Iimpawu zobuntu obugcweleyo kwaye ezihambelana ne-disclounalysis ye-psychoanalylis mc williams.
1. Nika uthando
Amandla okubandakanyeka kubudlelwane, vula omnye umntu. Mthande njengoko kunjalo: ngazo zonke iintsilelo kunye nezibonelelo. Ngaphandle kokusebenza kunye nokuhla kwexabiso. Oku kukukwazi ukupha, ukungathathi.Oku kukwasebenza nakwiThando labazali labantwana, kunye nothando oluhlangeneyo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi.
2. Ukukwazi ukusebenza
Asingomsebenzi kuphela. Ngokuyintloko ngokuyintloko malunga nokukwazi ukudala nokwenza oko kubalulekile emntwini, usapho, uluntu.
Abantu kubalulekile ukufezekisa oko bakwenzayo, kwenza ukuba babe nengqondo kunye nentsingiselo kwabanye. Obu bantu bazisa into entsha emhlabeni, amandla okuyila. Rhoqo ngokuntsonkothaka kolutsha.
3. Ukukwazi ukudlala
Apha sithetha zombini malunga "nomdlalo" ngengqondo yokoqobo, njengabantwana kwaye malunga nobuchule babantu abadala ukuba 'badlale "ngamazwi, iisimboli. Lithuba lokusebenzisa izafaniso, ulungelelwano, ukuhlekisa, lufuzisela amava akho kwaye ufumane ulonwabo kuyo.Izilwanyana ezincinci zihlala zidlala kusetyenziswa umnxibelelaniso womzimba, obaluleke kakhulu kuphuhliso lwabo. Kwangelo xesha, ukuba izilwanyana azivumelekanga ukuba zidlale usuku olunye, emva koko ziya kuyithatha ukuze zidlale ngenzondelelo kabini. Izazinzulu ziqhuba i-anaglogy nabantu kwaye zigqibe kwelokuba, mhlawumbi, ihyperactivity ebantwaneni sisiphumo sokungabikho kokudlala.
Ukongeza, kuloluntu lwanamhlanje kukho inxenye eqhelekileyo kwinto esiyekayo ukudlala. Imidlalo yethu evela kwi "Esebenzayo" iguqukele "ukujonga okuphezulu". Sisemde omncinci, sicule, sizibandakanya kwezemidlalo, ngakumbi sibukele abanye. Ndiyazibuza ukuba zeziphi izinto ezenziwayo zempilo yengqondo? ..
4. Ulwalamano olukhuselekileyo
Ngelishwa, ngokufuthi abantu ababhenela kwi-psychotherapy banogonyamelo, besongela, bexhomekeke - kwelinye igama, ubudlelwane obungenampilo. UJohn Boylby wachaza iintlobo ezintathu zokuncamathisela: Ukuqhekeka, ukothusa (kunzima ukuthwala "into ebonakalayo) kwaye ihamba ngokulula i-alasm engekho ngaphakathi).
Emva koko, olunye uhlobo lwesinamathiselo lwakhutshwa - lwakhutshwa (i-D-uhlobo): Abantu abanolu hlobo lwesinamathiselo behlala besabela umntu ofudumeleyo njengomthombo wobushushu noloyiko. Olu luphawu lwabantu abanenqanaba lomda lombutho, kwaye uhlala uqaphele emva kobundlobongela okanye ukwaliwa njengomntwana. Abantu abanjalo "banamathela" kwinto yothando kwaye kwangaxeshanye "baluma".
Ngelishwa, ukophula umthetho yinto eqhelekileyo kakhulu. Kodwa iindaba ezilungileyo kukuba uhlobo lwesincamathiselo lunokutshintshwa. Njengomthetho, i-psychotherapy ilungele oku (ukusuka kwiminyaka emibini okanye engaphezulu). Kodwa kunokwenzeka ukuba utshintshe uhlobo lokuncamathisela kunye nobukho bexesha elizinzileyo, elikhuselekileyo, elingaphezulu kweminyaka emi-5) ubudlelwane kunye neqabane.
5. Ukuzimela
Kubantu ababhenela kwi-psychoperapy, ukuswela kwayo (kodwa amandla amakhulu, kuba bonke beza kunyango). Abantu abayenzi into abayifunayo. Abanalo nexesha lokuba "bakhetha" (baphulaphule) into oyifunayo.Kwangelo xesha, i-Itsolonorm Inokonwatyiswa kwezinye iindawo zobomi. Umzekelo, izigulana eziphethwe yi-Anorexia zihlala zizama ukulawula into ebonakala ifikeleleke kubo, ukukhetha endaweni yeminqweno yabo - ubunzima babo.
6.Ukuzinzakalise kwaye into
Oku kukwazi ukuhlala unxibelelana namacala akho onke: okulungileyo nokubi, ukuvuya kunye nokungakhanyisi. Kukwakwazi ukuziva ungqubano kwaye ungahlukani.
