Omnye wamaMelika amahlanu ubudala ukuya kwiminyaka engama-44 ubudala akazalwanga umntu ongatshatanga, kwaye ukuba uthatha bonke abafazi ukusuka kwi-18 ukuya kwi-44, emva koko kuya kubakho i-50% engenantlukwano. Akukho mntu waqokelela izibalo ezichanileyo eRussia, kodwa ngokobulungiseleli bezempilo kunye nophuhliso lwentlalo, imeko iyafana - malunga ne-20% yazo zonke iintsapho ayinamntwana, malunga ne-4.4% yabantu ayikho Ukufumana iindlalifa, kwaye inombolo yazo iyakhula.
ERussia, le meko yahlukile. Kwilizwe apho kufumaneka khona iikhondom kwiminyaka engama-20-25 nje eyadlulayo, kwaye intsapho inokucwangciswa ngempumelelo, yafunda ngempumelelo, yafunda kwaye kamva, ingxaki yokhetho ayizange imi. Kwakungekho khetho. Ukuba uyabelana ngesondo- kungekudala okanye kamva kuya kubakho abantwana.
Ukongeza, iminyaka yobudala bembonakalo yomntwana wokuqala esasinayo (kwaye ihleli) yenye yezona ndawo iphantsi eYurophu, kunye ne-30 ka-30 "-Umtshato wendlela yokuthi" ukutshata kunye nocalucalulo . "
Ingcinezelo yoMbutho ifikelela kumawaka ezilwanyana, kwaye ezona zingenakwenzeka ukuba abantwana abanokubakho banikezela kuye kwaye bazala abantwana ukuba bangenguye, kodwa kuba uMama ucela abazukulwana bakhe.
Ke ngoko, idatha ngendlela enyanisweni iphila ngendlela eyakhelwe umntwana ngokhetho lwabo, incinci kakhulu. Ukucinga ngokukhawuleza kusondeza ibhinqa eline-niche eline-niche, ekungekho mntu, nangona kunjalo, uninzi lwabantu abadala sonke asizange silingenise kwityala le-USSR, owenzekileyo Ngeminyaka yee-1950 60s.
Ukwala ukulungiswa kwabantwana ngokwenene kunokubuchaphazela njani ubomi kwaye kubi kakhulu? Akuphumeli. Ukungakhethi lonke uvuyo oluza nabantwana, asinakukwazi kodwa siqaphele izibonelelo ezingenakuphikwa kokungabikho kwabo.
Utyhafisa imali. Imali eninzi
Ulwalamano lwakho kunye neqabane luya kuba ngcono
Ewe, eli lixesha. Uninzi lwethu lukhule ngokuzithemba lokuba abantwana yisamente yomlingo emtshatweni, nokuba yonke into ibinjalo ngaphambi kokuba yonke into ibe ilungile.Kodwa hayi-kuphononongo lwejenali ye-Psychology yosapho, iipesenti ezingama-67 zabaphenduli zivumile ukuba emva kokuzalwa kwabantwana, ulwaneliseko lwabo lomtshato lwawela. Kwaye izizathu zokuphuphuma: Ukunyuka kwenkcitho kabukhali, i-inclipboard, ukunqongophala kwezesondo, i-skekes kwisiseko soxanduva olutsha, kwaye kwiinyanga zokuqala-phantse kukunqongophala kweliso elipheleleyo.
Kwaye ukuba ukuphumla kwexesha kulithile (kulungile, okanye ukutshaya komtshato phantsi - ukusuka kuwo wonke umtshato, iiakhawunti ezingama-60% ze-akhawunti yokuzalwa kwezazibulo), emva koko isini kwizalathiso zangaphambili zibuyiselwa kancinci. Izibini ezingakhathaliyo zibandakanyeka kuzo rhoqo kunabazali - kwanabo bazali bawo nabantwana babo sele bekhulile.
Uyawuphepha umngcipheko wezempilo
Ngobulelo boogqirha, namhlanje umngcipheko wokwenza iinkxwaleko ngenxa yokuqina nokuzalwa komntwana, uphantsi kakhulu. Kodwa hayi zero. Ukuba ngenkulungwane ye-18 malunga ne-1.5% yabafazi basweleka, benika ubomi obutsha, ngoku eRussia eli nani limalunga ne-0.001%. Ngokufanelekileyo- ngokuchanekileyo - 10.8 Abafazi kwi-100 lamawaka e-100 lamawaka.
Kodwa ukuba eyona meko imbi kakhulu ayilindelekanga, enye, imbi kakhulu, kodwa imiphumo emibi ngakumbi inamaninzi. Kwaye bambalwa kakhulu - ukusuka kwikhefu, usulelo, ukopha, i-varicase, isifo seswekile esibonakalayo kunye nokutyeba kakhulu kuxinzelelo lwe-PlestPartum.
Uya kunciphisa umngcipheko woxinzelelo
Amavolontiya ali-13,000 aqhutywa kuvavanyo loxinzelelo lweklasikhi, kwaye phakathi kwabazali babo, inqanaba lokudakumba laliphezulu. Eyona nto imbi kakhulu kubazali babantwana abakwishumi elivisayo nakubantwana abadala kunye nabo bangabonwayo nabantwana babo abancinci. Kwangelo xesha linye akukho mahluko, abantwana bomthonyama okanye hayi. Lo mfanekiso uyinyani nakubo banxulumene nabo bakoonyana bakhe bashiya indlu baphila ubomi babo. Isifundo esinjalo sasiqhutywa ngabanye oososayensi ngo-1980s kwaye sanika iziphumo ezifanayo.
Uxinzelelo luhlala lufuna i-trigger - kunye nexhala eliqhubekayo kwimpumelelo, impilo, indlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana ijamelana nendima.
Ubukhulu becala, awuyi kuzisola
Kwaye ukuba uzale umntwana, awuyi kuzisola. Inqaku ayisiyintoni icebo olikhethayo, kwaye ukuba loluphi ukhetho oya kuba ngowakho kwaye kuphela.
Iinkqubo zophando zemfundo yesizwe yezifundo ezigutyungelwe ngabantu abazizigidi ezi-3 ukusuka kumazwe ahlukeneyo kwaye azizange ziveze nawuphi na umahluko kwinqanaba lokwaneliseka ngobomi phakathi kwabo bakuzalayo, kuba wayengalali, kuba wayengalali waliwe. Bonke bavavanya ngobomi babo ngokulinganayo. Kwaye wonke umntu waguquka ukuba wonwabe ngakumbi kunabo babefuna abantwana, kwaye abo bangakhange bawufumane, kodwa baba ngumzali phantsi koxinzelelo lwentengo engaphumelelanga.