Yonke into kolu khanyiso, into eyenzeka phakathi kwabantu ibonakala ngathi thinaNaphakade. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kwaye ngenkulungwane yeshumi elinesihlanu, ibhinqa elalithanda umntu, kwaye kwishumi elinesixhenxe - mama abathanda abantwana, kwaye kubantu abathandanayo babengabahlobo kunye ...
Ngapha koko, ukumelwa okunjalo, kunjalo, bubuxoki. ILizwi loThando alitshintshanga, kodwa yena uyafana. Kwaye uthando lweminyaka yobudala baseJapan ye-hayene inokukoyikisa kakhulu kukungqubana naye xa usenza. Nokuba uphantsi kothando lwabazali ngoku kwaye, umzekelo, kwiminyaka engamashumi amathathu eyadlulayo, kukho iintlobo ezahlukeneyo zolwalamano. Malunga neemfuno zikawonke-wonke zokhathalelo lwabazali zinokuthula ngokupheleleyo. Kodwa asiyi. Ngokwahlukileyo kuthi, siya kukukhumbuza ukuba zingaphi ii-moms kunye nootata abangamashumi asibhozo avela kubazali be-zero namashumi ezishumi zahluke kakhulu.Umntwana unokwenzakala!
Kubonakala ngathi kuyamangalisa, kodwa ngexesha lokuhlala kwethu uninzi lwabantu abadala olula, kukhalaza iinkqubo zonyango ezinobuhlungu kwaye zithathwa njengezilolo ezinobuhlungu kunye ne-whims ezifuna ukoyisa. Ngenxa yoko ukhathazekileyo, wanyibilika! Kwaye kwixesha lethu, abantwana abasemva kwesona sizukulwana sitsha sithetha ngokuvakalayo, ukuba ukuba i-massige ibuhlungu kakhulu, ayizukukunceda kuphela, kodwa, ngokuchasene noko, kubuhlungu. Abaqeqeshi abaninzi bayakhawuleza ukuzolula iindlela zokuzolula kwaye baya kukufanayo nakubantu abadala kumaziko omzimba. Kwaye ekugqibeleni abazali baqalisa ukuthuthuzela abantwana emva kwenaliti okanye kwenye inkqubo engathandekiyo.
Tymiezochka
Siyawaqonda ibinzana elikwiminyaka engamashumi eminyaka kwaye lityhafa ubomi ngenxa yethu. Kodwa ubuqhetseba obunjalo bujikeleze inqaku elilula lomntwana obhinqileyo. Kumashumi asibhozo anesininzi se-teyshotos, abakhange bathathele ingqalelo imidlalo yezemidlalo kunye nokuhambisa imidlalo, umlo wesayensi, umlo wokukhusela ibhulukhwe, umnqweno wokunxiba i-pink, i-lilac kunye neentyatyambo zeLilac. Kumantombazana akhoyo ngoku, kubonakala ngathi kuyangqinwa zii-corsets ezingabonakaliyo.
Isimo sengqondo seMpilo
Abazali abaphakathi baba ngononophelo ngakumbi kwimpilo yabantwana kwaye bazingise ngakumbi kwimicimbi efunwayo, xa umntu ovaliweyo ongekaboni nto, kwaye unina enotata sele efumene izinto ezingaqhelekanga. Mhlawumbi isizathu sokungaqiniseki ukuba ukuba isifo sisungulwe, kuya kuba nakho ukufumana unyango oluqhelekileyo. Kwanakwii-Nineties kwi-ofisi yaseburhulumenteni ithemba elingaphezulu ngoku.Pelaita
Abazali bethu babekholelwa ukuba ipelleins ezihlukumelayo akufuneki ichukumise umntwana. Nokuba uyagula, okanye ayoyike. Kwaye namhlanje kuya kwalandelwa libhunga labantwana ukuba liphephe i-Ironing yelinen esezantsi nelinebhedini yabantwana: Ke, bathi, ulusu lungaphefumli ngcono kuyo. Ngapha koko, imeko yesifo esigulayo emakhayeni wethu ilungile kwaye inzima iiodols, ngenxa yendawo yokuhlala, akusekho ngaphezulu kwezinki emva komile.
