Umtshato wesibini - Ungamthanda njani umntwana womnye umntu?

Kwinyani yaseRussia, ukubakho kukuba indoda "enetreyila" incinci. Kwaye ngenxa yokuba abantwana kunqabile ukuba bahlale emva koqhawulo-uqhawulo-mtshato noTata, kwaye ngenxa yokuba ootata abanjalo bavuswa ngokukhawuleza kunemigqaliselo elula. Ukhathalela umntwana? Ngokwakhe? Kufuneka sithathe!

Kufuneka sithathe, kufuneka uthathe. Emva kwexesha ngalo mntwana ndlwini-nye ukuze uphile. Ngekati, isovalo lomnye umntu - isivumelwano esikhulu, kwaye ke umntu onobomi bakhe kunye noluvo lwakhe.

Inokwenzeka into yokuba lo mntu akangebikho kwabo banokuchaza ukungakwazi kwabo kuncinane. Le yintombazana eyodwa enomntwana wesifuba onokudibana naye, kunye nendoda enesithukuthezi ngomntwana - yonke nangayiphi na indlela. Ke kuya kubakho umbono kunye nengxelo.

Ungasinda njani kwindlela yokugcina kule meko ayisiyobudlelwane kuphela notata womntu, kodwa nengqondo eqhelekileyo? Kukho amanqaku aliqela, ukujonga ukuba yeyiphi, unokwenza ukuba afune kancinci.

Ungaze uxoxe ngomntwana unina.

Ngokupheleleyo i-taboos. Ngaba loo nto, ekukhetheni "uyaphila, le ntokazi ingcwele iNgcwele, uAndreyi wayengazange andijonge." Ngaba ungawaxela la mazwi ngomlomo wakho ukuze akholwe ngokwakho? Emva koko ungatsho enye okanye kabini ebomini.

Khohlwa ingcinga yokuba lo mntwana ungonwabanga uya kundithanda "

Hayi uthando. Inokwenzeka into yokuba ngaphantsi, kokukhona uya kuyilindela. Okokuqala kuya kufuneka wakhe ubudlelwane beshishini obufana "sobabini asifuni ukuba ngamanqanaba aphambili utata wakho, ke masivumelane ngezenzo zoxolo." Kunye nomntwana womntwana, kokukhona ubudlelwane buza kuba njengeshishini. Kwaye ukuba uyakhawuleza ukuya kumaqabane kunye nexesha, kulungile. Ngokwenyani, le yeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo ekufuneka izabalazele kuyo. Kwaye ukuba uyathandwa ngequbuliso - cinga ngommangaliso.

Ungaze uvume ukuthelekisa umntwana kunye ne-moms yakhe

Umntwana ngokwakhe uya kuthelekisa, ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Mhlawumbi inyani ayisixeleli. Kodwa iya kuthelekiswa. Kwaye uvale umkhwekazi wam, ukuba udumbile ukwazisa wonke umntu ukuba "uMariyaska, iipipi zazingcono" okanye "ekugqibeleni i-Hubhali-"-ungaphumelelanga.

Kodwa ungazixhasi ezi ngxoxo, ungaze uqaphele kwaye wonke umntu onokuphembelela oku akwenzi-uyafuna. Yantoni? Kwaye ukuze unikezele uqonde umntwana-awuthathi usapho _ [mama_. Inye into, umahluko ngokupheleleyo. Kwaye ukuba ngequbuliso uyafa-unina akasayi kuvela kwindawo ekhululweyo. Ewe Ewe.

Sebenzisa uthando lukaTata

Ukubandakanya, ngokuvakalayo, xabise. Ngaba uyayithanda le ndoda nayo? Ke nawuphi na umntwana oyifunayo umntwana ukuba akholise utata-into oyifunayo. Ukuba lo mntwana uzama ukukuvulisa - ubuncinci besiqingatha sexesha sisamthanda utata. Kodwa umntwana oya kubaleka kade noTata, kwaye nawe ngaye kwangaxeshanye-ekuhambeni kwexesha uya kukwenza ube nzima ngakumbi kunye neengxaki.

