Intsapho izele kuphela xa umntwana ebonakala kuyo. Nangona kunjalo, ayingawo onke amadoda afuna abantwana. Abanye boyika uxanduva, abanye bangenakubi ngabantwana. Izizathu zinokusetwa.
Amabali Xa Indoda Ingafuni Umntwana, Zifumaneka rhoqo. Ufumana amawaka ezizathu zokuba angamenzeli umntwana. Akusoloko kunqongophele nale mnqweno uthetha ngokungathandani nomntu obhinqileyo.
Ngamaxesha anjalo akukho mfuneko yokuba ucwangcise ii-hysterics kunye nokukhwaza. Uya kuqonda kuphela ukuba akafuni ukuba nomntwana. Iingxaki kunye neminqweno kwiqabane kufuneka ixoxwe, kwaye ingathi cwaka ngabo. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhulule ngokuzolileyo kutheni engafuni ukuba nomntwana. Kwaye kubalulekile ukujongana nesizathu sokuqala. Kuyimfuneko ukuya kulo mbuzo. Sukungabi yi-egost, ethi ibeka uluvo lwayo kwiqabane. Kubalulekile ukujonga imeko ngamehlo akhe. Kuyimfuneko ukukholisa indoda ukuba uloyiko alowo nalo mhlaba. Abantwana bahlala bekhwaza indoda encinci ihlala ibaleka, yadanduluka, wonke umntu uyahamba. Ukuba uyathanda ukuthula, ke kuye kwanombono wokuba kunganyamezeleki. Kuya kufuneka ubonise iqabane ngemeko evela kwelinye icala. Kuya kufuneka ubuze amantombazana azolileyo nabafundileyo, yiza kutyelela. Abantwana banokuthembisa iilekese ukuba baziphathe ngokuzolileyo nangokuzola. Ngolu vavanyo, umyeni uyakuqonda ukuba indlela yokuziphatha kwabantwana ngqo kuxhomekeke ekukhuliseni. Umyeni ukholelwa ukuba umfazi uya kumthanda umntwana ngaphezu koloyiko olukhulu kakhulu ebantwini. Akanasihlalo. Xa umntwana ezelwe, umfazi uxakeke ngokupheleleyo kukukhathalela. Ke ubusuku baqala ngaphandle kokulala kwaye ukudinwa kuqokelela. Ewe, umfazi akanguye umyeni wakhe. Uninzi lukholelwa ukuba ingqwalaselo yomfazi wayo ngokuzalwa komntwana iya kuba yintloko yedwa. Indoda ayifuni ukuba kwisicwangciso sesi-2. Umfazi kufuneka eqiniseke ukuba akukho nto iya kutshintsha ngokufika komntwana. Kuya kufuneka aqonde ukuba akunakwenzeka ukuba wabelane ngononophelo lwakhe ngokungalinganiyo. Akakulungeli, umntu uyakholelwa ukuba kusekusekuqaleni kokuqalisa abantwana. Wayengenalo ixesha lokwenza uhambo nezinye izinto ezininzi. Bonke ubomi baya kukhathazeka ngomntwana, akuyi kubakho xesha. Ichitha imali eninzi. Indoda inokucinga ukuba kuya kufuneka ihlukane nendlela efanayo yobomi kunye nemikhwa. Kukungcungcutheka. Kuyimfuneko ukufumana imizekelo yezibini eziqhelekileyo xa umntwana eginya usapho. Umzekelo, ifoto kunye noMama, utata kunye nomntwana ngeebhayisikile. Okanye imifanekiso ukusuka ekuhambeni. Kuyimfuneko ukudlulisela kwiqabane obomi lwangaphambili aluyi kushiya naphi na. Ewe kuya kufuneka ubingelele into. Sukucinga ukuba iya kuyeka ukutyelela indalo kunye nokuhamba. Abantwana ukusukela ebuntwaneni banokuqhelana nendlela yokuphila esebenzayo, intshukumo kunye neendlela. Kufuneka uqokelele imali. Indoda ikholelwa ukuba ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana kufuneka ufumane imali ethile. Ngapha koko, kuya kubakho imali eninzi. Nangona kunjalo, akukho siqinisekiso sokuba kwiminyaka embalwa imeko yezemali iya kuphucuka. Imali inokusindiswa ngonaphakade. Ungasixelela iqabane lakho ukuba kukho iivenkile ezinezaphulelo ezinkulu. Impahla kunye nempahla yokudlala izalamane kunye nabahlobo abasondeleyo bahlala benika omnye komnye. Oku kuya kuba luncedo olukhulu. Indoda ifanele yazi ukuba umfazi uzama ukumncedaUmfazi akufuneki adlulisele imali, kufuneka akhangele iimpahla kwisaphulelo. Ucinga ukuba iya kuba ngutata ombi, olu loyiko luhlala luvela ebuntwaneni. Kunokwenzeka ukuba abazali bakhe mhlawumbi abamqondi. Wayengakwazi ukuqonda kubudlelwane nabazali bakhe. Ke ngoko, unokucinga ukuba kuzo zonke iintsapho. Indoda icinga ukuba ayiyi kuba yigunya lomntwana. Isizathu somvuzo ukungaqiniseki, ukoyika uxanduva. Emva koko kufuneka uncede uzikhulise ukuzithemba. Umfazi kufuneka avumele indoda ukuba icombulule iingxaki zakhe. Xa kusenzeka, kufuneka umxelele ukuba uya kuba nguBawo olungileyo. Kuphela ziindlela ezifanelekileyo ezinokutshintsha umbono wendoda yakhe ukuba abantwana bangumthombo wesiphithiphithi. Indoda kufuneka ivakalelwe ukubandezeleka kwaye ndibone ukuzikhathalela. Uya kuba nenkuthazo yokwenza usapho olonwabileyo. Emva koko imbonakalo yomntwana iya kuba kamsinya.