Ingcali yengqondo UArthur Aron yangqina ukuba "ukuchitha ixesha elininzi kunye," njengokuba uninzi lweengcali zengqondo zicebisa, phantse alinamsebenzi. Endaweni yoko, wafumana enye indlela, inguqu kunye nengxaki. Siza kuthetha ngayo ngoku.
UArthur Aron, ugqirha wezengqondo waseMelika, akaziwa kuphela yimibuzo nje engama-36, ngoncedo olunokuthi luthande ukuthandana nomntu ongamaziyo kwaye luthando lwakho. Inzululwazi, uphonononge into yengqondo yothando. Amava malunga "Ukuthandabuza imibuzo engama-36" wamiselwa kwiminyaka engamashumi amabini eyadlulayo kwaye esenza umbono omangalisayo. Kodwa uthando, ekugqibeleni, ityala ilula, ezibuza ngokwenene indlela kunokwenzeka ukulondoloza imvakalelo, ukuba ziziswe ngaphesheya namashumi abahlala kunye, ukuhlamba, abantwana, izilwanyana, ubunzima kunye nezifo.I-ARTER ARINA no Lo mbuzo unempendulo enomdla kakhulu, ngokucacileyo ithembekile.
Ukwandisa ubuntu: I-vem ephambili
I-Aornon inamathela kwithiyori yokuya ngokusisigxina komntu ngamnye. Oku kuthetha ukuba ubuntu bethu bufuna ukonyuka ngokobukhulu ngalo lonke ixesha, befumana ulwazi olutsha, iimpembelelo kunye novavanyo. Uhlobo lwe "Cadavr, ongonelisekanga ngengqondo." Kwaye eyona ndlela yokwandisa umntu uba yinoveli okanye uthando. Ubuntu buphelelwe kukunkcitho kweqabane- ivumba elitsha, iimvakalelo ezintsha, ulwazi olutsha, abahlobo kunye nezihlobo.
Kwaye oku, kunjalo, iNkqubo yoThengiso, ubuntu beqabane bayanda. Apha, ngendlela, esinye sezizathu zokuba sihlukane nobuntu, endaweni yokwandisa ubuntu kukho unciphiso, uxinzelelo, kwaye le yinkqubo yengqondo ye-psyche.
Ithiyori efanayo ichaza ukwehla kokuhlaziywa kwamaqabane kubudlelwane boLod. Ixesha lokuqala elimangalisayo lokulwa ukwanda, xa abantu begxume kunye kude kuse, bahlulwe yizakhono, iimfihlakalo kunye ne-cuscottes yeposi, sele idlulile (ngokufuthi ithatha iinyanga ezintandathu iminyaka emibini). Kwaye ke esi sibini sazi yonke into malunga nomnye, kwaye ukwanda kokuyeka.
Ngamanye amaxesha, kuyanceda ekuqaliseni abantwana-oku kukwafaka igalelo ngokwandiswa kokwazi. Bantwana bakhula ngalo lonke ixesha, batshintsha ixesha lonke, balivulele ilizwe- kwaye siyenzela nabo. Kodwa kuninzi lwababini lokuvuma ngokusisigxina, abantakwenu azange banele.
Uvavanyo lomntu
Konke kujongeka kanjalo njengendawo nje yobungqina obuvela kubungqina bukaKapteni, kodwa akunjalo. I-Aron kunye noogxa babo bachitha iimvavanyo ezinomdla kakhulu ezinxulumene nobudlelwane bexesha elide. Uthathe izibini ezingama-53 ezitshatileyo ezihlala ziluphakamileyo kwaye waziqinisekisa iiveki ezilishumi ukuba alandele imiyalelo yakhe, achitha iiyure ezinesiqingatha kwiveki ukuya kwiiklasi ezithile.Isithathu saba maqabane kwakufuneka sikhethe iholide esebenzayo, ixesha elitsha lokuzonwabisa: Skis, ukuhamba ngeenyawo, ukudanisa, iikonsathi. Iqela lesibini lalifanele ukujongana "nethandekayo", kodwa izinto ezihlaziyiweyo: I-cinema, iivenkile zokutyela, zihamba ziye kubahlobo. Iqela lesithathu yayilulawulo kwaye lenzanga nto.
Kwavela ukuba inqanaba lolwaneliseko lomtshato laliphezulu kakhulu kwabo babenembono emangalisayo nemangalisayo yokuzonwabisa esebenzayo.
Uvavanyo oluchanekileyo nolwenziwa ngononophelo lwabekwa elabhoratri. Izibini ezinesiqingatha zanyanzeleka ukuba zijongane nento eqhelekileyo yemicimbi yekhaya, umzekelo. Isiqingatha sesibini sanyanzelwa ukuba sizibandakanye kwingcakalo engaqhelekanga kunye nokungcakaza, oko: babotshwe omnye komnye amaqatha kunye nee-Wrists kwaye banyanzelwa ukuba bakhawuleze iintloko zincinci kwaye zingabi ngumgqomo wazo omncinci kwaye hayi kakhulu.
Kwakuyimfuneko ukwenza oku okwethutyana, kwaye abavavanyi babethunyelwa kwaye benjenjalo ukuba izihlandlo ezibini esi sibini asinakukwazi ukudibana ngexesha elibekiweyo, kwaye okwesithathu akunakuba nzima. Ke iimvavanyo ezisemgangathweni sele zililinganise inqanaba lolwaneliseko nobudlelwane, kwaye yayisoloko ityhila ukuba abo batyhalela i-barrel barrel yayingaphezulu kakhulu kunabo banamaza.
Ayisiyongqondo yokucoca iitapile kunye
Eyona nto iphambili kukuba le mfundiso isikhokelela kwiNgxoxo yeengcali zengqondo zosapho kunye kunye nokuzibandakanya kumakhaya-opheleleyo. "Ukuba ubudlelwane abuniki amathuba okwandisa umntu, ukufumana amaqabane kufutshane nolwalamano kunokwenzakalisa kuphela." Ngamanye amagama, kutheni uchithe ixesha elininzi kunye, ukuba kungenziwa ixeshana ekujonganeni neerilailis ezifanayo kunye nokucoca okufanayo?
UGqr. Aron ecebisa ukuphepha indlela. Kucacile ukuba ayizizo zonke izibini ezitshatileyo ziya kukwazi ukuya e-Evests kunye okanye zinyibilike kwimilambo yentaba. Kodwa nangayiphi na imeko, isidlo sangokuhlwa kufuneka sihambe rhoqo indawo yokutyela eyahlukileyo, kwaye ayisoloko ifana. Kwaye ayinamsebenzi ukuba indawo yokutyela oyithandayo ilungile, kwaye wonke umntu sisiqhelo. Kuya kufuneka sizame ukuzama ukuzama iintombi ezintsha rhoqo ngempelaveki, zenze izinto ezahlukileyo, kwaye zenze kunye.