Bafuna ukuba loo mdala okanye akunjalo, bayayithanda okanye abathandi, abakwishumi elivisayo babelane ngesondo. Kwaye awukwazi ukwenza nantoni na ngayo. Kodwa ungabafundisa ukuba bakhuselwe kwaye bacele imvume yeqabane. Kodwa ngaba ihlala inesini ekwishumi elivisayo - Ngaba yi-sents? Ngaba iinjongo zesini esikwishumi elivisayo?
Masizame ukufumanisa ukuba, ukongeza ingozi yokwabelana ngesondo, iminqweno, umnqweno wokuziyolisa umzimba wakho, ukongeza kuthando kunye nolonwabo kulutsha.
Yintoni ebudeni
-Umnqweno wokufumana imvume yeqela lereferensi - abahlobo, intombi, kwiklasi, iinkokeli. "Anjani? ..." "Kwaye anina mantombazana?" "Ndiyintombi enyulu ?!"-Ukufuna ukwazi.
-Inkampani nje kuphela. Intoni? Ngaba ukhe wenza nantoni na kwiNkampani? Khange uhlambe uhamba ze ebusuku? Khange umsi? Khange usele? Khange afumane ikhonsathi okanye kwiRALY? Khange uhleke ngokungathanda? Kwaye azizinzile ezo, zinokuba neentlobano zesini (uqokelela umntwana ofikisayo kwitheko lomngcipheko, ndiyeke / iikhondom zakhe kwinkampani iphela.
Kwaye ukuba uyambeka? Yintoni etyhoboza ulutsha 'kwii-paws zesini'?
Ukuze umnqweno wokufumana imvume yamaqabane (kwaye ungabi-phawu kwiphakathi) rhoqo kukho ixhala lilonke.
Malunga nexhala elisetyenziselwa abantwana abafikisayo, itsho i-Psychologist Tatyana Abramova:
"Ulutsha lukhula. Bakhula ngokwasemzimbeni, ngokweemvakalelo. Kweli xesha, iihomoni "zenqanawa ngamandla ayoyikisayo." Utshintsho lomzimba, woyisa iimvakalelo ezintsha ezingaqhelekanga, ndifuna into. "Iibhuleki azisebenzi." Oku kuhamba kunye nokudinwa ngokwasemzimbeni kunye nokuhamba ngelo xesha. Ulutsha oluphambili aluphindelanga nabo.
Kubonakala ngathi sele beziva beziphethemeleyo, kunye nabo basukela ubukhangela iimpazamo, uloyiko lokungasebenzi.
Kwaye ndifuna ukwamkelwa, ndibe "kwinqanaba", ndifuna ukuba "njengabo bonke abanye."
Kwaye abazali bathathwa njengencinci kwangaxeshanye ...
... kwaye abakulungelanga ukubanika inkululeko enkulu, kodwa bayadinga, kodwa basoyika abantwana ngaphambi kokutyalwa kwabantwana (kwaye baphumza ubomi babo) basulele uxinzelelo lwabo.
Ewe, abazali bahlala becaphukisa abantwana ngesondo kwangoko: uloyiko lwabo phambi kokukhulelwa kwangoko, ngaphambi kwe-HIV, ngokungakwazi ukuthetha ngayo, ukugcina iinzame zabo zokugcina ngokwesini zabo.
Isondo ihlala ibangela uxinzelelo. "
Ke ilala njenge Ixhala lokunciphisa iindlela.
Isondo njengezigqibo zokuzimela: "Wonke umntu uxelelwa, kodwa andinamava, enjengokupha njengeminyaka sele isondele, kodwa andazi."
Ukwabelana ngesondo njengomphawu lokuba mdala.
Isondo njenge-tranquilizer. Sithetha ngoxinzelelo ngesondo.
Isondo njenge-psychostilator . Incoko malunga nenqwelomoya kwi-nyani ngokwesondo: umntu osela umntu, umntu usebenzisa iziyobisi, umntu othile unomdla wokwabelana ngesondo.
Ukuthathwa kwesondo kunye nokuhlisela kuyo yonke into kwaye yonke into iyakwenza umsebenzi wayo.
