Kuyintloni xa abazali beza nathi ngokungafanelekanga. Enye indlela, xa bekhanyela ukongamela okanye into esiyinzileyo, esiyenzileyo. Kwaye ungaqondi, ngokuzenza ngabom okanye ulibale ngokwenene.
Kucacile ukuba ayonwabanga kakhulu sisikhumbuzo sethu. Sacela abafundi kunye nabafundi ukuba babelane ngamabali ethu okungqubana kunye nokulilela abazali.I-Culprit yeNtlupheko yethu
Umama, umzekelo, ndiyilibele indlela endifuna ukumnika ngayo ukufundiswa, ukubhenela kwinto yokuba isipho sam seminyaka sasibiza kakhulu kunokuba bekucwangcisile.
Kwinqanaba lokuqala, wakhawuleza wancitshiswa ngomvuzo wereyithi yam embi. Ndinoloyiko, kuba kwakungekho lula ukuyivumela le leta, kwaye utitshala wayenegunya kwaye ehlala emtshatweni. Xa ndakhumbuza, umama wathi "Ewe, kusenokwenzeka ukuba ndidlale nawe."
Kwaye ndiyilibale indlela xa ndandineminyaka engamashumi amabini, umntakwethu u-Peep Dardown kum kwigumbi lokuhlambela, kwaye akazange enze into yokunceda. Ewe, bathi, Kubonakala ngathi uya kufuna ukukujonga ... Inkwenkwe "yayilungile," i-sober endlwini yethu ayizange ivele.
I-Osteochondrosis
Xa ndandineminyaka elishumi elinambini ubudala, umama wayegula, akazange avuke - wayengekho mlenze. Zonke zikuyiphatha ixesha elide kwaye zandiqhuba yonke into enesikhuselo phantse ngokuqhubekayo. Kwaye, wayenento entloko, wajonga yonke into kwaye waphinda wafunyanwa: ukuba ifestile icinyiwe, nokuba irhasi icinyiwe, nokuba kucinywe irhasi, ukuba ilahlekile, ingaba ayihambisi Ndakhwankqiswa kwaye ndisoyika kwindlu yonke. Kwaye xa ndayeka ixesha lokubaleka ndaye ndaqala ukukhwaza-"ndivalekile, ndicinyiwe, andiyomisi," wandivakalisa ukuba andisekho ntombi. Ubusika bububusuku, busuku, ngaphandle kwefestile emnyama, egumbini elimnyama (ukukhanya kuyacaphukisa). Ihlala ivulwe ukuba ilungele kwaye iyothusa, kodwa ngaphambi koko akazange akhanye, ndandisoyika kakhulu kwaye ndabona kakhulu.Ekukhuleni kwam, kwathi akubangakho loo nto, akakhumbuli. Ewe, i-osteochondrosis edityanisiweyo ... kwaye kunjalo.
Ukubawa
Umama wethu uyayilawula imisebenzi enjalo. Kwakungekho nayo yonke into apha. Ngamanye amaxesha umfanekiso owahlukileyo wehlabathi ufumaneka kwiindawo ezimangalisayo.
Umzekelo, ndifumene ukufundisa okwandisiweyo ukusukela ngo-1986. Ekuqaleni, ama-ruble ezintlanu (isiseko yayingama-50), emva koko i-ruble ezingama-25, emva koko ndaba nebhunga le-Schodiship kwaye ndilenziwe i-lenin. Emva koko isikolo siphumelele, ke ngoko nangoko umvuzo. Ndandihlala nabazali bam, umama wayehlala phantsi ekupheleni kwezifundo zam (emva koko wasebenza kwiBhunga lamaVeterans, emva koko enkundleni), kwaye uPopu ukhuphekile ukusukela ngo-1987.
Ngelixa bekukho i-Scholarship, ndayishiya yonke into eyayingaphezulu kwesiseko. Kwaye le mali ithenge iincwadi, iimpahla, ukutya ngaphandle kwendlu, amatikiti emkhondo. Ukutya ekhaya kunye nokuqeshisa- apha ndanika abazali abangama-50. Kwaye xa ndandiqala ukusebenza, ndanika isiqingatha semali. Ukuba ucinga ukuba nge-8 kusasa ukuya kwi-10 PM, ndandisebenza ukusuka kwi-8 kusasa (apho kwaye ndondliwe-kwisiqingatha sam somvuzo) - ke isabelo senze ukuba siqwalaselwe njengesiqhelo.
Ndiqale ukusebenza ngo-1992, kwaye ngo-1997 ndatshata kwaye ekugqibeleni sahlulahlula-hlula-hlulwa-ndihlawula isabelo sam serenti kunye ne-crane), kwaye ndisondla kwifriji yethu. Ngokuzenzekelayo ngamanye amaxesha badutyulwa ngemali, ke ndinee-ruble ezi-5, zinazo. Umtshato oqhelekileyo "womtshato oqhelekileyo wabazali" nathi, zonke iisandwisha zokugqibela sasizihlawulela. Kuba sobabini sisebenza, bathini abazali bexhego?
