Gcina abantwana okanye ufundise uxanduva lomama? Ngokwesiqhelo ababhinqileyo - abaxhasi beebhokisi zeBebi-zibongoza kwingxoxo yokuqala, kunye nabachasi babo-ukuya kwesibini. Kodwa umfazi uJulia Roshchina osuka kwiMasadan nxamnye neebhokisi zeBebi, nangona kungekho luxanduva lokufunda ngoxanduva. Uxelele inethiwekhi yoluntu ukuba kutheni.
Andizukuhlela intsomi yenyameko, ukubangela ubukrakra sesidima "Nokuba uBomi osindiswe - iibhokisi zeBebi zibekho. Ndiza kuthetha into enye kuphela. Aba bantwana babengazukubulala. Iingcali zengqondo kunye nabasebenzi bengqondo bayayazi le nto. Ipesenti yoomama abangenabantu ababenabemi bahlala njalo. Ukuba umfazi ukhangela indlela yokugcina ubomi bomntwana ngokumphosa ebantwini (i-baby Boysing, indawo eninzi, indawo apho abantu baya kudlula kule pesenti. Ukuziphatha kwabazali kukho. Akazukubulala. Udinga umntu kunye noncedo lwengqondo nengqondo, hayi ibhokisi enebhalbhu yokukhanya. Ekugqibeleni, ndiza kukuxelela kancinci malunga nento yokuba kukho usana olunomdlalo womntwana.
Ngokwendlela endandiqonda ngayo kumagqabaza, iibhokisi zomntwana zibonwa ngabaninzi ngendlela umfazi ukuba angaziwa. Vumela ubomi bomntwana buye ngasemva. Kwaye ngakumbi ke, enye indlela, enye, uninzi lwabahlalutyi luthi lusengumfazi owenza isigqibo sokubulala okanye usindise ubomi. Ngenxa yezizathu eziqala ukuba phambi kolu khetho, sonke, ndicinga ukuba ndiyazi kakuhle. Kodwa, okusesikweni ngenxa yento yokuba, isoyikiso sento yokuba umfazi osempilweni ngengqondo, uluntu olubi, luya kwenza ukuba abantu bafumane intanzo. Ndilungise ukuba ndiphosakele, kodwa ndinokufumana uninzi ngokungathi nangomnqweno-ongafuniyo ukuba nabantwana, ukuba ngequbuliso aba bantwana babonakala nakweyiphi na imeko.
Andiyi kuthini na kumanye amazwe. IRussia ndiza kuthi. Ngokwamthetho okhoyo ngoku, umama we-podkin uza kukhangela. Ke kufanele kube njalo. Nokuba ogqirha bakhuphe isenzo senkosazana, umsebenzi wamapolisa akarhoxisi. Umama nangaliphi na icala ngaphandle komthetho. Kwimeko efunyenweyo, kanye iindlela ezifanayo ezisebenza naye nawuphi na umntwana osekhohlo uya kuphehlelelwa. Inkundla, ukukhutshwa kwamalungelo obuzali, i-Alimony. Ukuze ungafumani, kufuneka uthathe amaqhinga amaninzi.
Musa ukulala ukuba ukhulelwe. Musa ukungabonakali, fihla-utsala isisu, ukonakalisa kunye nomntwana. Ukuzala ngaphandle kwamaNgqina, ekhaya, ukuba unethamsanqa-uphila kwaye ungafumani iingxaki ezingaphezulu (oko kukuthi, akukho monakalo owenzakalisayo, eneneni unqumle umntu obhinqileyo. Wenze umntwana apho kukho ibhokisi, ngaphandle kwamangqina (ngendlela, ngaba ukhona umntu ocinga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ukuba kwenzeka ntoni ukuba i-assholes iphinde ihlangane, ilinde "abafazi" abawile "bangaphi I-Psychopaths ye-Psychopaths iza kuhlanganisana apho? Ninika nabani na ukuqinisekisa ukuba akuyi kwenzeka khona malunga nalo mfazi? okanye amapolisa, kwaye ngoko nangoko ungaziwa?).
Ekuphela kwendlela esemthethweni, engekho semthethweni, ngelixa bekhuselekile ebomini kunye nempilo yomfazi, kukushiya umntwana kwiZiko lezoNyango apho wazalwa khona. Apha, ewe, konke okufanayo kuyafana - I-Alimony, LRP (Kulungile, ukuba, ukuba, umntwana akasayi kuthatha i-Aids, umthwalo awususwanga kwaMama ukuba kutheni ungaphikisi Kuyise-ingoma eyahlukileyo). Ngendlela, abantu abaninzi abafudukiyo kwiBhriphabliki yeManyano, apho baya kubafumana 'umntwana abanekratshi, beza kuzala ngaphandle kwepasipoti, beze basiqonde isiRashiya, bahambe emva kokuzala. Ke amabhinqa aseRussia, edla ngokuhlala phantsi, enza. Akukho mntu uqhayisa nabo ngesiqhelo ubeke umntwana ebudeni, wathumela endlwini yomntwana.
