Siyaqhubeka nokukrabela ngenkangeleko yendoda yengqondo kubudlelwane, umtshato kunye nosapho. Ngeli xesha i-hlevel zygmantantich ithetha malunga nento ethethwa ngabantu kwisangqa sabo malunga nabafazi ababuthathaka.
Ngaba umfazi ufanele abe buthathaka? Akunjalongo noko. Umfazi obuthathaka yeyona nto imbi kakhulu enokwenzeka kwindoda.
Ngoku ekubeni isihloko sentloko sentreyithi sixhaswa yi-hiki (kwaye ke, ingqwalaselo inomtsalane), kunokwenzeka ukuba ucothe ukuqina kwengqondo kunye nokuthetha ngokuzolileyo.
Masiqhubeke.
Ndijikeleze ngakumbi nangakumbi kwaye nditsho ngakumbi ukuba umfazi uchanekile (ewe, ewe, kulungile) ukuba buthathaka. Ngapha koko, ukuba ithanda indoda engakumbi, kwaye ngenxa yoko inethuba elikhulu lokufumana umyeni. Ewe, hayi ingu-bebi, kodwa kulungile.
Mna, le thesis ichanekile kancinci (ndiyibeka ngononophelo). Okokuqala, isibakala sokuba akukho nkcazo icacileyo yobuthathaka kuyo. Ewe, ngokulinganayo akukho mveliso icacileyo yamandla. Kwaye kubalulekile. Ukusuka koku kwaye uqale.
Ndicebisa ukubala ngale ndlela-umntu onamandla, lo ngumntu onokuthi acombulule imibuzo ebusayo ebomini bakhe. Kuyimfuneko kuye - iya kwi-HSP kwaye ivumelane neplumberhir; Kufuneka ibe - Fumana imali; Kuyimfuneko - kuya kufumana kunokuthatha ngokuhlwa kwangoMgqibelo; Imelwe kukuba - ithi "hayi". Kwaye ukuba ayisebenzi kwangeyokuqala - yathi qalelo.
Indoda ebuthathaka-ngokuchasene noko. Kuyimfuneko ukuya kwi-HSP, kodwa "ndiyoyika." Sifuna imoto (kulungile, kulungile, ndiyafuna), kodwa "bayabiza." Kuyimfuneko ukuba bathathe ngokuhlwa, kodwa "andazi ukuba mandenze ntoni." Kuyimfuneko ukwala, kodwa - "akuphumelela". Kwaye njalo, kumgca ofanayo.
Ngokucacileyo, umntu onamandla ngumntu, okokuqala, ozimeleyo. Kwaye umntu obuthathaka ngumntu ongazimeleyo, ongazixhasi ngomntu - uwa.
Oko kukuthi, ukuba umntu obhinqileyo unikwa ubuthathaka, ucetyiswe ukuba ngabakhubazekileyo, angazinzanga kwaye uxhomekeke kwindoda. Ngokoluvo lwam, kuyingozi ikakhulu ukuba umfazi uqobo.
Umzekelo, waphulaphula uqeqesho. Yaba nguHarsson. Ndadibana nendoda ndaza ndatshata naye. Ke, Awu, andizange ndisebenze - ndiqhawule umtshato. Kulungile? Uza kuhamba phi? Kuya kwenzeka ntoni? Ziza kubonelela njani? Indoda endala ikumntu omdala ukuba azinikele ngokuzimeleyo, ayinamsebenzi-yindoda okanye umfazi.
Kwaye ababuthathaka ukuzinikela. Inokunkqonkqoza ngesandla ngandlela-thile okanye ngenye indlela. Kwaye yomelele emva kwexesha elithile iqala ukwazisa.
Ndikhokelela kuqeqesho oluninzi kumadoda, kwaye ndivuyisana ne-y-chromosome ndindixelela izinto ezininzi. Baxelelwa ngokungagungqiyo- koqeqesho lwethu lwamadoda akwenzekanga, unokuthetha.
Ke - amadoda ahlangabezana, ayephila okanye ngoku ahlala nabafazi obuthathaka, akonwabanga nabafazi.
Yonke into ilula - indoda ecaleni kwebhinqa elihlala lude nobomi obuziisiqingatha. Yena - kunye naye. Umzekelo, kuthatha isondlo hayi kuphela imoto yakho, kodwa nayo. Kukho isatifikethi esisemthethweni kwigosa kungekuphela nje ngokwam, kodwa nayo.