Kwaye ubuya kucinga ntoni? Ukhumbula ntoni umama malunga nee-Nineties, ndisebenze nini nje eyunivesithi? Ucinga ntoni, siphi isabelo sokuthatha inxaxheba kwam semali sahlala kwinkumbulo? Unothi.
Kwisidlo sakusasa, kwafuneka enze iLizwi kwaye apha:
-Unganikeli nantoni na kwizifundo kunye nemivuzo. Ewe? I-Cho, inike? Isiqingatha? Kuyinyani, yintoni? Owu, mhlawumbi. Kulungile ... Ilungile, mhlawumbi ... kwaye bendicinga ukuba awupheleli nto. Ewe, mhlawumbi ... oko usitsho njalo, emva koko ...
Ndoyikisa kangangokuba waqala ukuqhuba. Kukangakanani apho, ukusuka kolu cenga "Awuzange unike nantoni na" - andazi ...
Ngaba uyakutshata emva kwale?
Xa ndagqiba kwelokuba ndihlukane nomyeni wangaphambili, umama wangcatshwa "kutheni kufuneka utshate?" Bahlala nomyeni wakhe ngelo xesha kunye iminyaka emihlanu enesiqingatha. Isakhanyela ukuba "bekuyimfuneko ukutshata" ngenxa yokuba yena enyanzelise iinyanga ezintandathu kunye nekamva, akufuneki ukuba afumane uqhagamshelo lwefowuni) Ngaba uza kulungisa "kwaye ugcwalisa ingxelo?"Ayifuni nyani
Kwiminyaka eli-16 ubudala, babefuna ukuba ngugqirha, bade basebenza kwi-sprocket, kwaye izidumbu zazingenazintloni, kwaye umsebenzi unzima. Kwiziko lezonyango eArmenia, bekunokwenzeka ukuba ungene kuphela umakhulu okanye umutshelo wayesazi, ke wacinga ngesicwangciso: okokuqala kwisikolo sezonyango, kwaye emva kwayo nakwiZiko. Umama wabonakala ngathi uyayixhasa, wathi uza kuthatha amaxwebhu esikolo ngokwaso, emva koko atsale, ade afike kade. Ngamazwi am "indlela endifuna ngayo ukuba ngugqirha" uthi ngoku ndiyazimisela kwaye ndingazange zenzeke.
Ewe, mna wonke umphefumlo!
Ukuqala kwam ubomi obudibeneyo nentombazana, umama ngenqanaba elithile wabhengeza: "Okanye mna, okanye yena." Ekunene yonke into yayiphelile kwaye ingamakhulu. Umama we-soothe waphumelela, kodwa kunzima. Ewe, ngoku, indalo, iyenza kwiinkumbulo zengqungquthela yokuqala yamehlo amakhulu kwaye ithi "Ndi? Ungaze! Uthini? "Mhlawumbi ekuhambeni kwexesha, ndingayamkela into yokuba iinkumbulo zikaMama azifani neyam. Kodwa inkani eyongeneyo yokukhanyela amabinzana am "rhoqo, uzuze yonke into engeyiyo" - le yinxalenye efanelekileyo yetyuwa kwinxeba lokucaphuka ...
Intombazana
Umama uthi mna, nangona bendifunda kwisikolo sokubhoda, ndahlala ekhaya qho ngengokuhlwa (ewe, mna noHodeni, saye saphinda sandikhumbula lo mgangatho, ekulahlekisweni, ekwenzeni inkohliso. Kwaye umakhulu (ngaphambi kwesikolo) ahlala kumandla enyanga. Ukususela kwiminyaka emi-6 ukuya kweli-8, ndaphila, umama wachaza ukulungiswa kwindlu yethu. Ngapha koko, xa ndibuyela kwindlu kamama, nkqu nephepha lodonga belifana, kuphela i-verquichell.
Isikolo sokubhoda yayingamaHindi. Umama uthi undinike ngenxa yeetayile zam ezitalente, ukuze ndifundise i-Hindi, ndachitha ubusuku ekhaya qho ebusuku. Owona mphezulu kube kanye ngenyanga ePhezulu, kwaye kube kanye ngenyanga koomakhulu. Kwaye ndiyayikhumbula indlela ekukhethi ngayo ucango olusuka kwingubo esikolweni kwaye ndilala kulo mnyango, kuba ndingenako ukulala phantsi kwaphela.
