Iintsomi ezi-5 malunga nabantwana uMama Solo

Kwilizwe lethu, qho ngokomntwana wesixhenxe ukhula kwintsapho engaphelelanga, kwaye kwiipesenti ezingama-94 zamatyala-kunye ne-MAMA, kunye ne-6% iwele kwiintsapho nootata nootata abanyamekele abantwana.

Iintsapho ezingaphelelanga ziyaqhubeka ngakumbi nangakumbi, njengoko iintsomi malunga nendlela abantwana abakhula ngayo, behluthwa omnye wabazali. Lixesha lokuba i-higy ezinye zezi zinto zikhohlakeleyo.

Inombolo ye-1. Abantwana babazali abangatshatanga abayi kuba nako ukwenza usapho lwabo

Uvavanyo lweDyunivesithi yaseMichigan lubonisa ukuba malunga ne-43% yabantu abadala, abakhuliswe kwiintsapho ezizeleyo, banelisekile ngumtshato wabo okanye ubudlelwane bexesha elide. Kwaye bangaphi abanabantu abaninzi abanolwazi banokuthi bathethe ngokufanayo? Ukumangala, i-43%. Eyokuqala yazi, njengoko kufanele, ukuba isibini sazi, njengoko singeyomfuneko, kodwa umphumo wokukuphela kukufanayo.

Inombolo ye-2. Abazali babantwana bayachithwa ngakumbi

Kubonakala ngathi kusengqiqweni-ukubakhathalela ukuba akukho ikakhulu akukho namnye, kuba umzali okuphela kwakhe uxakeke kakhulu kukucinezelwa kwesonka, apha baphoswa kuwo wonke iBanga lesibhozo. Ngapha koko, eRussia akukho mahluko phakathi kweminyaka yobudala bokwenzela ngokwesini ebantwaneni ukusuka kwiintsapho ezigcweleyo nengaphelelanga-ngokomndilili oneminyaka eli-17 kumantombazana.

Inombolo 3. Abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga abafundanga kakubi

Isifundo esikhulu esiqhutywa kumazwe ase-Asia sabonisa ukuba ngesizathu esithile eJapan, abantwana bamaqabane abangatshatanga bafunda okubi ngakumbi. Kuwo onke amazwe ase-Asia aseleyo kwakungekho mahluko kwinkqubela phambili, nase-Indonesia naseThailand, abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezingaphelelanga bafumana olona qikelelo lubalaseleyo kubo.

I-Myth Inombolo 4. Umntwana, ubuncinci loluphi usapho olungcono kunokungaphelelanga

Iingxaki ekwenzeni abantwana abanabazali abaqhawule umtshato, hayi xa abazali bafumana isatifikethi soqhawulo-mtshato, kodwa ngaphambili. Ngaphambili. Abaphandi baseMelika babona iintsapho nabantwana iminyaka eyi-12. Ewe kunjalo, babengazi, abazali bahluleke ngekamva okanye hayi. Kodwa kwezi ntsapho apho uqhawulo-mtshato emva koko lwenzekile, iingxaki zokuziphatha kwabantwana zaqala kwiminyaka eli-12 ukuya kwilixa! Oko kukuthi, abazali basahlala kunye, kwaye abantwana babesele bengonwabanga. Ubukho beseti yabo epheleleyo yabazali ayibalulekanga kangako njengemozulu efanelekileyo endlwini.

Inombolo ye-5. Ichaphazela kuphela abazali kunye nabantwana

Isifundo esihlalutyo impumelelo kunye nokuziphatha kwabantwana kwiintlobo ezahlukeneyo zeentsapho zibonakalise iphethini enomdla kakhulu. Abaphandi babone abantwana kwiintsapho ezigcweleyo nezingaphelelanga, iintsapho apho abantwana babeziswa ngookhulu nootatomkhulu, njalo njalo-kuphela malunga neendidi ezili-10. Ithathwa njengobunzima ngokuziphatha - ukutshaya, ukusela utywala kunye neziyobisi, ukukhulelwa kolutsha kunye nokukhupha isisu-kunye nokuhamba isikolo.

Kwaye kwavela ukuba abantwana kwiintsapho zohlobo olufanayo babephambi kwabo bonke abanye - owona baphumelele, baphumelele kwaye baguqukele kwiinyibilikisi, kuquka izizukulwana. Kwindawo yesibini - abantwana abavela kwiintsapho ezizeleyo, kubantwana besithathu abanoqhawulo-mtshato abahlala noMama (okanye utata) nootatomkhulu. Ke ubudlelwane phakathi kwezizukulwane azibalulekanga kunolwalamano phakathi kwabazali.