Ungakhulisa njani abantwana ukuze bangabi ngamaxhoba obundlobongela kwixa elizayo okanye kwixesha elidlwenguli? Sukwenza okunganyamezeli ubundlobongela ebantwaneni! Sukwenza into eyenzayo abazali abaninzi kwaye emva koko ...
Kutheni le nto kubalulekile ukuba abamakishi bogonyamelo basenziwa ebantwaneni? Kungenxa yokuba xa intombi iqala ukudibana nabantu, ayiyi kuqaphela ukuba ayoyiki kuye, ngenxa yokuba ubomi bakhe bonke baphuma ngale ndlela! Kwaye xa uNyana eqalisa ukudibana nabafazi, akayi kuqonda ukuba uziphatha kakubi, kuba akazihloneli intlonipho ngemida yakho.
KuBantwana abo imida yabo yayingahlonitshwa kwaye izinto ezinomdla zayo ezingathathi zithatyathwe, ngamandla aphezulu okuba nobudlelwane obunetyhefu, ongenantlonelo kwikamva labadala.
Sibonisa uphononongo lwezenzo zabazali eziphazamisa abantwana ukuba baqonde into evumelekileyo, kwaye yintoni engeyiyo.
Ukungcungcuthekiswa
Umntwana okhubekileyo? "Yintoni eyakuqhelisela ntoni? Wenze ntoni, kutheni utitshala wakufumanisa? Kutheni uthathe umatshini wakhe? Kwaye kwakungekho mfuneko yokuthetha esifundweni! "Yintoni eyingozi? Isibakala sokuba umntwana ebandakanyekile ekuboneni unobangela wokuziphatha okungafanelekanga kwabanye. Kwixa elizayo, oku kunokukhokelela kwinto yokuba umfazi obethe umyeni uyakholelwa ngokunyaniseka ukuba wacaphuka, kwaye le ndoda iya kwazi ukuba "ishishini" linokubethwa.
Uxanduva logonyamelo luhlala lulele kumdlwenguli. Akukho sizathu sokuziphatha okungafanelekanga.
"Cinga kakuhle!"
Yintoni ingozi? Kwixa elizayo, kwixa elizayo, umntwana uya kusitya isimo sengqondo esingasiyo.
Kodwa ayiseli! Kodwa hayi ukubetha! Kodwa uthanda, kodwa nabantwana abadlala kunye needrama ziya kuzitshintsha, kodwa imali izisa, njl njl.
"Akuyiqondi!"
Umntwana uthi uyamcaphukisa, kwaye uyamphendula ukuba unguye omthandayo, awunakumcaphukisa. Into ebonakala ngayo kuye.Yintoni ingozi? Isibakala sokuba umntwana angayiniki malini ukuba athathele ingqalelo iimvakalelo zabo, kodwa ukukhokelwa ziimvakalelo zabanye.
"Ewe, wena, ungumfazi wam owuthandayo, ndingayitshintsha njani, ndingakuqhatha njani ?!" -Ufuna le ntombi yakho kwixesha elizayo?
Kwaye kwinto yokuba imvakalelo yokukhanyela umntwana, ufunda ukuba ungazithembi. Kwaye emva koko, xa intombi yendoda ilala ingena kwimeko enzima kusapho lwayo, iya kuthi, "Ungakhe uqondi njani!"
Ingozi kukuba umntwana akayi kufunda ukuhlonipha iimvakalelo zabathandekayo, uya kubanyanzela ukuba babandezeleke.
"Kulungile, ndiyakuthanda!"
Inketho: "Lo ngutat'omkhulu!" Umntwana ubuza ukumyeka, ukuba angangameli, akava, kodwa uyayiva: "Ndiva:" Ndiva: "Ndiva:" Ndikuthanda, ndifuna ukukuncamisa! " Okanye uza kutyelela kwaye ucele umntwana ancancisa uTatomkhulu notat'omkhulu ngomnqweno wakhe.
