Iihilsterics, iinyembezi, iinyembezi, ukubandezeleka. Kukho amaxesha esizathu esithile ongenakufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye neqabane. Amadoda athwale ezi zihlandlo, umzekelo, ekulondolozeni rhoqo, u-Arhente, ukungoneliseki, umnqweno wokushiya ikhaya. Abafazi baqala ukufihla, babe ngoxinzelelo rhoqo, bakhala.
Inceda ntoni iinyembezi? Abancedisi ukusombulula ingxaki ... Wena, kunjalo, unokukhala, unomsindo, ukhutyekisiwe okanye intiyo. Kodwa ngelixa usenza, ingxaki yakho ibekwe ecaleni. Awuthathanga isigqibo, kodwa ngamava ayo. Ingxaki ayingxami. Xa ufuna, uya kubuya kwakhona ukuze ubuyekeze neqabane lakho. Iinyembezi, i-hysterics, umsindo, ubundlongondlongo kule meko akuyi kunceda.
Ukuba ufuna ukusombulula imeko yokungqubana kulwalamano, ke akufuneki ukuba ungalikhupheli, kodwa ukujongana nengxaki. Uziva kakubi, ubukrakra kwaye kukhubekile. Kodwa imeko ngokwayo ayizukugqitywa kwaye iya kubuya kwakhona xa kubonakala ngathi yonke into izakusebenza.
Iinyembezi zisanceda. Intoni? Ukwenzela ukutshabalalisa ubudlelwane. Ngelixa ucwangcisiwe, musa ukwenza nantoni na engaphezulu kwentshabalalo yonxibelelwano neqabane lakho. Akukho mntu ungatshatanga oya kuba nenyembezi, i-hysterics kunye nengqumbo yomnye. Ngaba wonwabile xa ubona iinyembezi emehlweni akho entanda yakho? Ngaba uyavuya xa indoda ikrakra kuwe? Ungathanda ukuba uyabaleka, phuma egumbini, buya xa yonke into isebenza. Kwaye ukuba "imiboniso" ilungiselelwe yonke imihla? Ke umntu akafuni ukugoduka kwaphela.
Unokwenza isiphelo esisengqiqweni: Iinyembezi, i-hysterics, umsindo, uburharha, intiyo - yonke le nto itshabalalisa kuphela ubudlelwane.
Utshabalalisa iimvakalelo zakho ezimbi ngokunxulumene neqabane. Awuphenduli kuphela umntu othandekayo wakho kuwe ngezenzo zakho, kodwa kwakhona "rasspaat" imvakalelo yeemvakalelo zezo njongo kunye neengcinga ezivaliweyo. Indoda ihlala ithi udiniwe ukubandezeleka. Xa wayejonga emva, sele eqonda ukuba ubudlelwane buya ku "hayi". Indoda ngokwalo ngokwakhe yaziphefumlela iimvakalelo zakhe, iingcinga kunye nokungakwazi ukwenza unxibelelwano neqabane. Kubonakala kuye ukuba unyanisile, kodwa wabandezeleka ngenxa yokuba kubuhlungu ngokwenene. Iqabane alinakwenza nto, kodwa le ndoda ngokwakhe imvakalelo, ingqumbo, igxekwa nenzakala. Iinyembezi azincedi, kodwa kuphela mazulu kuphela. Ingxaki ayisonjululwa, iimvakalelo zakho ziyaphoswa, kwaye iqabane linqwenela kancinci kangangoko kunokwenzeka ecaleni kwakho - isiphumo seentlungu zakho zonke.