I-Poland Pavl Zygmantantich inika icebiso elilula, elisebenzayo, indlela yokuqhubeka nothando emtshatweni.
Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba uphile kumtshato wegolide? Ngaba kunokwenzeka ukuba utshate kube kanye? Imibuzo enjalo idla ngokuza-bobabini ngoqeqesho, nakwi-webinars, kunye neposi.
Impendulo yam ngumgangatho. Ewe kunjalo, unako.
Ukugcina ngokusisiseko uthando ngaphezu kweminyaka emithathu kunye nomtshato owonwabisayo owonwabileyo ngobomi-kunokwenzeka. Kuyimfuneko ukwazi ezinye zeempawu zokuziphatha komntu, kwaye ezi mpawu ziqwalasele.
Namhlanje ndiza kukuxelela ngokuthintelwa ngokulula kwenxalenye yeentlekele zosapho (uqhawulo-mtshato, isikrelemnqa, iingxabano, iingxabano). Le ndlela ifikeleleka kakhulu kubantu abaninzi.
Masiqale ngento yokuba ubukho bomntu osondeleyo ecaleni kwethu kumnandi. Ngapha koko, kungenxa yokuba isondele ukuba uyakholiswa bubukho bakhe kufutshane. Okanye-okanye-ke ungatsho-kungenxa yokuba intle loo nto ikufutshane.
Kwangelo xesha, ubukho bomnye umntu isibeka i-US misebenzi eyongezelelweyo. Ngokwesithis-Kuyimfuneko ukuba uthathele ingqalelo umdla wakhe.
Umzekelo olula. Indoda isebenze kakhulu iveki yonke, kwaye ngoMgqibelo ifuna ukulala kude kube ngokuhlwa. Kwaye umfazi ufuna ukuba babe kunye kubazali bakhe - uncedo elizweni.
Kwaye ipuzzle iqala. Ukuyinika? YAKHE? Ngubani oza kuwutshintsha umnqweno wawo, kwaye ngubani owenza owabo? Ngalo lonke ixesha yonke into iconjululwe ngaphezulu. Njengoko besitsho-"kuyo yonke indlu yakho."
Abahlobo, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba uqonde: ubomi kwisibini (kwaye nangaphezulu kusapho) uhlala uhamba nokunganxibelelani neminqweno yabo ngeminqweno yabantu obathandayo. Ngaphandle koko, njengokuba umntu eyeke ukuba lithambe, ubudlelwane buyaphela kwaye kwaye intlekele yosapho ijikeleza.
Kwaye ukuba lonke ixesha onalo lokuphakamisa umdla wakho kunye nezinto obathandayo, oko kuthetha ukuba lonke ixesha ekufuneka ulihambisile i-gyms kwaye ucinge kakhulu. Kuya kufuneka uthintele ezo okanye ezinye iigusha. Kuyimfuneko ukukhangela ezi gust okanye zingakhuselekanga kwezona ndlela zingqongileyo.
Yintoni isiphumo? Ukudinwa.
Ngamanye amaxesha le meko ibizwa ngokuba "yintsapho yeNdlu." Hayi ebomini. Inyani yile yokuba ngamanye amaxesha umntu adinwa rhoqo ukuba agule kwaye u-lineke. Ngasekupheleni, kuvela kakhulu, kwintlungu emazinyweni, umnqweno wokulahla ixesha labo ngokuzimela, ngaphandle kokujonga abanye.
Ngamanye amaxesha umnqweno onjalo usoyisa ngokungacacanga kwaye umntu akasenakuhlala entsatsheni kwaye ihlambe intloko ye-Ekunene-ekhohlo, etshisa iibhulorho kunye nezityalo. Ndithi, Yonke into idiniwe, mna, bathi, Ndifuna ubomi basimahla! Nika!
Emva koko, nangona kunjalo, iza kuqhekeka, kodwa sele ifikile.
Kutheni le nto umnqweno onjalo? Esi sisibonakaliso esinzulu (esinokwenzeka - esisiseko) somntu - imeko ephambili yolonwabo lomntu yile Ulawulo lobomi bakho . Kwimeko apho ihla khona kwaye inxibelelene, ulawulo olunjalo luncitshisiwe kakhulu njengoko uqonda.
Unjani? Ungayizisa njani le ntlekele, uqhawulo-mtshato, ngaphambi kokuba into ingalungiswa.
Impendulo yomphezulu kukuba uzibandakanye kuthintelo. Ngokutsho-zinike "iintsuku ezimbini zokuthula."
Iintsuku ezimbini zolawulo
Malunga nokuthula kwengqondo ebomvu, kwaye iintsuku ezimbini lixesha elicacileyo ngokupheleleyo. Ndiyacacisa.
Iyure okanye ezimbini ezichithwayo ziyimfihlo zinokutshiwo-zodwa, indoda ayifane yanele ukuba iphinde ifumane kwakhona. Ihlala ifuna ngaphezulu. Kwaye hayi ekhaya, ngelixa ubuthongo bakho, kodwa kwenye indawo kwindawo eyahlukileyo ngokupheleleyo. Kwi-cottage, umzekelo. Kwi-sanatorium. Kwindawo yokuhamba. Kutyelelo kwesinye isixeko.
Oko kukuthi, kube kanye - kanye emva kweenyanga ezintandathu kuyavakala ukuqokelela isutikheyisi yendlela kwaye unciphise iintsuku ezimbini ukusuka kusapho.
Kutheni imihla ezimbini? Ukuze iqabane lakho (iqabane) alikhathazeki ngesihloko sokukopa. Iintsuku ezimbini zokuqala okanye ezintathu (kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ezine), umntu "nje ufanele". Iziphoso elunxwemeni, zihamba ngokweenkqubo, ukulala ezitratweni, ezivaleni ezitratweni kunye nokugxininiswa emehlweni. Eyona nto iphambili kukuba awudingi ukuba udibanise nabani na, ixesha lakho lelokwakho kunye nezakho kuphela. Ulawulo lweyakho ngokupheleleyo. Ekugqibeleni!
Inzala kwi-adventure ye-adventure ivuthiwe (ukuba ivuthiwe) kuphela kwiintsuku zesihlanu zokuphumla kuphela.
Kuyavela ukuba ezinye zeentsuku ezimbini ngaphezulu okanye zincinci ngokwaneleyo, kwaye ukuvutha komsindo - hayi. Uthintelo luhlala luluncedo kumtshato kwaye kwangaxeshanye lukhuselekile.
Iyenza nini ingqondo yokuqalisa uthintelo? Ingcebiso ngokubanzi-kwiminyaka emithathu emva komtshato. Kwimeko nganye, ewe, imihla ebekiweyo inokutshintsha, kodwa ngokubanzi-kwiminyaka emithathu.
Ngubani abantwana-unyaka emva kokuzalwa, kufuneka uqale ngokuchanekileyo. Ngapha koko, kubantu "bade baza kubalwa ixesha elide.
Ewe, umbuzo wokugqibela kukuba ungowokuthintela i-panacea? Hayi, kunjalo, ayikho. Kodwa ukuba ayenzi, ke uthando lothando luninzi kakhulu, lunzima ngakumbi.
Ukucebisa ngempilo!