Isondo kunye nexabiso lesini esahlukileyo kwinkcubeko enkulu kunye nentengiso (Yeyiphi imvelaphi yobomi ephambili) ifayilishwe njengomgangatho ophambili womntu. Ukuqwalaselwa kwesini sabo kuba ngummiselo wokungaguquguquki, ubukho kunye nenani lesondo-umlinganiso wempumelelo.Umnqweno kunye nokulungela isini ulingana nothando. Ubudlelwane kunye nabatyali abahlukileyo azithintelwanga ngaphandle kwesondo kwaye ziyinciphisa.
Isondo ifumana inkanuko ezizimeleyo. Ngayo yonke imiphumo yolwamkelo olandelayo, enjengesonkalelo, i.e., ukulinganisa abafazi kunye namantombazana emzimbeni wabo njengento enomzimba wesondo kunye "namandla esondo". Yintoni, ekhokelela ekungakwazini ukwakha ubudlelwane bakho kwaye ube nobudlelwane.
UKira Weber, i-Adwagog, umqeqeshi waseburhulumenteni, umlamli wembambano:
"Abakwishumi elivisayo ukuya kwisondo kwangoko batyhalela kakhulu inkanuko yonxibelelwano, umanyano, umnqweno wokuzifumanisa ngokwale meko. Esi sisidingo sokwanelisa iinethiwekhi zentlalo, kwaye zininzi kakhulu. Kwimeko yoxinzelelo lokwabelana ngesondo ngokupheleleyo kunye ne-Eroticism, abakwishumi elivisayo bazama ukwanelisa le ntswelo "ayisiyiyo indawo."
Yintoni enokukhokelela kuyo? Ukwabelana ngesondo yindlela yonxibelelwano (ukumisela i-psychologist i-mikhail likvaka). Oko kukuthi, eyona iphakamileyo, ngokupheleleyo, kwaye kukusondela kwinqanaba elinobuhlobo. Xa isondo senzeka kwisiseko sokuzithemba kwaye sele sakhile ubudlelwane, hayi kwiminqweno yoqhagamshelo lwengqondo, inqamleza - endaweni yokudibanisa. "
Ukwabelana ngesondo njengento yothando kunye nobuhlobo
Ukunxanelwa ubushushu, ukuthatha inxaxheba - ukusondelelana ngokweemvakalelo-kunokuneliswa ngenxa yokusondela komzimba. Kwaye sithetha ngomntwana ovuthayo entsatsheni kusapho, nakwiingcamango ezingabonakaliyo ezinxulumene nokwahlukana kwendalo.
Iqondo eligqithileyo lokulamba lentliziyo lingumzungu, xa umntwana okwishumi elivisayo engenabahlobo abasenyongweni, "unokumtyhalela ukuba amtyhafise lowo ucebisayo ngesondo.
Ukungakwazi ukuba ngabahlobo kwaye ngokubanzi ukunxibelelana ngobunzima ngokuvuka kwesondo kunokwenza ukuba kube kanye endaweni yeqabaza.
Ukungakwazi ukuba ngumhlobo yingxaki eqhelekileyo yabantwana. Iiklasi zabantwana abaninzi (zonke zenzelwe uphuhliso kunye nemfundo elungileyo), ukungabikho kobomi kunye 'nokuvalwa "kwizixeko ezikhulu kukhokelela kwinto yokuba ubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo bungakubotshelwa phakathi kwabantwana.
Uninzi lonxibelelwano phakathi kwabantwana lwenzeka kwiiklasi ngokubanzi ukuze lusetyenziswe, kwaye ungasekelwanga kuvelwano kunye nomdla ophakathi okanye xa abantwana bekwiminyaka emininzi kufutshane).
Xa abantwana bekhula, kuyavuma ukuba intombazana iyadingeka, kwaye wenza ntoni naye, inkwenkwe ingayazi kakuhle ...
Iimpawu zoluntu
Kwangelo xesha, umfana oqhelekileyo wafundiswa ukuba kufuneka afezekise, aphumelele. Ukujongana rhoqo, iMfazwe, iMfazwe yenye yeziseko zoluntu. Ukwabelana ngesondo kubafana ikwayindawo yokulwa, i-arena yezinto eziphunyeziweyo.Ugqirha wezengqondo Harry Colman:
"Amakhwenkwe abangela ukuba ubudoda babo ngokwenyama, kwaye ukusukela ngokobubi kuluntu lwethu, ke yonke into ihla kwisondo okanye izenzo ezikufuphi, kwaye" ingenguye umntu. "
Amantombazana asahlala emiselwa ukuba nomonde, ububele, ohambelana nayo. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, amantombazana amaninzi ayakhula azisole, kwaye emadodeni, ubukho bendoda ebomini igqiba ukungqinelana kwezentlalo yomfazi.
