Umtshato awusekho phakade (kwaye uhlala ufuna ukuthetha-loluphi ulonwabo!). Abantu bayatshata, abantu badlwenguwe. Kuqhawulo-mtshato kuphela alusoloko lulindele. Ngesizathu esithile, abayeni bayamangaliswa kakhulu. Ingcali yengqondo yePavel Zygggmanvich iyabachaza, kutheni ikhefu abafazi.
Rhoqo, ukhathalelo lomfazi wakhe lududuma phakathi kwesibhakabhaka esicocekileyo.Kanjani?! Nangona kunjalo, kulungile, kwaye apha, now, Molo, uhambe! Yini i…?!
Ewe, masivumele ndichaze ukuba kutheni le nto yenzekile, ukusuka apho yonke le nto iyamangalisa.
I-Chestyj ngenkungu
Izifundo zengqondo zibonakalisile ukuba ngokunxulumene nomtshato kumadoda nabafazi, kukho izimvo ezahlukeneyo.
Umfazi oqhelekileyo umele umtshato kakuhle, umntu unokutsho ngokweenkcukacha- ifanele ifumaneke njani intsasa yamaqabane, njengokuhlwa, ngangokuhlwa kwemihla ngemihla eyahlukileyo kwimpelaveki, ukuba ungathini Yiya kutyelelo kwaye ngubani ozokuvuyisa. Ngamaxesha athile, ndihlekisa ukuba abafazi banomzobo ocacileyo wobudlelwane, apho zonke iinkcukacha zineenkcukacha zonke-zonke iidayimitha, iidayimitha kunye nokungamelana nabo kunye nokungamelana nabo kunye nokungamelana nabo kunye nokumelana ngezinto kunye nokungamelana nabo.
Enye into ngabantu. Umzalwana wethu ophakathi wumbi ngomtshato ubande kakhulu. Ngokwenyani kumoya wokuhlekisa "bouschy! Ebhedini! " Ngamanye amagama, umntu ophakathi ufuna yonke into ukuba ilungile, kwaye kulungile - kubuthathaka kakhulu.
Kubalulekile ukukhumbula umthetho ongaguqukiyo-kokukhona ulindeleyo, kokukhona amathuba okuba inyani ayihlanganisi. Kwaye kamsinya nje angadibananga kuzo, iimvakalelo ezibanjiweyo-sijongana, ekuthetheni kwesayensi, ukukhathazeka, kunye ne-bummer elula.
Kwaye inyani iphantse yaphambuka kulindelo lwethu. Ke ngoko, umfazi ophakathi ongonelisekanga ngumtshato wayo rhoqo kwaye engaphezulu komntu ophakathi. Ke ngoko, abafazi basengozini yokuqhawula umtshato- yeyiphi indawo yokuphila nomntu ongakufakiyo? Intuthumbo enye.
"Usuku lwakho - owesibhozo kaMatshi"
Akukho sidingo sokucinga ukuba abantu basetyhini bakuphosakele ngokungalunganga kwimeko yabo yokuba nomfanekiso womtshato. Akukho mfuneko yokuba umntu acinge ukuba indoda iphosakele ngokwenyani, ukuba neemvo zenkungu ngomtshato.
Ewe, zozizo zombini zikhetho zigqithisileyo. Ewe, kuya kuba kuhle ukuba ukubekwa kwabasetyhini kungaphantsi, kwaye izimvo zamadoda zicacile (ngakumbi ngakumbi ukuba yonke le nto ilungile kwaye inotshintsho lwenkuthalo).
Ingxaki yahlukile. Ingxaki kukwimo yesondo kwamanye amadoda, anokuchazwa ngawo mathathu: "Umfazi uthi." Oku kubhekisele kumabala adumileyo esithi: "Mamela umfazi kwaye uzobe ngokuchaseneyo." Kwaye xa umfazi esiza kwaye azama ngokuzola, ngokwasemntwini, ngokuchaza ukuba akayithandi yonke into emtshatweni, indoda, eyayihlala intloko yakhe, igxothile nje kumfazi.
Ke, ngokubonisana, banawo la madoda, bathi, Khange ndicinge ukuba ibaluleke kangaka kuye, akazange achaze kangangokuba kuyingxaki enkulu, wayengakhange anikele phantsi.
Ngapha koko, umfazi, ewe, wachaza kwaye wazalwa, umntu nje ngenxa yengcinga yakhe egxothiweyo, akazange anikele ingqalelo. Cinga, le ntokazi ithi enye into engeyiyo - ufuna ukuhamba rhoqo kwaye uqhagamshelo ngokubanzi, yeyiphi na into engeyiyo, ungakhathazeki ukuba ubukele umabonwakude.
Kwaye xa umfazi wayehamba, nantsi ukungavisisani, nantsi ke ingqondo. Kodwa 'lixesha.
Indlela yokuphuma
Akukho ngxelo ilula ilula. Kuya kuba yimfuneko ukunika iingcebiso ezithile, ekunene?
Masiqale ngezindululo zabafazi. Iintombi ezithandekayo ezithandekayo! Ukuba kunokwenzeka, bonisa ukuba imeko ayikhathazeki nje, kwaye le yingxaki enkulu (ukuba iyingxaki enkulu), eyayinokuyisombulula. Akukho sidingo sokuthatha inkunkuma phantsi kwekhaphethi. Kuya kufuneka uyifumane ukusuka apho, hlela kwaye uyiphose ngendlela ekhethiweyo.
Ngoku ingcebiso yamadoda. Mfo othandekayo! Susa, nceda, kwiingcinga zesondo. Oku kukuqala, kuluncedo, okwesibini, luncedo kakhulu. Phatha iinkxalabo zomfazi wakho ngononophelo - zinjalo, inyani, hayi kakhulu, ezi zinto zixhalabisayo, unokujonga.
Oku kuyinyani- phatha umntu osondeleyo kwaye kwenzeka kuye. Sukuyifihla, kwaye unike eli xabiso, ubuncinci.
Ewe, ndiyavuma, ukuba ndingabi nami, ukuba ndibhale yonke le nto, kodwa, ewe, ndisebenze, ndisebenze, ndigqitha kuye, ndigcwele iintloko. Kuya kuba yinto engaqhelekanga ukuba abafazi ababashiyanga.
Ngethamsanqa, ndiyaphinda, umntu usenokuba atshintshe kakuhle iikhonsepthi zakhe, kuya kubakho umnqweno.
Iyonke
Amadoda kufuneka anikele ingqalelo ngakumbi kumava abafazi babo, abafazi bafanele into yokuchonga iingxaki kwaye bangayithathi inkunkuma phantsi kwekhaphethi, musa ukuthula iingxaki. Ke amathuba omtshato owonwabileyo ukhule kakhulu.
Ndinayo yonke into, enkosi ngengqwalaselo yakho.
Umthombo: IPhael Pavlo Zygmantovich yengqondo yengqondo