Owona mbuzo uchulumancisayo malunga noochwephesha bengqondo yile: "Kwaye indlela yokukhetha i-psychologist eqhelekileyo?" Ngapha koko, ukukholosa kakhulu iimfihlakalo kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Ngapha koko, kukho i-hedge-hedge, unokukhetha enye ingcali (okanye i-toaster kwivenkile ekwi-Intanethi) - oko kukuthi, ngokokujonga.
Umbhali wethu, i-Adchotherapist Adrian Izh, eyabiweyo nathi yingqokelela yophononongo lwabantu bokwenyani. Ngokwalo phononongo, njengoko sicinga, kucacile: Kuyimfuneko ukuba ngubani, kwaye ngubani ongcono ukuba ajikeleze ecaleni nasePittoe.Ingxelo engentle
Icinyiwe kwiseshoni yeeyure ezimbalwa ngaphambi kokuba baqalise, banqande ukuba banomsindo. Isicatshulwa: "Awunakuba noburhalarhume kum." Emva kokucinywa komthengi, andizange ndikuqonde into endiyenzileyo.
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Umntu oneminyaka engama-50 ubudala, wathetha nam ngokuxubha ngelizwi. Ekupheleni kwencoko, xa ndenyukayo ndaya emnyango (bendifuna ukucela umyeni wakhe ukuba ndibhale) ndibhatale) iziganeko ezinengxondorha enkulu ngasemva: "Kwaye ngubani oza kuhlawula imali ?!"
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Intsebenziswano enikelayo enxulumene nomsebenzi wam, yazingisa kakhulu, yanyanzela ukuba ukukhula kwemeko yam yezinto eziphathekayo, zonke iingxaki endiye ndaguqukela kuye ziya kubanjwa.
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Sasinengxabano evulekileyo. Unyango lwenze ukuba andizami ngokwaneleyo, kuba akukho ziphumo. Ngenxa yoko, yakhwaza kakhulu kum phambi kweqela lonke kwaye yandikhangela kubaphulaphuli.
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Uye wanikezela ngeenkonzo kumlamli kwimeko apho omnye wabazali athathwayo komnye umntwana. Wathabatha izipho kwelinye lamaqela, waphula imida yeqela lesibini, wangena elona xesha linamandla ngexesha lokulamla, walithandana naye, wazivumela ukuba agwetywe kunye nokuthuka umgwebo wesibini.
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Ndiye ndagxeka kunye novavanyo olubi lwezenzo zam kunye nokuziphatha kwam. Andiyi kubandakanyi oko ngenxa yokungathandi. Umcimbi onomdla ngexabiso: "Ukuba ucinga ukuba ungahlawula ngaphezulu, kuya kufuneka uhlawule ngaphezulu." "Awuxabisi unyango lwengqondo, kuba ukuhlawula isixa." "Phezulu kweendleko, kokukhona fakwe kwinkqubo." Ukusekwa kwacaciswa ngolu hlobo: "Ndibuye ndifike kwiseshoni, kuba ufikile", kuba ufike mva." Ndiyavuma ukuba emva kwexesha, apho bendihlala ndinoxolo. Kodwa ukuba umthengi wangaphambili walibaziseka, ndacela uxolo kum.
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Imilinganiselo yobuqu eyabekiweyo kunye neWorld World, inyanzelise imodeli yomtshato wesintu. Akhanyele kwaye akasamkeli ezona moya umthengi, wacinezelwa: "Kulungile, ukuba awuyithandi le ndoda, ujonge ntoni, kunye nenye apho ungayifumana phi iminyaka yakho?"
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Xa ndibona uluvo lokuba le mibuzo ibaluleke kakhulu, njengokunyuka kokuzithemba, ayisonjululwa kwisifundo esinye seqela, kodwa ifuna ukufundisisa okukodwa, kwaye andikhathalelwanga indawo yesibini esetyenzisiweyo, i-PSCHOLOLOGISIRY iphendule : "Ewe, uthathe isigqibo sokulishiya iqela- andinakuyichaphazela."
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Khalaza ukuba abanye abaguli 'bayisebenzise. " Kumbuzo, nokuba igqitha kumhlaba, i-esgrevishini idlulile, ngenkathalo inoxanduva lokuba "sele ihambile, kwaye iphinde ihambile, kwaye iphinde yenzeke kwinqanaba lokuba ngokubhekisele kuye."
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Xa ufika ngexesha elichaziweyo, kuya kufuneka ulinde ixesha elide de ugqibe ukufumana nomthengi wangaphambili, ukusuka kwimizuzu engama-30 ukuya kwi-30 yeeyure. Kwaye ukubonisana kwakho kunokufikelela nakwiiyure ezimbini, ezinesiqingatha ezinesiqingatha endaweni yeyure enye. Kwindawo yokwamkela kuninzi malunga nawe kwaye kunzima kakhulu ukubulala, malunga ne-80% yexesha elithathayo ukumamela ibali ngobomi bakhe. Ndinokuthetha ixesha elide kwifowuni. Wanyanzelisa ukuba atyelele enye indlela yokuqeqeshwa kwengqondo eyabi nengxaki yam. Ndisakwazi ukusasaza amakhadi ethu eshishini kubathengi, ukwenzela ukuba umntu abuyele kuye kwikhadi leshishini, abathengi banokufumana izaphulelo. Ngenxa yoko, isicelo sam sindiqeqedele ukuba ndisebenze, apho ndaqhubana nentombi yakhe, endandiba nembambano. Ewe, ekugqibeleni wandixelela ukuba akazange ayibone ingqondo ngonxibelelwano oluqhubekayo. Kubonakala kum ukuba siphuzile imida kwaye ndaxhonywa kakhulu kuye ukuba ndingakwazi ukuphinda ndibuye kule nto.
