Amabali onxantathu wothando lwehlabathi, nangona kunjalo, ngaphandle kokufana kweemeko, akunakwenzeka ukuba azijonge zodwa kwaye ahlukane neengcebiso ezifanayo. Masizame ukuqwalasela ezona meko ziqhelekileyo kwaye ziyimfuneko ukuba ziziphathe kakuhle.
Imeko yokuqala. I-classical
Kwenzeka ukuba umntu obhinqileyo aphulukane nentloko yakhe emntwini, athabathe eluthandweni neendlebe zakhe kwaye akaboni (okanye akafuni kubona) ukuba zonke izithembiso zakhe zoqhawulo-mtshato nomfazi wayo ayikho enye inkohliso. La matyala aqhubeka rhoqo, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo omnye wabafundi wayembonise abo babukeleyo okanye nakanye kwindima yomthathi-nxaxheba.Indoda iqinisekisa umfazi kwinto yokuba ubi kusapho ukuba umfazi wabo angakhange anxibelelane nantoni na esele enophahla kwaye akatshatanga kuphela ngenxa yabantwana. Ukukhangela uthando olukhulu kwaye ufuna ngokwenene ukwahlukana nenkosikazi yakhe, kodwa kwangaxeshanye kukho iqhekeza lezinto ezithintelwayo ngale: izale, abantwana abancinci ekunzima ukuhambisa iqhekeza losapho , umfazi uyagula kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba unexhala kwaye uninzi lwezinto. Kodwa nje ukuba yonke into isonjululwe, ngokuqinisekileyo uqhawule umtshato kwaye utshata uthando lwakhe olukhulu. Kwaye eli bhinqa liyakholelwa kunene amazwi akhe.
Rhoqo, amanenekazi avela amaqhinga anje, abahlala kudala benolwalamano, abadiniwe kukutshutshiswa zonke iingxaki kwaye bafuna ukuma ngasemva kwendoda eyomeleleyo nenokuthenjwa. Abafazi abanjalo bathanda ukunyibilikisa ngokupheleleyo, ngenxa yoko abalusingalisile ulwalamano naye. Ngapha koko, benza yonke into ukuba abashiye.
Le meko inomgangatho kwaye, njengommiselo, ubudlelwane kunye nendoda enjalo ihlala iminyaka, kwaye ayihambi kumfazi wakhe.
Yintoni i-psychologist icebisa
Ayinguye wonke umntu obhinqileyo kwimeko enjalo aya kufumana amandla okwaphula ubudlelwane. Ngokwesiqhelo, oku kufuna ixesha elininzi ukudlulisela ixesha le-Euphoria, uthando kwaye lafika kulwazi ukuba iphupha lokuphila kunye liya kuba liphupha. Kule meko, oochwephesha bezengqondo banika icebiso elilula - ukuhlala beqonda ukuba bangayinyibiliki emntwini. Oku kuyakuvumela ukuba uyijonge ngokunzulu, enobunzima, ethelekisa ngenyani kwaye akuqonde kwangaphambili, nokuba nonxibelelwano luyenzeka.
Ukuba ufuna ukuphuma kubudlelwane, kodwa ayisebenzi kunye nemikhosi kwaye uthathe isigqibo, ungawusebenzisa umkhwa we-negativism. Endaweni yokudala iqabane, khumbula kwaye uphinde uziphinde rhoqo zonke iimpawu ezimbi, yonke into ecaphukisayo kuyo, amaxesha amabi kakhulu ekhoyo. Ngale ndlela, inqanaba lokuphilisa liya kukhawuleza.
Imeko yesibini. Sonke isiVumelwano
Kule meko, abafazi bahlala babonelelwa, abajonga ubomi banyani kwaye bangaphambili baqonde, kuba yeyiphi injongo kaThixo kwaye kutheni abayidingayo. Kule meko, bobabini bayasiqonda isizathu sokuba behamba kunye, ukuze ukwazi ukuyibiza ngokuba yintshabalalo ngesivumelwano. Zombini zizonwabela ukwenziwa kwexesha elidibeneyo, akusekho. Apha abafazi bakwisikhundla sokuphumelela ngakumbi, kuba sinokuba neqabane elingaphezulu elinye.Inenekazi linokuziva linemvakalelo efudumeleyo ngesithandwa sakhe, kodwa kwangaxeshanye liyifumana ingqibelelo. Akayi kukhathazeka ukumkhupha kwintsapho yakhe, akasayi kukhanyisa umoya ngomxholo wemitshato kunye nolonwabo loSapho, ukuba uya kumphosa umfazi wakhe aze aye kuye. Akayifuni nje.
Yintoni i-psychologist icebisa
Kwiimeko ezinjalo, into ayilindelekanga ukuba itshintshwe, kuba balungiselela bobabini. Abafazi abanjalo bahlala bephawuleka, kuyo baziva bengonwabanga, kwaye isikhundla senkosikazi yabo yeyona nto iphumelelayo - bafumana izahlulo ezimnandi ukusuka kwimeko yazo (izipho ezahlukeneyo, ukuhamba ngeenyawo iintyatyambo), kunye ne Umtshato awukuniki obu bungakanani obufanayo.
Ngokutsho kwezengqondo, umfazi kule meko ukwindawo enobungozi ngakumbi, kuba ayikheki ubuqhetseba kwaye, ngenxa yoko, ayinangxaki yokuba indoda ayishiyi ntsapho. Abahambelani nolwalamano olunjalo, bonwabela inkqubo.
Imeko yesithathu. Femmeale
Abafazi bakwelo lesithathu abangenamdla ngokupheleleyo kwindoda kumtshato osemthethweni okanye hayi. Bakhohlisa kakhulu kunxibelelana namadoda ukuba abakwazi ukuxhathisa i-charms kwaye apha sele bengakhathali, banomfazi okanye akunjalo. Ngenxa yabantu abanjalo, amadoda abhalwa ngokulula nabafazi abafanayo kwaye bakulungele ukutshata nento entsha yokwamkelwa. Ukufumana umgibe wamabhinqa abulalayo, indoda iphoswe kukubandezeleka, kuba ishiya intsapho yakhe yangaphambili awayehlala kuyo iminyaka emininzi kwaye apho kukho khona abantwana.Yintoni i-psychologist icebisa
Ukuguqukela kule meko, kufuneka kukhunjulwe ukuba umngcipheko whwanqa woqhawulo mtshato kumadoda unyuka amaninzi. Kodwa ngokwenza umfazi ofanayo, ukuba aqhawule umtshato aze ngokukhawuleza angaphumeleli. Nguye oya kuthatha isigqibo sokuba uza kufika nini ulwalamano.
Inikezwe zonke ezi zinto zingasentla, iingcali zengqondo zicebisa abasetyhini - ukuba ubuthandane nendoda etshatileyo kwaye akukho mandla omtshato othintela inkanuko, nyula enye yesenzo kunye nesenzo ngokwesicwangciso. Ngayiphi na imeko, ungaze uvumele indoda ukuba iphazamise, jonga kumntu wakho owukhethekileyo kwaye kwangethuba, susa iiglasi ezipinki.