Ingxaki yobudala bomntwana ilapho xa imodeli isebenza ngequbuliso, esebenzayo yokusebenzisana (= imvume yeemeko ezintsonkothileyo) iyekile ukusebenza. Kuqala uyaqonda ukuba kukho into engahambanga kakuhle, umntwana waphule, okanye yintoni? Kubonakala ngathi sele ilawulwe ukuba inyuke naye.
Ke ngezinto ezinkulu okanye ezincinci ezijongene namandla abo. Kwaye ngethuba nje, nokuba lithemba, okanye emva kokufunda iintaba zeencwadi kunye ne-Gigabytes zamanqaku, okanye emva kwencoko ngengcali oyikayo. Kwaye ucango luvula! Ifunyenwe!
Sukuthenga, ungabi nam, hayi ekhaya!
Khange ndiyiqonde ngokukhawuleza oko yayiyiyo. Kwiminyaka eyi-2,5, intombi yasinda kwi-Aneschisia ngokubanzi. Kwaye xa sele engowokuqala (yonke imihla emva kwe-anesthesia), waqala wakhala ngokuhlwa "Hayi uBai, hayi uBai!" Ndagqiba kwelokuba ndisoyika ukulala. Ndamcacisela ukuba umama wayekufuphi nakuba akukho mntu unokwenza nantoni na kuye, ukuba silale ebhedini yethu kwaye sivuke ebhedini yethu ...
Ndaye ndikholelwe nokuba kukho iingxoxo ezisengqiqweni kwabantwana, ezizakuthetha-le yeyona ndlela ilungileyo yokunxibelelana, nokuba incinci kangakanani na.
Ekugqibeleni, ndathatha intombi ezandleni zam, ndaqala ukuswina kwaye ndisaya endaweni ye "Bai-Bai" sang "musani ukuba yi-bai - musani ukubai ...". Kubonakala ngathi sisizathu sengoma yakudala "igqabi yemaphu". Kwaye intombazana ithole.
Kodwa emva koko ndandingaqondi.
Kwaye xa intombi esekupheleni kokuhamba yaqala yakhwaza "hayi ikhaya! Hayi i-homeo! "Ndamcenga, ndamnika ukuba agoduke enye, sithandwa eside, sihamba ukuya endlwini. Ukuhamba ukuya endlwini - yayiyindlela eqhelekileyo yokukhokelela umntwana kuhambo kwiinyanga ezininzi.
Kodwa akazange ancede ekuhambeni endlwini, intombi iqhubeka idanduluka: "HAYI!". Ndikhe ndaqhuma: "Ngaphandle kwekhaya, hayi ukudlala!". Umntwana ngoko nangoko wathi: "Ikhaya! Inaliti! ". Waqala ukujonga emehlweni am: "Ikhaya? Ngaba ufuna? ".
Yayiyindlela yokuqonda.
Emva koko sathetha neenyanga ezimbalwa ezizayo- "Ungangxami!", "Ukungaqokeleli ukungatyeleli", "akufundeli iincwadi." Kude kube yintombi kum "masya, asiyiyo idyokhwe!" Khange ndiphendule: "Mama, ndifuna nje isuphu!" ("Piosto Khatsa ups"). UV, uphumelele ukugqitha, wanxunguphala iAtlantiki (i-Atlantic okanye iBrasssay, ngamanye amaxesha kwinja), unokukhupha.
Uqhankqalazo lweMasi
Guqula iimpahla ngaphambi kokuba ibhedi. Nxiba ukuya kutyelela iLizwe lakho. Hlamba izandla phambi kwesadlozi. "Akunjalo! Hayi! Nooo !!! "" "
Ikwabanjiwe ngokungalindelekanga. Utata waya egumbini, wandibuza ukuba yintoni? Ndaphendula nje: "Amayeza eMas!". Wayijonga imizuzwana embalwa, wajonga kum, nguyise. Emva koko yaqala ukuqhanqalaza kabini ngamandla amabini, enelungelo lokuphumeza ebusweni kunye nenkukhu emehlweni, - Dlala ukuze udlale!
Bendidiniwe kakhulu. Khange ndikhathale, bendifuna ukubeka i-pajamas yakhe. Ndaze ndathi: "Phulaphula, Masya, Makhe ndihambe ngoku, kwaye uya kukuqhathanga. Siya kulala phantsi, ndiza kukuxelela, kwaye mandikuzukise i-Aibolita, kwaye uya kukhalalela ukuba akukho, andifuni! Yiza? "
Eyona nto iphambili yayingafanele ilityalwe ukumkhumbuza xa belala, malunga nomdlalo kunye nokufuna ukuqhanqalaza kunye nokufuna ukwenziwa kwenqanaba.
Isebenza phantse imbi-simahla. Oko kukuthi, ngaphezulu kwesiqingatha samatyala, kwaye oku kuya kuvumelana, kuninzi.
Kwaye ukhwaze?
Intombi yakhwaza, kwabonakala kum phantse. Ngaso nasiphi na isizathu, nakuphi na ukubamba ivule umlomo kwaye: "Aaaaaaa!". Asinguye thina okanye umntu onawo ongummelwane osindayo oku asinakuphinda. Ngokukhethekileyo xa, ngenxa yokukhala, sadutyulwa ngemini yosuku.