Uphononongo olululo
Unyango oluthambileyo kakhulu nobuthathaka. Ngokwenene wanceda ekuphumeni kwezinye iindawo ezinamagqabi. Ndifumene inkxaso eninzi, kwaye inokutshintsha into ebomini. Inyani yayilixesha elithile elinzima ngakumbi, kodwa andizange ndizame ukuzama ukusebenza phambi komsebenzi.
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Ndiyibambe i-prapist yam yokufudumala. Zonke iintlanganiso, nkqu nabona banzima kakhulu amava am, ndixhase imvakalelo yokuba wayengalumkanga kangangokuba kubalulekile kuye: ndinuka. Ngononophelo, wandichitha ngononophelo ngokufunda kumazwe am abuhlungu. Wanceda ekusombululeni iingxabano ezininzi entlokweni yam.
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Ngeli xesha, ndiye ndazifunda, ndafunda ukuba nawo ngakumbi kwaye ndimamele umzimba wam. Ndayeka ukuba nexhala eTrivia nakwiintshaba ngokwakho, yazithemba ngakumbi kubuchule bakho. Ndisafunda ukuzithemba kwaye ndiyabulela kugqirha ndenze inyathelo elikhulu kolu lwalathiso. Ngethamsanqa, ukuhlaselwa kukothuka kweza kubakho, i-psychosomatics yanyamalala. Ndinoncumo kwakhona kwaye andikoyiki ikamva. Unyango olunobuthathaka kakhulu, ngokuzithemba lukhokelela kwincoko kwaye uhlala uphulaphula iimvakalelo zam.
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Ugqirha wandinceda ukuba ndiphile ixesha elinzima ebomini bam. Ngenxa yomsebenzi wakhe wobuchule kunye neemvakalelo, iimvakalelo kunye namava, ndiye ndagqiba ebomini bam kwaye ndiza kuyiqonda le nto ndiyifunayo kunye nendlela endifuna ukuba ngayo ebomini bam. Undincedile ukujamelana nokungaxhathisi kwam ukutshintsha. Undinike le nkxaso ndingayifumani ndawo kwaye ngaphandle kwento endandingabikho kakhulu ukujamelana neziganeko ebomini bam. Kuba sisebenze ngakumbi malunga nengqondo yengqondo, ndaye ndaqonda ukuba kwaba ngcono ukuziva umzimba wam. Waqala ukummamela kunye nemvakalelo yakhe.
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Ndandikwi-UNICHING kwiminyaka emi-5. Ngonyango ndenze inani elikhulu lezinto ezinkulu nezincinci ezifumanekayo malunga nam, njengokuba mnandi kwaye hayi kakhulu. Ewe kunjalo, ngamaxesha okufunyanwa emnandi, wandithanda ukuba i-Pipist, okungaphezulu koko kwakufuneka ndivume engathandekiyo. Olona phawu luphambili lubukrelekrele bangaphakathi. Oko kukuthi, imbeko kuye akukho buchule kwaye hayi umzamo, kodwa yindlela yokuphila. Anditsho ukuba ndingabasebenzi ngokubonakalayo.
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I-Perapist yam isebenza nam ngokuziphatha, akukho lophuzo, okufanayo neziqinisekiso, imfundo, amava. Nje ukuba ikhuphe into, endiyithethayo, njengoko sele ndimazi ngoku (emva koko andizange ndikwazi), yayikukunyhashwa kwemithetho. Wandimamela, kwaye xa ndandiqala ukubuza imibuzo, okokuqala ndazola kwaye ndicacisile ukuba ngokucacileyo kwaye akanakukwenza oku ngenxa yemeko yam). Emva koko wachaza ezinye iindlela, emva koko wabuza kwaye waphulaphula ukuba ngoku ndicinga ngale nto, ngokunxulumene neemeko ezinjalo.
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Iseshoni nganye idlulile kwi "Preill" epheleleyo, kodwa ekugqibeleni bendihlala ibuyiselwa. Kwimeko "ye" meko, andizange ndiyeke. Babemi phakathi kwezikhundla zobomi (iintembelo, iinkolelo), kodwa umsebenzi awuzange uphazamise.
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Ndinelungelo lokunonongwa, ndicocekile, ndixhasa i-goestalt ye positist. Ewe, iyasebenza kwaye ihlala, kwaye kwi-skype. Sisebenza naye phantse unyaka, impembelelo iyamangalisa, ndiyazalwa, usapho luyonwaba.
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Unombulelo ongazenzisiyo kwingcali yaKhe phantse kwiminyaka eyi-1.5 yokuxhasa, i-Hust Therapy, engazange ivumele kuphela ukuba ndiye kwi-Active Sheet, kwaye ndikwazi ukuqonda ukuba yintoni endinokuzama ngayo mna, kwaye ndifune. Kwaye uzifumanele ngokwakho lo mthombo wemikhosi kunye nokuzixhasa ngaphakathi.
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Ndinomsebenzi ofanelekileyo, oxhasayo onyanisekileyo, onesigulana, sebenza ulonwabo olunye. Ewe, inkqubela ilungile kwaye icacile. Ukusuka kwiLizwe "Intaba Andonwabanga, ndiyalele kwi-bubso, andifuni nto, andilali, ndifuna ukuwela" Ukusebenza, ngotywala kubotshelelwe, ubomi buhle, yonke into izakulunga. " Ndiqhubeka nonyango.