Akhmatova
Siphila ixesha elithile hayi eRussia. Ngoku uMama, ovavanya ngokunzulu inyani ejikelezileyo, uyavuya rhoqo ukuba siyigcine yonke le nto ingasangeni ngaphakathi, kodwa ngaphandle. Kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo ayifuni ukukhumbula indlela esiyifuna ngayo "esidinga apho" kwaye sikhokelele njengomzekelo we-Ahmatov, osisiza kuba ndinabantu bam ... "isithi" sandinika abantu bam ... "sithi phantse esikolweni sixelele." Ngelishwa, ukuphela kwebinzana kwahlukile. Kwaye akunandaba nokuba inokwenzeka njani loo nto ngo-1980s.Umalume
Umalume wam kuBawo ngugqirha we-pedophile. Xa ndaxelela amathafa kanina, umama wathi andizukukhathaza ukuthetha ngayo nakubani na, ngakumbi ubawo, uya kumbulala umninawa wakhe endaweni yakhe. Kwaye umalume emva kweAfghan, entlokweni yesigulana, unokuzisola. Quote, ewe. Ngokubanzi, enye into endavuya ngayo - wayehlala kwesinye isixeko kwaye weza. Usuku lwaluncinci ngokupheleleyo, wayenenze ngokwaneleyo. Ebusuku, ndenze indlela yam eya eCrib, phantsi kwento yokuba ndinohlobo lwetoy wawa phantsi, weza kubeka eCrib, wabamba yonke indawo. Kwaye andikholwanga umama - ndaye ndanyanzela ukuba ndingavusi izibolo, njengokuba, musa ukundihlazisa phambi kwabantu.
Ke, xa ndandineminyaka eli-12, saya kwiindwendwe ukuba sityelele, iveki. Kwaye sasingudade kunye nodade kwigumbi lakhe. Ngamafutshane, ukungabi natyala kwahluthwa ngumalume bakhe, phantsi kwecala lodade odidekileyo wokulala - kunye nabazali bakhe emva kodonga. Khange ndithethe nto nakubani na. Wayesazi ukuba ayinamsebenzi kwaye ayikholelwa.
Sele kamva, abaninzi, kwiminyaka emininzi kamva, xa ndandisele ndinayo intombi yam, umama wayezama ukundibuza ukuba ndiqala khona ubomi bezesondo. Ewe, ndatsho. Umama wayenelele ngentliziyo waza wabuza ukuba kutheni ndingathethi nto kuye notata, xa yonke into iqalile, ayizukuchwetheza okanye enye i-blah blah. Ewe, ndingathini, ndiphendule, ndatsho, nangaphezulu kube kanye. Uze wathi cwaka, kuba ihlazo losapho kunye nayo yonke loo nto.
Ngokubanzi, umama akakhumbuli nantoni na enje. Kwaye ungakhumbuli-kuthetha ukuba bekungekho. Ngaphezu koko, ndaphinda ndaxelelwa ukuba: "Ewe, emva kweAfghan, umntu ogulayo, into eza kuthatha kuye"
Viloruk
Ndisebenze ukusuka kwiminyaka elishumi elinesithathu, oko kukuthi, ukusukela ngo-1989. Utata kumasifundisane agcwalisa impahla kunye neetafile ezisebenzela umvuzo. Utata wayenguMphathi, undigxotha ndiyothusa ngeebhloko, uMama wathuthuzela, ngokubanzi, ngandlela thile wonke umntu othathe inxaxheba. Ukusukela nge-13, andizange ndithathe imali yam yepokothweni kubazali bam, ukusuka kwiminyaka eli-15 inika izifundo zabucala zesiNgesi, apho i-90s ye-90s ifikile nentombazana enoxanduva Kwaye uyaziqhenya ngokungagungqi abazali bakhe. Zonke iincwadi, zonke iimpahla zangaphandle, yonke i-ice cream, ndizithenge zonke izipho ngokwam izipho. Kutsha nje kweza incoko nabazali bam. Usebenze? -Ubongo bacele utata. Ndine? Ifumene i-ruble i-ruble ezingama-25? I-Tabel? Khange uthathe imali epokothweni? -Umama ubuzile, ngubani ofuna ngokwenene ukuba ndingonwabisi ngokugqibeleleyo. Inyani yokuba ndihambe nganto. Yile nto bendicinga ukuba kufuneka bayikhumbule. Kuyoyikeka ukucinga ukuba banayo ngokubanzi ngam.Izitulo
Xa ndandihlala kunye nabazali bam, sasinalo ngaloo xesha i-286 ye-286. Phantse iminyaka elishumi, abazali bam banelisekile yimiboniso eqaqambileyo, ukuze ndingakhange ndicinge ngokufaka iinkqubo, ndikhangela kwi-Gland kunye nokufunda ngakumbi i-Assaud. Kwaye wena HTTO? " Ngenxa yoko, ndafumana i-FOBE malunga neli tyala. Ke, emva kwenye iminyaka embalwa, yabathi i "PC" i-IP yesatifikethi sezifundo - luhlobo olupholileyo! Baqala ke ukundibhangisa, ndaye ndahamba ndaya kwizifundo, apho ndifundiswe ukuba ndisebenzise iifestile, igama kunye ne-Excel. Iingcaciso endinokuchitha ezi zifundo zinjalo, kwaye unokufumana umsebenzi ngomvuzo we-100,500 dubbang ngenyanga andizukundinceda isatifikethi esinjalo, iziphumo sasingenaso. Kwakuza ngaphambili ukuya kwithuba leminyaka elishumi (xa ukhuphiswano lwalusezantsi kakhulu, kwaye ulwazi lwam malunga nesihloko lubaluleke kakhulu) abalilibalanga.
