Ubudlelwane kwisibini phantse buze buze buze buze buze buze-ngababini abagqibeleleyo kukho amaxesha amachaphaza kwaye bawa. Ngapha koko, okwangoku, ayisoloko ifuna itheko elinzulu. Kwiimvakalelo, esi sibini sisenza isigqibo sokuyinxenye ukuze sikwazi ukubona enye kwenye, kodwa kwakamsinya nje ukuba amabele azokuya, ukhumbule amaxesha amnandi kunye nolwalamano oludala ndifuna ukuphinda ndiqhubeke. Kodwa ngaba kufanelekile ukwenza le nto?
Ngokungagqibekanga, kuyakholelwa ukuba abafazi banomdla ngakumbi kwaye babenomdla kakhulu kwi-vest yentombazana. Kodwa enyanisweni, amadoda athambekele kule nto yonke, ngokukuphela kwamahluko abawubonisa iimvakalelo zabo ababonakala ngokucacileyo.
Emva kwexesha elithile emva komsantsa, ngamnye wabathathi-nxaxheba bacinga ukuba baphinde baqhubeke nobudlelwane obudlulileyo. Kwaye ngaphandle kwento yokuba indalo ihlala izama ukwahlula inyathelo elifanayo, i-steam ngokwayo inesithukuthezi koko waphulukana nekhefu.
Kwiimeko ezinzima, abantu bafuna uncedo kwiingcali zengqondo, kodwa oku ngelishwa, akusoloko kunika iziphumo ezilindelweyo. Ke ngoko, ungaphulukani nexesha lomnye umntu ngaphambi kokuzama ukunika ithuba lesibini kubudlelwane, thatha amanyathelo ambalwa:
• Cinga ngokufunda ngento eyakhokelela ekuphuokeleni kolwalamano. Ihlala yenzeka rhoqo ukuba isibini siqhekeze ubume obuthile, kwiimvakalelo nje kunye nokungaqondani. Kule meko, ilula ukubuyisela ubudlelwane. Kwaye imeko yahluke ngokupheleleyo, ukuba unobangela wokwahluka yayiyinkxwaleko kunye nokungcatsha.
• Ukuba uthatha isigqibo sokuphinda uqale ubudlelwane, emva koko ulungiselele inyani yokuba kufuneka ulibele yonke into embi yintoni ebekwe phakathi kwakho ngaphambili. Ukuba ukuqala kwigqabi elitsha, ukungcikiva iqabane lakho elidlulileyo- kuya kuyiphazamisa imeko. Khumbula, kwiphepha elicocekileyo - lithetha iphepha elicocekileyo.
• Ekuvuseleleni ubudlelwane, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ungafundanga kuphela ukuzithethelela, kodwa mamela ngononophelo kwaye uve iqabane.
• Iingcali zengqondo ziyacetyiswa ukuba zingabi livila kwaye ziphinde iqabane ukuba liphinde liyidlulisela oko ufuna ukuhambisa kuyo. Rhoqo kukho amatyala xa umntu engakuqondi oko okungalunganga, kwaye kutheni le nto ingxabano kunye nesikhumba senzekile, esakhokelela emhaleni ixesha lokugqibela. • Kwaye ukhumbule, ukuba indoda ilungele ngokwenene kwaye isiqingatha sakho, kuya kufuneka ube nomsebenzi onzulu ukuze uqhubeke kwakhona ubudlelwane oqhekekileyo.