Naxa uqhawulo-mtshato lulindelwe ixesha elide, ihlala ijika ngoxinzelelo olukhulu kumfazi. Ngokwesiqhelo, phantse okanye sele umyeni wazama kakhulu, kodwa izalamane zakhe kunye nezihlobo zakhe ziyamnceda. Akukho nto yokuthetha ukuba ukuba umfazi unomntwana, umgangatho wobomi bosapho osele uwela kakhulu.
Ndikholelwe ukuba umhlobo wakho uqhawule umtshato, amathuba okuba afuna uncedo lwakho, ifuna iipesenti ezilikhulu. Kwaye ngaphambi kokunceda, kuyimfuneko ukuchaza ngaphambili komsebenzi.
1. UMGAQO WEMIBUZO apho kuphela "ewe", hayi ", yenziwa apha
Umfazi uhlala engakwazi ukuqubuda izicelo ezichanekileyo, kuba akaqondi ukuba iphantsi komgca, kwaye uloyiko lokuwela. Xa kuqhutywa iinketho zoncedo, ulungile kwaye ubuso. Unokuyiqonda into ethi "Yiza, mandiziphelise iveki, ndimjonga kwaye ndiziva ngathi andikwazi ukuphendula umbuzo womhlobo "Mhlawumbi ndiza kuza, ndiza kukunceda uchithe izitya, kwangaxeshanye ndisela iti kwaye ndincokole?" Ngexesha loxinzelelo, lo mfazi uhlala unenkangazi, uyakuzithemba kwaye woyika ukubakhathaza abanye, nokuba sithetha ngento ebalulekileyo.
2. Musa ukubeka ubomi bakho ngoncedo
Ukuba umhlobo uyindoda elungileyo, akafuni amadini anqabileyo kwicala lakho. Ukuba kubi, ke akufanele. Nika olo ncedo lungekhoyo ebomini bakho kunye nemikhosi yakho yesiqwenga esikhulu. Ewe kunjalo, kukho izinto ezichaseneyo - ukuba, ngaphandle komnye komnye, awunamntu oxhomekeke kuye nabani na. Kuzo zonke ezinye iimeko, yonke okanye ezimbini okanye ezimbini zisukelwa ngeveki okanye, ukuba umhlobo ufana nomhlobo, ukucebisa ukuba, uqhekeze uncedo lwayo, ngesiqhelo.
3. Rhoqo ibhinqa eliqhawutsha kuqhawulo mtshato kufuneka linikelwe
Kwaye oku, ngelishwa, ayisiyonkqubo yexesha elinye. Ukuba uvumile ukudibana kwaye uncokole nje, yinile ukuba uza kuthetha, kakhulu, malunga necala okanye ngaphambili. Nokuba awudibaniyo ukuze nincokole, uya kumamela yonke into ngaye. Intombi kangaka iziphilisa. Qhubeka nezixhobo zakho zokutshaja kwaye kwasekuqaleni chaza ngokungqongqo (kwaye ungafihli kummiselo wexesha lexesha: Ngaba unayo imizuzu engamashumi amabini kuye okanye ubusuku?
4. Phantse ipesenti enye yeepesenti kufuneka uncedo kunxibelelwano kunye nowangaphambili
Ukusukela ukucima umkhondo wobukho bakhe eflethini (qokelela kwaye ukuphosa iisokisi kunye nee-disc), kuba intombi iyothusa okanye kunzima ukuyichukumisa. Ukugqitywa ukuze ubekho ecaleni kwentombazana ngamaxesha xa edibana naye. Kwaye kufuneka. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kuyimfuneko ukukhetha okanye ukudibana nenkundla. Uninzi lweyona nto imbi kakhulu kwaye inoburharha yayingasonjululwanga ukuba ihlasele umfazi ukuba kukho iNgqina elinye elikufuphi. Ukuba lowo wangaphambili kwabo bangamaNgqina awayeki, unokunceda, ubolekele ukuba aphelise umyeni wakho, mzalwana, umhlobo, umhlobo okanye ophendulayo maqabane. (Kwaye ukuba kuwe iimitha ezimbini ngaphezulu kweemitha ezimbini nakweziimitha ezimbini zentshatsheli kwikarati, kwaye akukho nto yokuthetha ukuba ungayenza njani into yokutsala umntu obhinqileyo).
