Ikhathuni eyakhayo kumzekelo we-sacheant bar, i-chatperelle ehlelelekileyo kwaye ayinantlonelo kubantu ababathandayo icacisa ukuba loluphi uvelwano olwahlukileyo kuvelwano, kwaye kutheni iqala kakhulu.
Kodwa sicinga ukuba ngaphandle kokuthetha kunye nokucaciswa, le vidiyo ayiphelelanga.[I-ID ye-ID ye-Youtube = "0vhqitg3dus"]
Ngapha koko, kwikhathuni imalunga neendlela ezimbini ezahlukeneyo zokungakhathali komnye umntu ongomnye.
Eyokuqala (uvelwano) yimozulu (ihlala ihleli) imodeli yomnye umntu. U-PUMETIZIS uguqukele kwimeko efanayo nelowo aligxininisayo. Kwaye uxoxe malunga nokuba yintoni. Uvelwano alusebenzi kakuhle ukuba kufuneka uyeke ngokukhawuleza ukungakholiswa, kodwa kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntu ufuna ukumqonda.
Uvelwano lwesiRashiya aluhambelani novelwano lwesiNgesi-siqhele kuthetha ukuba siyamthanda umntu, kwaye ayisiyo ukuba simfuna kakuhle. Kodwa, ngokubanzi, akukho nxamnye. Uvelwano uthelekisa umntu obandezeleka ngendlela athanda ngayo kwaye unemfesane, kwaye into yokuqala evakalayo (okanye ivele) yi "into ongayithandiyo namhlanje ...".
I-verifazer ingayithanda imifanekiso yento ebonakalayo kwaye ifunwe kwakhona yaqala ukuhlangana, kwaye ngenxa yoku ilungele ukwabelana ngezixhobo zayo (umzekelo, isandwich). Ngamanye amaxesha uncedo oluthile lomntu ofuna ukuba siqhubeke nokudakumba, umhlaza, amatyala, iingxabano zomqeshi, njalo njalo, zibaluleke ngakumbi kunokuqonda. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha iingcebiso zihlekisa kakhulu - ukuba umntu ungekaze uncede, akachithi amandla azo kuqikelelwa, kwaye apho, kolu luncedo, kwaye lunceda njani ngoku. Mhlawumbi eli lixesha eli lixesha lokuqonda kunye nesandwich ebaluleke ngakumbi.
Kwaye ukuba ngokupheleleyo engqondweni, kuyafuneka ukudibanisa uvelwano, kunye novelwano. Kodwa, njengamaxesha onke, xa kufuneka ibhalansi, akukho lula.
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