Isizathu sokukhwaza sinokuba nantoni na. Badlale ngokuzifihla kwaye bafuna kwaye bengayifuni intombazana ngasemva kwesihlalo, kodwa siphantsi kwesitulo, xa wayefihla ngasemva kweenyawo zikaYise. Ayikwazanga ukupakisha i-banana kwi-Peel Back. Babeka umntwana hayi i-t-shirt okanye inike isipuni esingalunganga (ingeyiyo ethe cwaka). I-Apple yayingenguye umbala, kwaye incwadi ayizange ivulele kuloo phepha.
Bhala umbuzo kwiQonga leMatatur, ngenxa yokuba ikhwaza i-shop yakho eneminyaka emibini ubudala, kwaye ifumane amakhulu amabali anjengethu.
Ngamafutshane, kwafuneka sisindise. Izikhova-hayi. Wakhe wayo wayengakhathalelwanga kwaye akazange aphelelwe. Akazange buthathaka, hayi "icinyiwe" emva kokukhwaza. Khanyeni kwaye uphile. Kodwa inokuvalwa kwimizuzu engama-20 okanye engama-40.
Kwaye satsho ukuba akunyanzelekanga ukuba sikhale ngoku, asibi endlwini, umama akazange akhwaze, utata akazange akhwaze. Kwaye uMasya akadanduluka. Sukukhwaza !!! Kodwa siya kulwandle, bakhwaza apho thina, sahlala ke eMoscow, sada kwangaseRussia. Kodwa masihambe ngeempelaveki ukuya kuhamba, ndikhwaze.
Bekubaluleke kakhulu xa besiya kwindawo ekhuselekileyo, khumbuza le ntombazana kufuneka ukhwaze. Iyafuneka. Wathembisa. UKrychi, Masya!
Kwaye kube kanye ... xa sele ebuze: "Mama, kwaye namhlanje siza kuya elwandle? Ndifuna ukukhwaza! " Hayi indlela ebekranisa ngayo intombi yam ngalo mzuzu! Kwaye ndaye ndaye ndaqonda ukuba yonke into, wayeka ukuba ngumntwana, ngequbuliso - ngobusuku obunye - waguqukela ekubeni ngumntwana nje.
Abazali kufuneka bakwazi ukumelana nabantwana babo
Yayingamava aqinileyo kuthi. Sifunde ukungajongi ukubonakaliswa kwangaphandle, kodwa singena nzulu kwihambo yomntwana, kodwa koko iindleko zokuziphatha.
Sabonisa intombi yam ukuba isenokungakhathazeki ukuba yonke into iphantsi kolawulo. Ukuba sinokuthenjwa, sizinzile, ukuba siya kukumelana naye nawuphi na umntu owing. Kwaye ngoku wavela kwasebusaneni, ngobusuku bakhelela ukuba athethe ngaye "Masya", kwaye waqala wathi "Ndithi," Ukunxibelelana nathi notata.
Ingxaki "hayi" ngamanye amaxesha ibizwa ngokuba kukubonakaliswa kokuqala kokuthanda komntwana.
Kodwa oku akunjalo. Ezi nzame ngandlela thile zijamelana nokuziva ziziva ngokusahlula kubazali, ziqonde, zivakale, zivele, zichonge indawo yakho kusapho, indawo yakho eyahlukileyo. Esi sisiqalo esibizwa ngokuba yintlekele yeminyaka emi-3-yeyona ngxaki yokuziqonda.
Ngoku intombi yam ihlanu. Ubonakala ukuba kwenye ingxaki - ifunda ukuzilawula, ifunda ukujamelana neemvakalelo kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Kwaye kwakhona andinalo ixesha lakhe. Iimodeli eziqhelekileyo ziye zayeka ukusebenza. Ndisathula phakathi kokutshintsha kwengqondo kunye nokuqonda kwam.
Izolo ndikwazile ukulala ngokuqhelekileyo, kodwa yayiyintoni ingozi okanye ifumene indlela yokugqibela? Andazi okwangoku. Ukuba le ayisiyongozi, kunye nengqondo yethu kunye naye, ngokuqinisekileyo ndiya kukuxelela ngayo. Ngenye imini. Xa ndinokuphuma ixesha elithile kwaye ndigxile ... ngenye imini ndiyakwazi ukukusa kwaye ndigxile. Ndiyakholelwa kuyo.
Ugqirha wam owuthandayo uLiane Nedroshvili ukhe wathi: "Kumele abazali babo bazalisile abantwana babo." Kubonakala kum ukuba inzulu kakhulu kwaye ininzi kakhulu. Abantwana bakhula kwaye abanakuhlala bejamelana noko kwenzeka kubo, abanakuhlala ukuzimelana nabo, ngaphandle koncedo.
Emva koko kufuneka sihlangabezane nathi, kufuneka simele. Kuphela, siya kubanceda bahambe ngeendlela zokukhula kwaye babe yinto eqhelekileyo, bazanele, abantwana onokuthethathetha ngayo. Kude kube yintlekele elandelayo. Kwaye ke nje ukuba ndiba ngabantu abadala. Kwaye okuya kuba ngabantu abadala- ivuthile okanye hayi kakhulu-kuxhomekeke ekubeni singabanyamezela na okanye hayi.
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