5. Rhoqo ngebhinqa, ngakumbi nomntwana, akukho ndawo ingahambiyo
Sukubuza ukuba wagqiba kwelokuba aqhawule umtshato kwiimeko ezinjalo. Mhlawumbi lo myeni ugqiba phambili. Mhlawumbi wayenethemba lokunceda izalamane, kwaye nezihlobo zonke zonke zavela zinzima. Ukuba akukho nanye yeentombi ezingenakuthathwa ngokulula kwaye zihlawulwe ekhaya / kwigumbi logcino / kwi-antles, umntu obhinqileyo "inkqubo" yenxalenye ". "I-Viga" kuxa umntu omnye ehlala iintsuku ezimbalwa komnye, enceda ekhaya okanye nabantwana njengombulelo. Kungcono ukuba uphile ngentombi, i-nomads enengxowa yemidlalo ngesandla esinye kunye nomntwana omnye kunokubuyela kwi-asshole enobungozi eyingozi. Ubuncinci xa abafazi banokhetho, bahlala bakhetha ngokuthe ngqo "amaqela". Ke yona imeko, xa ibhinqa linendlu, kodwa ayikho ingeniso, kodwa ke isokuqala, unganceda nabanye abahlobo, kwaye ninokunceda abanye abahlobo, kwaye ninokunceda abanye iinyanga ngenyanga ukunceda ukufumana umsebenzi kunye nekhoboka le Itshathi entsha yobomi.
6. Ewe, ufuna uncedo ngobomi
Unokuqiniseka. Rhoqo nge-daivergent bahlukumeza kuxinzelelo lweklinikhi- ngokhetho ngenxa yenkqubo yoqhawulo-mtshato, rhoqo ngenxa yokuba wandulelwa. Umntu oxinezelekileyo akanakuba ngamandla aneleyo kwinkonzo yokuzilawula ecocekileyo. Ngenxa yoko, uncedo olunikezwe ngoncedo olusuka: Ukuhlamba izitya okanye ukuhlamba izitya okanye ngesondo, ukuphatha ifenitshala, imvume yefanitshala kwaye ngokubanzi yinkqubo yekhaya eya kuza entlokweni yakho.
7. Uncedo olufunekayo nomntwana
Nangona abantu abaninzi bengabafazi abaninzi bekunzima ukwamkela - kwaye kuvakala, kubonakala kunyelisa! Kodwa ngomntwana utsala amandla amaninzi. Mhlawumbi umhlobo ngoku yimfuneko ukuba umntu ahambe nentombi yakhe, ngelixa esiya enkundleni okanye ezivenkileni, kwaye waphakamisa ikhephu kunye nonyana wakhe ngelixa elala okanye elawula isidlo sangokuhlwa.
8. Musa ukunika umhlaba wakhe ukuba uwile
Umfazi ngoku ubaluleke kakhulu amaxesha ngamaxesha ukuya kwilizwe elikhulu kungekuphela nje kwiimveliso okanye uhlobo oluthile lwesiqinisekiso senkundla. Kubalulekile ukuba avakalelwe kukuba ubomi bakhe abusodiliki ngoku ngokulangazelela ukusinda kunye nomntwana. Ke, ukuba izibonelelo zakho ziyavuma, zikhuphe ukuya epakini, jonga iimuvi, hlala kwindawo yokutyela yenethiwekhi, dlala imidlalo yeBhodi eAntikafe. Nokuba intombi yakho iyinto engenamsebenzi, iya kuba lula kwihlabathi jikelele.
9. Ilibale ixesha lentuthuzelo yefomathi "Ungabi"
Ukuba wayenako, akazukukhala. Kwaye ngoku inokuba neentloni kakhulu, kodwa akazange ajamelane nayo. Ngokuchasene noko, masiqonde ukuba loo mzuzu uza iinyembezi kufanelekile kwaye emva koko yonke into iza kudlula.
10. Yiba kwicala lakhe
Ngokuchasene nentombazana ngoku, uninzi lwangaphambili: umyeni wangaphambili, izihlobo, amakhwenkwe athambileyo malunga neenqobo zosapho "avumele ukusika i-sump, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukugcina usapho!" Nehlabathi elikhohlakeleyo, elikhoyo, apho iya kuthatha imali yokuhlawula kunye nompu ngobisi lwesidlo sakusasa. Uyamdinga ngokulandelayo, nokuba awenzi nto. Inyaniso.