Ukuba umntu onobungozi uhlale phakathi kwakho - Ewe, ukuba, phakathi kwabantu abadala, esona sikhundla sikhuselekileyo, abaxhaphazi bakuqala okokuqala. Hlala phantsi, ndiye ndidinwe. Abantwana abakwazi ukwahlula i-24/7-Stamna backs.

Njengeendlela ezimbi zecala lakho

Ebomini balo mntu, izinto ezimangalisayo ezoyikisayo sele zenzekile, ukuze zingakuqondi ubuchule. Yonke into ivela kuwe kwaye inxulumene nalo mntwana kufuneka iqaphele kwinqanaba lokucwangcisa. Kwaye uzikhumbuze. "Sicinga ngeli phehlobo ukuba sikuse emazantsi, unjani na inkcaso enzulu?" "Sifumene indawo, kukho into ethile kwaye apho. Siya kuJulayi. " "Uyakhumbula ukuba ngenyanga inqwelomoya?"

Ukuba uyakwazi ukuba ngumthombo wozinzo kumyeni wakho - ndikholelwe, kungekudala uya kuyibulela loo nto. Kwaye nokukhulelwa komntwana kungcono ukwazisa kwangoko, kulungile- "siza kwenza omnye umntwana. Hayi, okwangoku, kodwa sicinga ukuba iya kwenzeka. Hayi, awunyanzelekanga ukuba unike iithoyi zakho kunye nebhedi yakho. Kwaye kuyaqhubeka, sinethemba lokuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba awunayo. "

Kulapho inqaku elibalulekileyo. Malunga nohambo oluya emazantsi (ukuthenga i-scooter) uyacebisa. Kwaye malunga nokufudukela ePrague, imbonakalo kadadewethu omncinci okanye ukutshintsha kukatata wemowudi yokusebenza-uyazisa. Isigqibo senziwa ngabantu abadala, kwaye sigcine umntwana ekhosini - imbeko kunye nokulondolozwa kwendawo ekhuselekileyo.

Thatha kakuhle

Xa umntwana wethu ethwala isipho esikhutshelwe ekutyhafeni iitights zethu, iicones kunye neplastiki, sonwabile kwaye sibeka ufakelo lweyona ndawo ibalaseleyo endlwini. Iindlela asisosipho, siqwalasele. Umzobo wakho ngomlomo we-oblique kwaye udibanise ngononophelo uNabe onesithathu ubhengezwe kwisikhokelo sakho. Kuba, ndizamile !! Ke, lo mntwana kufuneka ahlole kangako ukuba "izamile." Kwaye ukuba uyazi ukuba lo mntu umelwe kukuba enze naye, ukuze akhule "hellochelielioksan" Ekuqaleni, thatha ingqalelo le misebenzi.

Sukunika uthando

Ndiyawuthanda lo mntu, uyamthanda. Hayi ngokukodwa-akukho nto imbi. Umsebenzi wakho kukufunda omnye komnye ukuba uhloniphane, kwaye usebenzisane ukuze ulungele usapho oluqhelekileyo, uvuyo lotata kwaye uxhamla abantwana abancinci. Cebisa ngoncedo (umzekelo, kunye nezifundo). Hug, ukuba iza kwaye usindisa - kunokwenzeka. Nika into "evela kuwe", ukuba ifune ngequbuliso- unako. Kodwa soze sakhe into engeyiyo. Intsingiselo? Inyaniso iseza kuphuma, kwaye idumela ngomakazi onokuthenjwa - ixhoba.

Ke usamthanda njani?

Zibuze kwiminyaka elishumi kamva. Okanye uphumelele. Okanye hayi.

Siyazi umama wesithathu, obunobuhlobo ngokupheleleyo kwaye nobuhlobo obunobuhlobo ngamanyathelo. Siyazi izalamane zoomama babo abangakwaziyo ukwenza okufanayo nakwizihlobo ezihlaziyiweyo kwaye zikhutshiwe. Ngoko ke, unokuhlangabezana ukuba nezalamane zakho, foster evela leenkedama, okanye umntwana olusaseleyo elidluleyo - phofu: unyamezelo kuwe, umonde kunye amathamsanqa.