Yintoni ingozi yokunyanzelwa? Ufuna intombi yakho ukuba inikele kwiminyaka eli-14 ubudala xa uhlobo oluthile lokwaluphala luya kuqalisa ukuyikhuthaza: "Kulungile, ndiyakuthanda"? Kwaye uya kunika indlela, kuba uTata aziphathe naye. Ngaba uyafuna unyana wakho kwi-20 kunye nencinci kancinane ukuba idlwengulwe kuba isetyenziselwa "hayi" ekuphenduleni inzame yokungenisa nantoni na, kwaye ayizange iyeke?
Ilungelo lomntwana elikumzimba ogonyamelo lingcwele. Mayiyeke-kuthetha ukuyeka. Hayi hayi. Fundisa intetho ethi "Hayi". Fundisa ukuma impendulo "hayi".
"Wayengafuni kukhubekisa!"
Yintoni ingozi? Xa ndithethelela ubundlobongela. Kwibakala yokuba umntwana uza kuthetha ngeliso elicocekileyo: "Kwaye andifuni ukukhubeka!" - kwaye uqhubeke nokukhubekisa. Enyanisweni yokuba, ukuba ubungafuni ukukhubekisa, emva koko wakhubeka njengoko bekungasebenzi."Ungumntwana nje!"
"Kwaye kwipopu?"
Ingozi iyabonakala: Ungabetha, igama lelona mpixano. Kufuneka sithobele lowo ubetha. Ukufezekisa, kufuneka ubethe."Uyakuthanda!"
"Mama, kutheni le nto uVanya lonke likhulule kum?"
Nceda ubambe ngolwimi kwaye ungathethi okubi "kuba uyakuthanda." Ngaba ucinga ukuba iyinyani? Ngaba uyanamathela kuye kuba uyayithanda? Mhlawumbi ngoba ufuna ukudlala naye? Hayi kwakhona.
Inkwenkwe iyakhubekisa intombazana ayikho kuba emthanda! Kwaye akunjalo kuba efuna ukudlala naye! Kwaye ngenxa yokuba engayazi indlela yokuthetha ngokuthe ngqo, ufuna ukudlala naye, akazi ukuba angathini ukubonisa uvelwano ngendlela eqhelekileyo.
Yintoni ingozi? Isibakala sokuba amantombazana aqhele ukuyiqhela into yokuba "ukubetha - kuthetha ukuthanda," kwaye amakhwenkwe aqhele ukubonakalisa uvelwano ngokuhlazeka, kodwa akakhathaleli, imbeko kunye namazwi amahle. Oko kukuthi, ungaziphindezela kwaye ukhubekise, kwaye ukuba uyakuthanda, akukho mfuneko yokuba unikele ingqalelo kwinto yokuba wena ubi.
"Kwaye umxelele ..!"
Ukuba kunjalo, yima. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, iqabane lomntwana wakho ekubulaleni lingenza le nto. Unyana okanye intombi yakho ayiyiqondi nje ukuba yeyiphi na indlela yokuziphatha engamkelekanga. Kwaye rhoqo ngokungqala kulawulo lonxibelelwano lomfazi wakhe / umyeni wakhe, ubundlobongela bengqondo buqala kwiintsapho.
"Yintoni kuwe?"
Ukuba uhlala wenza izimvo ezibalulekileyo malunga nokubonakala kunye nempahla yomntwana, uya kuyiqhela into onokuxoxa ngayo imbonakalo yabanye abantu yinto eqhelekileyo.Kwaye kwixesha elizayo, intombi yakho ayiyi kuqonda ukuba umntu okhethiweyo ziziphatha kakubi kuye, egxeka umntu ...
Intlonelo egqithisileyo
Ngaba i-cruinks inamathela kuwe ngomntwana kwitram? Ngaba umntu ukrwada kuwe esitolo? Utitshala okanye isihlobo esidala sifundisa ukuba umkhulisa njani umntwana wakho (phantsi kwayo)?
Ke nina nizisiwe, anifuni ukungqubana, woyika ukuba krwada. Kwaye uncume ngokuthe cwaka.
Kwaye umntwana emva kokuba uthatha uncumo ukuphendula ukophula imida yakhe, ikwathetha nokubakhusela.