Xa abantu ababini, iintliziyo ezimbini ezinothando, bagqiba kwelokuba baluphelise ubudlelwane ne-Uzami Gimenta, kunqabile ukuba abanye amaqabane banokucinga ngobomi bentsapho obuzayo. Kubonakala ngathi ubudlelwane bothando obulungileyo buza kuhlala ngonaphakade. Kodwa ndaphinda ndaphinda ndakhwaza, uhambo lomtshato lwaya esiphelweni. Amaqabane angena elona xesha libalulekileyo neliyikisayo, elibizwa ngokuba ngumtshato.
Ukuba ufuna ukuba ubudlelwane bakho buvavanywe ngomlilo namanzi, ubomi obuqhelekileyo bemihla, kuya kufuneka ulungiselele ngasemva, uqokelele ulwazi malunga nokuchitha umtshato wakho okanye wenze ubomi kuyo bunganyamezeleki. Sukuphinda ujonge umtshato wakho amandla akho. Awu, njengokuba uzilolonga ibonisa, ayinguye wonke umntu onokujamelana nobomi bosapho. Masijongane neempazamo eziqhelekileyo.
Inombolo yempazamo 1. Ukuba unqwenela ukuba umtshato wakho uye wahlukana, ngekhe uxubushe ubomi bosapho bakho kunye nexhoba lakho.
Kutheni ixesha lixoxa ngemicimbi enomdla. Ngapha koko, yonke into iya kuba njengoko uthatha isigqibo. Ukongeza, unonxibelelwano oluqinileyo lwe-telepathic kunye nomyeni wakho wexesha elizayo, kunye neembono zakho ezihambelana ne-99, 9%.
Ke ngoko, mhlawumbi awuyi kumangaliswa xa ufumanisa umyeni omtsha malunga nezicwangciso zakho zokuya emsebenzini, kwaye uphendule ukuva iTirade ukuba umfazi wakhe ufanele ukuhlala ekhaya, anikele ngobomi kwaye azala abantwana. Kwaye umsebenzi yishishini eliyindoda. Okanye awuyi kucaphukisa uluvo lokuba emva komtshato kuya kufuneka uphile iminyaka eli-10 ubudala kuMama wakhe, umkhwe wakho othandekayo. Ngapha koko, umyeni uyakulungela umntu osebenzayo.
Ke ngoko, ukuba awufuni ukuqaqamba kunye nokugxeka okuthe tye, kulusu ", yintoni enokubakho apha," ixoxa ngaphaya kwezinto zaphambi kwexesha, kodwa ungaweli.
Inombolo yempazamo 2. Awunayo inkalipho eyaneleyo yokwenza incoko malunga nezemali. Awufuni kubonakala kubonakala ngathi nguMercantile kunye ne-petty ekhethekileyo.
Zingaphi iintsapho ezifungayo zemihla ngemihla kwaye iyure ngenxa yemali, kuba zifikile nje ukuze zisombulule lo mbuzo kwangoko. Thatha isigqibo malunga nesihloko esibini ngokukhawuleza kwaye ufake ukuba uza kunikwa i-ostenas nganye kuni, nikachithe malini ekuzonwabiseni nasekunye njalo.
Inombolo yempazamo 3. Iqabane lakho ayingoyena mntu ugqibeleleyo, emva koko, emva kokuba umtshato kufuneka wenze into efanelekileyo kuyo, esele ihleli entlokweni yakho.
Emanzi aphezulu umphefumlo womphefumlo, ucinga uphononongo uphonononga imfezeko. Isilo, mhlawumbi, akwenzeki. Mhlawumbi ngumama wakho kuphela, kuba ndikhulise ummangaliso onjalo. Kodwa umyeni wakho uyakhulela kuwe. Bala ukuba abantu abatshintshi kwaye baphumle. Indoda ehlaziyiweyo ayinangqondo, iyavakala ukuyisamkela ngezinto ezingalunganga. Ewe, i-snores ephupheni, ayizange itshintshe ityhubhu evela kumazinyo, kwaye ayinakufumana isokisi yesibini ngaphandle koncedo lwakho. Uye wathandana nalo mntu, uze wamkela iintsilelo zayo, gcina iirvengs zamacala amabini.
Sukugxeka, kodwa cebisa ngobunono. Ngamanye amaxesha ithoni yentetho yomntu ithuka, ivuyiwe ukuba yenze yonke into ngokuchaseneyo.
Khohlwa igama elithi "amanzi liloliwe." Ubudlelwane bakho buya kuba sisitshetshe esithile.
Ulibale amagama athwele i-scaval eqinisekisiweyo "uphinda ..." kwaye "awusoze ..."
Mhlawumbi umyeni uya kuzama ukulungisa ezinye izinto ezingalunganga. Zonke izinto zingafezekanga, kodwa i-caps ekwithiwekhi ithe yenzeka.
Inombolo yempazamo 4. Ukuba ufuna ukuwa kunye nabazali baba bantu kunye nabanye abantu, bahlala kunye. Musa ukuchitha imali kunye nexesha lokukhangela indlu nganye.