Kwaye yonke into ihambe kakuhle, ukuba ibingamaxesha ngamaxesha, ukuphela, ukuze ube ngumtshato wokuncedana, kubandakanya neminye. Kodwa ngenxa yokuba kuchazwekwenzekanga ngamaxesha ngamaxesha, kodwa rhoqo!
Ngenxa yoko, indoda inyula okanye icombulula imicimbi elandelayo yomfazi okanye, umzekelo, umsebenzi. Kucacile ukuba abaninzi bakhetha isisombululo semibuzo elandelayo yomfazi obuthathaka (zama ukungakhethi-uya kukwenza ube yingqondo, andulukele kunyaka omtsha).
Kwaye ifana. Nokuba ungamnceda njani umfazi wakho, ungaze. Umntu ungumntu - uzisombulula zonke iingxaki. Umbuzo kukuba ukunceda umntu ahlawule ebomini bakhe.
Kude kube kwinqanaba elithile, eli xabiso lilungile- nawuphi na umtshato ufanele umtshato ufuna ukwala okuthile kwenkululeko ephambili kunye nenkululeko, kubomi bakhe. Ke ngoko, ayiveli phambi kwenqanaba elithile leengxaki. Kodwa nantsi ephezulu kuneli nqanaba ...
Nangona kunjalo, ngokwaneleyo. NdikokweSihlandlo sesithathu ndiza kuphinda ingcinga yokuba uncedo olubi ngokwalo olo, kodwa inyani yokuba lo mfazi uyala inkululeko. Bonke abo babona okokuqala kabini, bonke bayayiqonda yonke into. Ukuphumla ... kuyakuqaphela inethiwekhi kwaye kuya kukuphayisela ukuba nditshutshise, ndenze intengiso yesipho.
Ke-malunga nabafazi buthathaka. Indoda, enyanisweni, ifuna umfazi owomeleleyo onokuba kufutshane nomzuzu onzima.
Nantsi imeko yekhaya elilula - indoda yagula. Hayi umkhuhlane apho, okanye ubanda. Kwaye bagula kakhulu, sisiqingatha sonyaka. Umfazi obuthathaka uya kukhokela njani ecaleni kwakhe, ngubani kuphela ohlala kwiVkontangakte? Ngokuchanekileyo ...
Kwaye eyomeleleyo iya kunceda, inkxaso kwaye umntu uya kuphinda abe ziinyawo zakhe ezinyaweni zakhe.
Kungenxa yoko le nto amadoda ewathanda abafazi abanamandla. Nabo, amandla abantu ayanda, enze okungaphezulu nabo. Ekugqibeleni, kunye nabo kukho into yokuthetha - ukuba ixabiseke ngokwayo.
Ndiqaphele iminyaka eliqela - amadoda aneminyaka yobudala "amashumi amathathu" anomdla kakhulu kubafundi ababhinqileyo. Ke amadoda anomdla kubafazi beminyaka yabo. Yeyona nto yayiqukayo - ngomsebenzi, jonga umhlaba, ingqondo elungileyo kunye namava afanelekileyo.
Kutheni kunjalo? Kuba indoda kunye nebhinqa yimibutho yemvelo. Kwaye ubudlelwane emtshatweni, njengoko bendibhale kaninzi, obu bubudlelwane bamanye amazwe.
Kwaye kwisibini "Indoda eyomeleleyo - umfazi obuthathaka" akukho manyano. Kukho kuphela ubuhlobo "kuphela olwamkelayo" (njengakwisibini "umfazi owomeleleyo yindoda ebuthathaka"). Olo lwalamano luyingenelo kuphela kwesandla esinye, kwaye nokuba ayide. Nanga amadoda kwaye akafuni kuchitha ixesha ngolwalamano olugqithisileyo.
Umntu uya kufuna ukuphikisana, bathi, Madoda bayoyika abafazi abanamandla. Oku akuyonyaniso. Amadoda akabathandi abafazi abanamandla (kanye njengabafazi abathandi amadoda ngamandla).
Kanye kwintetho yemihla ngemihla yombono "womelele" kunye "nokubalisa" (kunye "nokuthobeka" kunye "nokuthobeka") kwaye azizizo zonke ezona ndawo. Kwaye kuluncedo ukwahlula.