Unxibelelwano phakathi komntwana bendinguye, ndingubani ngoku, kwaye umntu endiya kuba kwiminyaka eli-10. Amandla okuthatha ingqalelo kwaye adibanise yonke into enikezwe ngokwendalo kunye nento endiye ndakwazi ukuhlakuza kum.
Omnye wolwaphulo-mthetho wale nto isenokuba "kukuhlaselwa" ngomzimba wayo, xa ungaziqondanga njengenxalenye yedwa. Iba yinto eyahlukileyo onokuyisika okanye uyilambe.
7. Ubuchule bubuyiselwe emva koxinzelelo
Ukuba umntu unamandla aneleyo, xa ijongene noxinzelelo, ayiguli, ayisebenzisi ukhuseleko olunye oluphambili ukuphuma kwayo. Iyakwazi ukuziqhelanisa nemeko entsha.
8. Ukuzithemba okuqinisekileyo kunye nokuthembeka
Uninzi lwabantu alunangqondo kwaye kwangaxeshanye luyazivavanya kakhulu, ligxeke i-harsh super ego. Kuyenzeka kwaye, ngokuchaseneyo, ukuzithemba okungaphezulu kakhulu.Bayamdumisa abantwana, bafuna ukuba neyona nto ibalaseleyo, kuquka "abantwana" ababalaseleyo ". Kodwa indumiso enjalo engenangqondo, ihluthwa yinyani yothando kunye nobushushu, ithendela abantwana ukuba babe ngamandla. Abaqondi ukuba ngoobani enyanisweni, kwaye kubonakala ngathi akukho mntu ubaziyo ngokwenene. Abantu abanjalo bahlala besenza ngokungathi bayafanelekile, nangona enyanisweni babengayifumani.
9. Inkqubo yokuSebenza yeZifundo
Kubalulekile ukuba umntu ayiqonde imigangatho yokuziphatha, intsingiselo yabo, ngaphandle kokuguquguquka malunga nabo. Kwinkulungwane ye-Xix, babethetha "ngobuhlanya" - ngoku kukwingxaki yokuphazamiseka kobuntu. Le yingxaki enkulu enxulumene nokungaqondi, ngokusebenzisa umntu ngemilinganiselo nemigaqo-siseko. Ngapha koko, ezinye izinto ezivela kolu luhlu zinokusindiswa ebantwini ngeengxaki ezinjalo.
10. Ukukwazi ukususa imvakalelo
Ukwenza iimvakalelo-kuthetha ukubanakho ukuhlala nabo, yiva, ngelixa ungaziphathi kakuhle. Kukwamakhulelo ngaxeshanye ukuhlala ekunxibelelaneni kwaye neemvakalelo, kunye neengcinga-Inxalenye yayo.11. UKUZONWABISA
Ukukwazi ukuhlala e-Ego-Dysshop, amandla okujonga ngokwakho njengoko kwakuvela. Abantu abanomdla banokwazi ukubona ukuba yintoni kanye kanye ingxaki, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo, ukwenza ngayo ngendlela yokuzinceda, kangangoko kunokwenzeka ngokuzinceda.
12. UKUHLAZIYA
Ukuba nobuchule, abantu bayaqonda ukuba abanye ubuntu bomntu ngamnye, kunye neempawu zabo, isakhiwo sabo kunye nengqondo. Enjalo abantu babona umahluko phakathi kwento abaziva bekhutyekiswa emva kokuba amazwi omntu kunye nabo babefuna ukukhubekisa okanye baziva bengabangelwa ngamava abo, kunye neempawu zabo.13. Ukwahluka kweendlela ezikhuselayo kunye nokuguquguquka kokusetyenziswa kwazo
Xa, kuwo onke amatyala kwaye kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo, umntu unodidi olunye lokhuseleko yintlawulelo.
14. Ibhalansi Ngeli xesha ndizenzela ngokwam kunye nendalo yam
Oku malunga nokubanakho ukuba ngaba kwaye unakekele iimfuno zethu, kuthathelwa ingqalelo iimfuno zeqabane olwalusona nolwalamano.
15. Imvakalelo yokuqina
Amandla okuba kwaye uzive uphilile. UWinnikot wabhala ukuba umntu unokusebenza ngokuqhelekileyo, kodwa kubonakala ngathi akaphilanga. Uninzi lwengqondo kunye nonyango lwengqondo lwabhala ngoxinzelelo lwangaphakathi.16. Ukuthatha okungathethekiyo
Obu banobuchule bokunyaniseka kwaye balusizi ngokunyaniseka, bethatha usizi ngenxa yokuba akunakwenzeka ukuba utshintshe. Ukwamkelwa kwemida kunye nokulila kwento esingathanda ukuba nayo, kodwa asinayo.
Yiba sempilweni ngengqondo!