Uninzi lwethu, esona isono sifihlayo, sifumane izibonelelo ezininzi ekuhlaleni ngokuhlala nabazali. Umzekelo, ukonga. Ngeentlawulo zezixhobo, ukutya. Akukho sidingo sokunika imali yakho komnye umntu okanye umakazi. Kungcono ukuya elwandle ukuze uthenge intsha okanye ezinye iibhutsi. Khumbula, ubomi obudibeneyo nabazali bube ngamandla ngakumbi kubuhlobo bomtshato.
Ngokusondeleyo. Ke ukukhutshwa. Jonga ukhetho lomntu ngamnye. Ibiza kakhulu, kude, akukho mali yaneleyo? Ukuba unombuzo ke, emva koko cinga ngesizathu sokuba ungene kwilinye inyameko, ukuba ushiywe kwinqanaba labantwana abangakwaziyo ukubonelela ngezindlu, bade basuswe ekuqaleni.
Inombolo yempazamo 5. Awuthandi umama wakhe uze ungayifihli. Lowo ungumanyano uyanamathela kuwe ngalo lonke ixesha, ukhubekile, nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukugxininisa.
Umxholo kanina womkhwekazi kunye nomthetho--mla-ngumntu ongena nzulu kakhulu. Kwanele ukukhumbula ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba uzinyanzele ukuthanda umkhwekazi wam. Ngobudenge abo bayeni bagxeka abafazi ngokungabikho kothando kumama wabo. Hlonipha umkhwekazi ongumkhwekazi kuya kufuneka. Okanye udale ukubonakala kwentlonipho. Molo ubuhlobo, uvuyisana ngeholide. Ubuncinci kunjalo.
Umgaqo weGolide: Ungaze ugculele umama wendoda yenu, musa ukuwela eli nqaku. Nokuba indoda yakho ngokwakhe iyanxulumana nayo, nokuba iyakhuthaza ukuncokola, zigcine ezandleni zakho. Isizathu silula. Uya kuyikhumbula le nto, kwaye ngengxabano ngokuqinisekileyo ukhumbula ukuba uziva unetyala. Musa ukuvumela isixhobo esinamandla sokuxabana, kuba ayizizo zonke iintshatsheli ezivavanyelwa amandla xa uninazala avele.
Inombolo yempazamo 6. Injongo yakho iphunyeziwe. Utshatile. Unokucima i-faki, faka i-barhell yakho oyithandayo kwaye wenze iqhekeza lakho olithandayo entlokweni yakho. Akukho ndawo iqabane elingahambiyo.
Ilizwe elidumileyo lithi abantu "bawathanda amehlo abo" kubonakala ngathi barhoxisiwe. Ngelishwa, abafazi abaninzi baphumle kangangokuba bayalibala eli lizwi. Akukho mntu ukunibizela yonke imihla ukunxiba ezona zithende ziphezulu kwaye unyanzelise umbala "wokulwa". Kodwa kusisilumko sokukholelwa ukuba imbonakalo yakho iya kuhlala ingafumaneki. Ayiyi kuhlala. Kwaye ukufuna imifanekiso emitsha emihle kwaye imifanekiso iya kuqala.
Ewe kunjalo, unokuqalisa kwaye xa ulungile. Ukukhangela izinto ezintsha zinokwenzeka kwikratshi, umsindo, ukuziphindezela. Izizathu zinokuba zixakekile. Kuya kuba nzima ukubekukhubekisa kuyo yonke into. Kodwa kungcono ukubanjwa, ukuphelisa le nto kwiimpazamo. Ngendlela, akukho mfuneko yokuba aphumle. Imbono yeqabane lakho lokusebenza lenzakalisa ubomi bakho. Zilumkele ukubonakala kwayo.
Inombolo yempazamo 7. Unomntwana, ingcinga yakho itsala umfanekiso othandekayo: Uyondla umntwana, yibeke ukuze ulale kwaye ulale uye wenza imicimbi yakho, umzekelo, ekuzuzeni umthandayo.
Ngapha koko, uninzi lwabantu abasandul 'ukutshata abalindelanga ukuba yintoni eza kwenzeka kwiintsapho zabo ngokufika kwesidalwa esinye esincinci. Ukudinwa, ukungabikho kwamandla okulala, akukho xesha lasimahla lezinto ezilula. Yonke le nto ngokuqinisekileyo iya kukhokelela ekucaphukiseni okuthintela. Nceda uqaphele ukuba unyaka wokuqala wobomi ngokufika komntwana kusapho lwakho yeyona inzima. Ngeli xesha, iintsapho ezininzi zixhonywa kwiinwele. Kubonakala ngathi ummangaliso omncinci kufuneka udibanise usapho lonke, ukuze wonke umntu ubhala, noGqirha Komarovsky utsho. Ngapha koko, yonke into yahlukile ngokupheleleyo. Zama ukusinda kulo nyaka uqala kunye nelahleko encinci. Kuya kuba lula.
Kubomi bosapho kukho amatye amaninzi kunye neenqwelomoya ezinokonakalisa umtshato, zichithe kwaphela. Umtshato yinto enzima kakhulu. Akayi kukujonga ngamandla ngaphezulu kwesinye, lowo ungoyiki ukuthatha idabi. Kungekuphela kwiqabane lakhe, kodwa nam. Akukho sidingo sokutshintsha umntu, kubalulekile ukuba ufunde ukuba ungazitshintsha njani. Ukuba ufuna ukufunda le, umtshato wakho awuyi kudanisa ngaphantsi kwamanzi.