Inkqubo yesikolo
Kumashumi asibhozo anesibhozo, babelindele ukuba isikolo ngokwakhe siya kunika ulwazi. Ewe, mhlawumbi kuya kufuneka uqeqeshe umfundisi, ukuze umntwana akwazi ulwimi olungcono okanye olulungiselelwe izifundo zeprofayili ukuba zijoyine iYunivesithi. Ngoku intlawulo yabafundi okanye isangqa ngokweyona qeqesho lesikolo esiqhelekileyo (hayi kwakuko konke ukufundisisa!) Ibandakanyiwe kuhlahlo-lwabiwo mali losapho, apho umntwana esebenza khona esikolweni. Ngokwemvelo, ixesha kunye nemali kwimijikelezo yomdla ihlala ingaphantsi. Abantwana kufuneka baye kwezo zinto zokuzonwabisa ezinokufundwa kwividiyo kwi-Intanethi, kunye nokusebenzisana kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo zokwabelana ngamava kwaye baqhayise iziphumo.Ukutya
Isimo seminyaka engamashumi asibhozo - umntwana kufuneka atye ngokuqinileyo. Kwii-Nineties, umntwana wayefanele ukuba atye, angazihli ukutya. Ngoku eyona nto iphambili kukusebenzisa ukusetyenziswa kwesondlo. Iitshipsi ezandleni zamabakala okuqala ziyakwazi ukwenza uninzi lweelwandle. Okomzuzwana, umkhwekazi kamama ukondla umama umzuzu umzuzu onengxaki yokuzisola kwesazela. Umfanekiso womntwana okwishumi elivisayo, inkukhu egcwele i-cholesterol ethosiweyo, iya kubangela ukuba kuphele izimvo ezinomsindo. Ukutya kwabantwana (nangaphaya koko, kungenjalo kubo bonke abantwana beminyaka yeNashelnoy), kuye kwasetyenziswa, kuxutyushwa kwi-Intanethi. Kodwa akukho namnye umntu owenza kube nzima.
Inkuthazo
Uninzi lwabazali bethu ngokwesipopu azange lucinge ngendlela yokunxibelelana nomntwana. Yimfuneko - oko kuthetha ukuba iyimfuneko. Uya kufunda okubi - uya kuba ngumtombi. Uya kufunda kakuhle-uya kuba ngumfundisi-ntsapho kwaye uya kufumana njengoMnato, kodwa usebenze ngokufudumala. Kwaye awufuni kwi-Ass? Abantwana bethu baqonda ukuba basoyiswe nje kuphela. Ewe, oko kukuthi, kuyimfuneko ukukholisa oko kuyimfuneko, kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo kuya kuba kutheni. Ithatha ixesha elininzi kunye namandla, kodwa nokuba isebenza ngcono kunezoyikiso ezindala- ukuza kuthi ga ngoku. Izazinzulu ziye zaxoxa ukuba uxinzelelo lokukhanya lunegalelo kufundo lweyona intsha. Ukukhanya, satsho.Abantwana banoluvo
Akukho mfuneko yokuba uvumelane naye, kwaye abaninzi abangxami ukuba bathathele ingqalelo, kodwa akusakhanyeli njengenyaniso. Umbuzo "Ewe, ubuya kuba nombono, kwiklasi yesithathu?" -Nqakraza ebuntwaneni bethu, kodwa, ngethamsanqa, hayi inzala yethu.
Akukho sitshixo entanyeni
Kwiintsapho zamashumi asibhozo anesibhozo, wayekhula esikolweni, wayekhula kwaye ehambahamba esixekweni okanye ehlala ekhaya, ehambahamba ekhaya, enombala omnyama neswekile. Ngoku kwi-Intanethi, abazali bathi abantwana bomthetho abanalo ilungelo lokushiywa ngaphandle kwabantu abadala ukuya kwiminyaka eli-12. Kwaye okunene, ukuze ubone abalishumi elinanye, ukugqithisa ngokuthe cwaka emnyango, kwaba nzima. Nokuba umthetho uqhubeka kanye, nokuba yonke into iyakholelwa kuyo.