IKrenovo, ukuba le ndlela yenye kuphela. Kwaye okwesibini yibhokisi engenasipholo ngebhalbhu yokukhanya. Nangona kukho omnye owamkelwe kumazwe aqaqambileyo. Igama lakhe: Ukuzalwa komntwana ongaziwayo. Ukuzalwa kwiimeko eziqhelekileyo, uncedo lonyango ngexesha lokukhulelwa nasemva kokuhanjiswa. Kwaye akukho luxanduva. Kwaye ngelungelo lokufumana ulwazi malunga nomntwana. Kwaye ngelungelo lokushiya ulwazi malunga nawe kunye nempilo yakho, ukuba umntwana ugqiba, ukuba ngabantu abadala, funda ngemvelaphi yakhe.
Ngendlela, eRussia, apho imali isebenza kule profayili, ugqirha wezengqondo kunye notitshala wezentlalo ufika kwisibhedlele. Uninzi luhlala luvela ukuba le ntokazi ifuna ukukhulisa, kodwa ayinazixhobo zoku, ke yona iyala umntwana. Ukuba uyavuma, uyancedwa, akanikezi naphi na kwaye angayi kubulala. Kwiimeko apho umfazi elungiselelwe ngokwasetyala, akukho mntu ukhathalayo umntwana wakhe, akanyanzelekanga. Kodwa isanalo ithuba lokuphinda liphumle kwakhona. Yenze okanye hayi-ukhetho alukhetho.
Masithi kunokwenzeka ukuba usebenze umthetho ukuze okuseleyo ekuboneni komntwana akanoxanduva. Ungaze ufihla ezi bhokisi ukuze kungabikho shole wayesazi, kodwa wonke umfazi wayesazi ngqo ukuba iphi. Masithi. Ukungaziwa, ke umhlala phantsi wakhe. Kunye nengxelo zero. Ukungaziwa. Kuyo kuphela le meko ungaziwayo kunye noxanduva lwe-zero luya kubuyela kwabasetyhini. Nabani na unokuthatha kwaye anciphise umntwana apho, ongumfazi ofuna ukuphakamisa. Kwaye akukho mntu uya kuqonda. Akukho mthetho unolu hlobo-ukuqonda ukuba umntwana uvelaphi, ukungaziwa. Ndiyathetha ukuba oku kungaziwa kufuneka kunikwe kuphela kubafazi. Kwaye oku kunokwenzeka, ngombono wam, kuphela ngokungaziwa. Apho ibhinqa kuphela elabasebenzi kunye neqela le-Obstetric, elingazi ngegama lakhe lokwenyani.
Ewe, amagama ambalwa malunga noko kuya kwenzeka kumntwana ophulukene kwaye akukho namnye owaziyo, ongubani. Okokuqala, kwangoko kusapho akasayi kuwa. Ukuba akukho nto yaziwa ngokuba yimpilo yakhe (kwaye ayaziwa ngaye, ewe, ngokungaziwa, owazala nini, zeziphi izifo - xs) inyanga yakhe iya kubamba esibhedlele. Apho aya kufumana amandla kunye nokuphazamiseka kophuhliso. Kwandula ke ezinye iinyanga ezintlanu aziyi kuba nenqanaba lokuthatha umntwana ongamzalanga abe ngowakho. Kuba ukukhangela "umama olahlekileyo" ziinyanga ezintandathu. Iinyanga ezintandathu kuya kubakho inkxaso, kwaye kwimeko yomntwana iya kubonakala ngathi imeko inika umntwana ilungelo losapho.
Ngeli thuba zintandathu, kwiimeko ezininzi, iinguqu kwi-psyche yomntwana azinakulungiswa. Ngubani ongaziyo, uGoogle, ukuba kukho ukungasebenzi kakuhle kunye nokusesikweni, ukhathalelo lokuphendula. Ewe, okanye ndingathi, ndihlala netyala eluphahleni olunye nasemhlabeni wokujonga, ndimbalwa kakhulu kubantwana abanjalo kwaye sele abantu abadala sele benayo. Ngekamva-umntwana akanathemba lokufunda malunga nezona zinto zibalulekileyo. Oku kungaxelelwa malunga noku kwindawo ekuhlaleni abantu abadala eyamkelweyo, i-marinarubitskaya inokufundwa.
Hayi, andizami ukukholisa wonke umntu, ndiyazi ukuba ayinakwenzeka. Kodwa ukuba i-ajenda yanyamalala iibhokisi zabantwana, kubonakala ngathi kuya kuba yinto esebenza ngakumbi kwaye inamandla okubetha kwicala lokukhuselwa kwabasetyhini nabantwana.