Umbhali wethu, uElla Derzay, ubonakalisa umzali wefashoni i-TETree - Ukujonga izizathu zengxaki yakhe kwiintsilelo zabazali babo kwaye ulinde uloyiko: Siza kujamelana nabantwana bakho?
Ndidla ngokucinga ngento yokuba eyona nto iphambili, kodwa ilungisa ngokupheleleyo umsebenzi wabazali bale mihla - ukukhula abantwana bakho hayi ukunganeli.
Kutheni ungamqondisi? Ewe uya kubona ngeenxa zonke! Anditsho ukuba sonke sonke sine-neurotic ngokupheleleyo, kwaye abantu abasempilweni kufuneka bafune ukusebenzisa izixhobo ezizodwa. Kwaye malunga nokuba bangaphi abantu abadala kwihlabathi eligxeka abazali kuyo yonke into. Umntu okwi-pseudycloology yesigama, kunye nomntu olula.
-Ndaba nomama obandayo, kuba andazi ukuba ukwahlula njani le mvakalelo kubuqili kwaye ndinexhala kakhulu.
"Kwaye abazali bam bandithanda, kwaye ngoku le yinto ebaluleke kancina, kwaye ke kunzima kakhulu kum ukuba ndidibane nabantu, kubonakala ngathi ayinzima.
-Ndihlala kwintsapho yokungasebenzi kakuhle, andikholelwa ukuba kwenzeke ngenye indlela, kwaye ke ngoku yingcuka enye.
-Ndihlala kwintsapho entle, ndaye ndatshata. Bendingazi ukuba kwenzeka ntoni. Kodwa phuma. Kwaye ke ngoku ndiyingcuka yedwa.
-Umama wam wambeka nodade wengubo, kwaye ndandihlala ndifuna isiTshayina kwivenkile.
-Ndiye ndaya kwi-chinese ye-chinese ye-chinese njenge-incubator.
-Utata wam wasela, kuba ndilinxila.
-Kwintsapho yam, utywala wawuphulukene nomthetho, kuba andizange ndilungiselele impembelelo yofeyisileyo emntwini. Kwaye ke ndilinxila.
-Umama wathi ndimhle, kodwa ndakhulela ndaqonda ndaqonda: wayevuthuzwa. Ngapha koko, ndingumkhulu. Ungaphila njani ngobuxoki lomntu osondeleyo?
-Umama wathi ndingumkhulu, kwaye ngoku ndiyazi ukuba ayinjalo. Kodwa izintso zihleli!
- Kwaye abazali bam baxokisa ngayo yonke into! Nokuba malunga neSanta Claus. Kwaye ndaba nakuthi, abantu bandilahlekisa ngokulula.
Ndandihlala ndifundisa inyaniso, kwaye ke kulula ukundikhohlisa, kwaye abantu abaninzi bandigqala kuHam.
Nokuba kwiingxaki zethu zesondo, kuphela abanetyala! Olu luhlobo lwabo lobuqili kunye nokuziphatha okungalunganga kwenza esinye kuthi ngabalandeli bokwabelana ngesondo ngomlomo, kunye nabanye abalandeli bephonografi. Kunye nesithathu - nakwiindawo ezinqabileyo. I-Cheats!
Hayi, andifuni ukuthi kuyo yonke le nto akukho nkozo lengqondo. Ihlala ibaluleke kakhulu. Abanye bethu yayiyiSacchadia esihogweni kwindima yabazali. Kodwa yonke into eyenzekayo, nangona kunjalo, ekufundeni iincwadi kunye neebhloko kwi-psychology ye-psychology, azifumana ukubandezeleka kwabo. Nabani na, ukusuka kwi-acne kwimpumlo ukuya kuqhawula umtshato okanye ukugxothwa emsebenzini.
Kwaye kumfanekiso onjalo wehlabathi, ulwazi oluyimfihlo luyabonakala: abazali nakweliphi na imeko baya kubeka abantwana babo.
Nokuba loluphi uhlobo lwenkqubo yemfundo esiwaphethe ngayo. Siya kuyonakalisa yonke into. Kwaye kakhulu, zinike i-neurosis encinci ye-nexpresis. Ukuzithemba okuphezulu okanye uloyiko olubi kakhulu ukukhulisa abantwana babo.
Okulusizi kwaye yinto yokuba emehlweni yabantwana bethu abakhulileyo, uninzi kakhulu abantu ababi. Kuba bengathandi. EDEDDY. Ayinangxaki. Bayangcikiva, bafuna kakhulu. Okanye, ngokuchasene noko: izikhukula, zinike kakhulu, iindiza, ziphangiwe.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukufumana ibhalansi? Ewe, ezinye ziyaphumelela. Rhoqo-ngethuba kunoko. Kuba akukho kupheka okusebenzayo. Yintoni eyenzeka ngokugqibeleleyo kwenye, ihla kangaka ukusuka kwelinye, nokuba iyakwenza okufanayo.
Injani indlela yokuphuma? Yintoni ekufuneka uyenzile ukuba iitemplate ezichanekileyo azikho? Ndinokhetho olunye kuphela: Yekani ukukhathazeka. Yekani ukukhula i-neurosis enye, sinezinto ezininzi ezinombulelo kubazali babo. Phola. Zama ukungacingi ngendlela esiya kuyitshintshe ngayo ubomi ebantwaneni, kodwa sizame nje ukuba uphile iminyaka yakhe kunye nabo, esenza ukuba kubekho mnandi kubo bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kwinkqubo. Ukulahla imbono yokuziva unetyala nezityholo-kwaye ngokwakhe, kwaye ubhekise kubazali babo. Nje ukuba sonke silingane ne-Oyosyachim, ubuncinci, yenze ngovuyo. Asiyi koyika ukungathandi okanye ukuphelisa, ukukhuthaza ukufakelwa okukhethekileyo, ukunyanzelisa kumbuzo wakho kwaye kuze uzame ukuthenga i-sneakers okanye i-iPhone entsha.
Kwaye masikholelwe ukuba yonke into izakulunga.