Indawo yakho
Isithuba sabantwana sisaphulwe ngabazali ngokwabo, kodwa ngokubanzi, ubuncinci samkelwe. Ubukho begumbi lakho okanye kwikona yokuba umntwana aqalise ukubalulekile - sasinamathele, apho babenako, kwaye ukuba abazali banabantu abanomntakwenu okanye banesibini esinomntakwabo, kwaye ke abazali beza ngaphandle kokunkqonkqoza kunye nesithintelo. Indlu leyo emva kwayo yonke loo nto, bona, kuthetha, kwaye igumbi line, sanikwa nje ukuba silale kwaye sihlale. Ukuba sifumana idayari yomntwana kwaye siyijonge, siya kukhathaza umgubo wesazela. Iidayari zethu zijongeka ngokulula kwabafundi ekubhaliseni.Thetha malunga nokhuseleko ngokwesondo
Abazali bethu babonakala boyika ukuba xa ulumkisa malunga nee-peophiles, uWires, osemncinci kakhulu, nokuba sinomdla wokwabelana ngesondo kwaye sinomdla wehenyukazi. Ngapha koko, ngokufuthi, ukuba inyani yokuthwala okanye idlwengule iphezulu, kumantombazana esizukulwana sethu kwaye sinyangwe, ngokungakhathali. Eyona nto ikhethayo ithe cwaka. Ekugqibeleni sadlulisela ukugxila kwixhoba kumdlwenguli (ubuncinci ukuba ixhoba liyinto okanye lingaba ngumntwana wethu) kwaye, i-mekay, ukubekwa, ukuthuka, kuqhuba incoko yokuthintela.
Siphila njani?
Umbuzo othandwa kakhulu ukuba udizwe kwi-Intanethi kwaye ngamanye amaxesha ufuna ukuphendula: Ummangaliso. Inqaku alisiyonto yokuba abazali bethu bengazange bazame. Inyani yile yokuba, okokuqala, okokuqala waseSoviet wawugqala njengomntwana ngokuyintloko, kungenjalo njengomntu, kodwa njengokulungiselela umakhi wexesha elizayo wobuKomanisi. Yonke into ephazanyiswe kwinkqubo yokwenziwa kwemveliso yakhiwe yayithathwa njengeziko, kwaye amazwi okhuselo ngokukhuselekileyo anobuthathaka, ayenobuthathaka kwaye enamahloni. Kwaye, okwesibini, abazali bethu babengelilo ixesha. Ngo-1980s, oomama abaninzi babezibandakanya koko bakufumanayo. Hayi, hayi ponte Jeans kunye nabagcini beTape, kodwa baphoswa ngokungalindelekanga kwikhawuntara: iibhutsi, imifuno, iPhepha lendlu yangasese ... ewe kwakunzima ngakumbi kunangoku. Emva kokulungiswa-ukucoca-ukulungisa (konke ngesandla nakwizixhobo eziluhlaza eziluhlaza!) Ixesha kunye namandla eBantwana alizange lihlale. Ekugqibeleni, oku kwasuswa ngathi, sabanjwa sayondliwa. Kwii-Nineties, abazali babezisinda kwintsapho. Oomama abaninzi baye bengatshatanga, kwaye uninzi 'ziindawo ezivaliweyo "kunye neengubo zentengiso ngosuku olungaqhelekanga. Sanikwa kangangoko banako. Xa sisenza ngoku, ngokusekelwe kumathuba ethu anyukayo kunye nobunzima obutsha (iingxaki zemfundo, umzekelo). Umbuzo awupheli kakhulu, kubonakala ngathi kuphela zizidenge kuphela eziphakanyisiweyo ... kwaye izazinzulu ezaziqala ukuthi abantwana bahluthwe "ngabantwana abaqhelekileyo", abasengozini "abanobungozi bendalo okanye amathuba anike indawo yokudlala, funa amathuba amatsha okubeka umngcipheko. Kuyingozi kakhulu kunokuba silindele. Mhlawumbi isizukulwana esilandelayo singabuza ukuba "kutheni abazali bengazange basishukumise thina?", Kwaye "Kutheni unyikime?" Kwaye ivela kwizinto zethu ezininzi ze-destrigs kunye neendlela ezoyikisayo. Ngubani owaziyo.
Kodwa, ngokunyaniseka, iselungile ngoku umntwana unombono kunye nendawo yakho.