Kwaye intombazana ithathe ingqalelo kumakhwenkwe, iphantsi ... okanye ayizi nje ukuba ingayixhathisa uxinzelelo. "
I-PSCHOLOLOGIST TATYAANA ABHAMMVA:
"Nokuba amadoda acinga ngamanye amaxesha abe yinto yokutyhilwa kwemida yogonyamelo. Bakhwankqisiwe, bacinga ukuba le yinto eqhelekileyo - uxinzelelo oluqhubekayo kunye nentshutshiso. Ngaphezulu kwamantombazana aya kunxibelelana nemfuno yokuthotyelwa kwe-stereotypes ethile. Isibheno sangaphandle selona lamandla aphambili okukhuthaza nokwazi. Ngelishwa. "
Yintoni omele uyenze ngayo - yinyani yokuba abantwana babelane ngesondo?
Akukho nto. Umntwana ukhulile. Ungasifaka kuphela isitokhwe seekhondomu kwaye uxelele ngemingcipheko. Kwaye usete imigaqo. Uxolo, xoxa. "Faka" abakwishumi elivisayo abayi kudlula.
Zithini ezi nngcipheko?
1. Umngcipheko wokukhulelwa okungafunekiyo.
2. Umngcipheko wokosuleleka kwizifo ezidluliselwa ngesondo.
3. Umngcipheko wosulelo lwe-HIV.
Uxanduva lwale mingcipheko ngamaqabane amabini!
Njengo:
1. Umngcipheko wokuba udlwengulwe amantombazana.
2. Umngcipheko wokuba udlwengulwe kwinkwenkwe.
3. Umngcipheko wokuba nguMpu umdlwenguli.
Uxanduva lwale sogu mngcipheko uhlala ukho umntu onguMdli!
Nguwuphi umthetho?
1. Iikhondom, nokuba ezinye iindlela zokuthintela ziyasetyenziswa.
2. Imvume yelizwi. Ukuqonda nokwamkela ukuba "hayi" akunjalo. Nokuba kukungabikho kokucacileyo "ewe" "ngu". Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kumakhwenkwe.
3. Kwaye kwakhona kumakhwenkwe-musa ukuyicenga, unganikezeli, "Hayi" ayikho.
4 Ukuba awufuni, ukuba ungoyiki, ukuba woyika, ukuba awuyithandi le ndawo, ukuba akunjalo ngexesha, yithi hayi. Oku kuyinyani ngakumbi kumantombazana. Ukuba inkwenkwe ikhutyekisiwe yenu "Hayi" -Ungenakubeka ityala ngeemvakalelo zakhe. Ukuba isoyikisa "Yiba ngabahlobo" emva kokwala (okanye esongela enye into) yi-blackmail, kwaye i-blackmail ayifanelekanga kwaye ayikhathali. Kunye nokungakhuselekanga.
5. "Hayi" zinokubhekisa kuzo zombini ukuya kwisondo kunye neengcali zesondo ezahlukeneyo.
6. Ngokufanelekileyo, ukulala ngesondo kuphela kwintloko ecocekileyo. Umntu ophantsi kwesenzo sotywala sikwimeko etshintshiweyo yokwazi, akukho mbuzo wokuqonda kwaye ngokucacileyo uyavuma ukuya. Intombazana isela-ungachukumisi. Ndizisele-yi-hayi. Wazisela yena-musa ukunamathela. I-DREAMIT YINGCIKA-yitsho.
7. Isondo kuphela phantsi kweemeko eziqhelekileyo - ngezandla ezicocekileyo kunye nemizimba yesini kwindlu ecocekileyo kwiphepha elicocekileyo.
Ufuna okanye hayi, abakwishumi elivisayo babelana ngesondo. Kwaye eyona ilungileyo sisimo sakho sengqondo esifanelekileyo malunga noku. Ngokunjalo nohlaziyo oluqhelekileyo lwesitokhwe seikhondom ezikumgangatho ophezulu ebhegini okanye ebhegini emntwaneni nasekuxubusheni imigaqo ecacileyo necacileyo yokuziphatha okukhuselekileyo ngokwesini.
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