba kumaxesha onke yonke into yayilumkile ngakumbi. Kwaye ndiyakhumbula "iMoscow ayikholelwa ukuba inyembezi", apho i-catherine (iqhawe lesilumkiso) likhalaza ngokufanayo. Ngo-1981, ngendlela. Ngo-1981! I-cramolt icinge ukuba idlwengulo - mhlawumbi ayikho kumadoda?Ndinomdla wokuphikisana ukuba lo mbuzo ngokwawo unempazamo. Amadoda okwenyani akahambi ndawo (apho ukuya khona, ukuba ayingomlinganiso ochanekileyo onophawu olukhoyo, kodwa lubalulekile?). Ingxaki ayisiyonto ingaqhelekanga yenzeka amadoda.
Ingxaki kukuba abafazi abaninzi bavavanya ukungangqinelani.
Hayi indlela ekujonga ngayo ukuziqhelanisa. Ibhinqa ligxile kwiseti encinci, ethandekayo kakhulu yeempawu ezitsala umdla wakhe. Ukuba indoda inika le nkonzo, iyakuthanda. Ayivelisi, sukungafani (madoda, ngendlela, iphosakele ngokuchanekileyo, kodwa apha "igcina" ifuna ukuba "zifune" ezifunwayo kunyulo).
Oku, ngandleleni, kukuziphatha ngendlela efanelekileyo - yenzeka njani enye enyuliweyo yakho phakathi kwesihlwele? Sijonga iqabane elinokubakho kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, sihambelana nendlela ehlala kwenye indawo entlokweni yam, kwaye sinokusinyamezela isigwebo - kufanelekile.
Nangona kunjalo, kukho amaqhinga- akusoloko eyindoda inokukunika le seti.
Ubumfama bokwexeshana
Nanku umzekelo. Amadoda amabini afanelekile ukudibana. Omnye uziphatha ngokulula kwaye ulunge kakhulu - ukumodareyitha inkcaso, ngononophelo ngokulinganayo, ukuqhubeka ngokungxama, ukhula. Kwaye okwesibini kuthetha ukuba i-nefle, i-MUMALT, ayinakho ukuyixhasa incoko.
Nguwuphi umntu oza kuyithanda? Eyokuqala, kunjalo.
Nguwuphi kubo oya kuba liqabane elifanelekileyo? Umbuzo omkhulu.
Eyokuqala uqhelene ngokugqibeleleyo, kodwa oko kuthetha ukuba uya kuba ngumyeni olungileyo? Hayi, akuthethi. Oku kuthetha ukuba uqhelene kakuhle kwaye kuphela. Ewe, kusenokuthetha ukuba wayeneminyaka elishumi elinesihlanu lamawaka anjalo ethandazani, le nzala, eyishumi elinesihlanu lamawaka amawaka, engayi ngaphezulu kweentaba amawaka amahlanu amawaka.
Indoda yesibini ilibi, ngokuba ingenamava. Waqhele amaxesha alishumi kwaye kube kanye. Ngaba oku kuthetha ukuba umntu wesibini uza kuba ngumyeni obi? Hayi, akuthethi. Oku kuthetha ukuba unamava amancinci ngokuthandana. Mhlawumbi (mhlawumbi!), Ngumntu wesibini onokuba liqabane elifanelekileyo. Kodwa umfazi wakhe - akasayi kuqaphela.
Omnye umzekelo. Yithi, ipati ezukisa usuku lokuzalwa. Intombazana iza kwintombazana yakhe, kukho abantu ababini. Ngaphandle nangaphezulu okanye incinci entle, kodwa enye iqhwa iqhwa kwaye ihleli ngokuthe cwaka kwikona, kwaye okwesibini ngumphefumlo wenkampani. Eyokuqala Kulangokuhlwa iphela kuphela xa ndizama ukuthetha le ntombazana, kwaye yaphuma iCoryavo, yesibini yafikelelwa ngenjongo kwaye ayihambi. Umbuzo ngowuphi kubo oya kuba ngoyena myeni ulungileyo?
Kwakhona-akukho ziqinisekiso zokuba okwesibini ziya kuba yeyona ndoda ibalaseleyo. Ngapha koko, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba owesibini yitanki enjalo. Mhlawumbi yonke loo nto kukuba wayesazi phantse wonke umntu kule nkampani, kwaye umchasi - wayengazi mntu, ngaphandle kwenkosikazi yangokuhlwa. Ke ngoko, owesibini ubungabonakali, kwaye okokuqala wagcinwa emthunzini.
Kodwa uninzi lwabasetyhini luya kubonakala ngathi okwesibini lupholile, kwaye owokuqala akakho. Kwaye abayi kuqaphela kwaza kwanamhlanje. Kwaye ke, xa okwesibini bonwabile, kodwa, masithi, idubulo, bayakhalaza ukuba akukho bantu baqhelekileyo.
Ngapha koko, zinjalo. Abanye nje abafazi abababoni.
Imfihlo oyintloko
Abantu abaninzi (abangengabantu kuphela, kodwa namadoda) andazi into ephambili - ezona zinto zibalulekileyo zokwazi kakuhle kulwalamano lusondele. Xa abantu basebenza kunye okanye abahlala kufutshane, okanye abandakanyeke kwizifundo photography, amathuba ukuba baza kudibana kwaye baya ukwakha ubuhlobo, kakhulu ngaphezu kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko.
Kutheni kunjalo? Kungenxa yokuba ngexesha lokudibana kuhlala kwintsimi enye kukho ixesha lokujonga omnye komnye. Ngeli xesha, abantu bazifumana kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo kwaye sele zibonakala ngcono, ngubani ofanelekileyo. Kukho iimeko ezincinci ezichazwe apha ngasentla.
Ngenxa yoko, ukhetho lulumkile ngakumbi. Ke ngoko, ndincoma ngamandla ukukhangela amadoda akhonkontikayo, kodwa iindawo apho abafazi namadoda bahlangana khona nakweyiphi na imisebenzi.
Shwankathela. Into endifuna ukuyithetha: Omncinci othandekayo, ukuba ukhalaza ngokungabikho kwamadoda ebomini bakho, jonga-indlela onyula ngayo? Kwaye-ukuba unakho - makwenze ithuba lala madoda lakwakhe lathandana nawe.
Zijonge - ukuthula kwamadoda, ubunzima bokuzonwabisa, ukungakwazi ukonwabisa ngengxoxo yehlabathi akuthethi ukuba yeyiphi indoda. Amadoda amaninzi anengqondo akayazi indlela yokukhathalela - ichaphazela ukungabikho kwamava kunye ne-tididity ngaphambi kokwala ukwala ibhinqa. Kodwa inika ithuba kwindoda enjalo, unokuphila ngokukhululekileyo kunye naye.
Kwaye ndinayo yonke into, enkosi ngengqwalaselo yakho.