Yiya kukude
Inombolo yeBali yatsalwa ixesha elide. Umama wam wayenendlela entle yokumisa yonke imizamo yam yokuchaza into endingayithandi into. Amagama yayilula: Uyakule ndlu, akukho mntu, ungayithandi-ndaphuma apha. Kwathiwa yithoni ... kakuhle, ishishini elifana neshishini. Yatsho kakhulu. Hayi joke. Ngokwesakhiwo kunjalo.
Ngenxa yoko, sele ndicingisisile ekukhetheni iindlela ezintandathu iminyaka: endiya kuhamba khona, ukuba ndifumanisa ukuba ngokwenene ndifumanise esitratweni. Ukuba phakathi kwemini. Ukuba ebusuku. Ukuba ehlotyeni. Ukuba ebusika. Ndingachitha phi ebusuku - ukuba ushiya ezinzulwini zobusuku. Ungayikhethi ukuba ingahambi-ukuba ubusika. Ndide ndanxunguphala ixesha elithile, intshabalalo yesithathu, nefihlakeleyo ngaphandle kwendlu, ukuba bayibeka ngokukhawuleza, ukuze ndingabi nalo ixesha lokuhlanganisana. Ndandisazi apho kukho iindawo ezifudumeleyo. Apho ungafihla khona kwimvula ...
Utata wam wayengazi malunga noMama oMama. Xa ndizama ukumxelela ngayo - incoko yayisiya umama. Ewe kunjalo, wandityhola ngokuqubuda ndathetha. Xa ndajika iminyaka eyishumi elinantathu ubudala, yonke le nto iphuma ithile iphume "." Kangangeminyaka, amashumi amathathu, ndaye ndagqiba kwelokuba ndibuze umbuzo wakho ngokuthe ngqo: Yintoni le? ukwenzela ntoni? Kwaye wafumana impendulo: "Uwukhusele, kwakungekho nto injalo. Ubuncinci andikhumbuli le nto! "
Usapho, ngendlela, yayingeyonto yanto.
Ibali lesibini lalimangalisa. Kwaye nakwiintuthuzelo "nonke nigqitywe!" Andazi ukuba kutheni, kodwa umama akazange andithande. Ngokukodwa kunjalo. Nokuba bendisene ngeendlela ezininzi ikopi yomkhwekazi, nokuba ndingumntwana wokuqala - "ukhumbule" izindlu zakhe ngeedayinti, okanye ... andazi ukuba kutheni.
Oku kwatyhilwa ngakumbi xa umninawa wam omncinci ezelwe. Kulapho nditsalela ingqalelo kwinto yokuba umama wethu efowunela kwincoko noYise ngeendlela ezahlukeneyo. Ukuthetha ubawo ngam, umama wathetha "intombi yakho." Ukuthetha ngomzalwana- "Nyana wethu." Ukugoba ezimbini kwaye ezibini, ndandisazi ukuya kule minyaka mihlanu ukuya kwemithandathu. Ukuba ndiye ndi "ntombi", kwaye umzalwana "ngumntwana oqhelekileyo", oko kuthetha ukuba? Oku kuthetha ukuba umama wam akangomntu. Inyathelo endihlelwe ngalo. Kwaye akafuni ngokwenene. Ndifumene iqhekeza lokuqinisekiswa koku kuzo zonke iintlobo zamaqhina amakhaya.
Iminyaka esibhozo yayinesibindi kwaye yambuza umakhulu wakhe omkhulu - iphi na umama wam wobuntu, uyaphila? U-Aunt (udade osele ekhulile, owawukhulayo emva kokusweleka kwabazali bakhe) intloko eyoyikekayo, kwaye umkhwenyana (utata) walikhumbula le mbali i-10 - ndaxelelwa Ukuba ndithabathe nakuphi na ukungazenzi, akukho nto ibiyiyo nto, musani ukugxekwa.
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