Kuso okohlakeleyo, namhlanje malunga nekota yabantwana abangaphantsi kweminyaka eli-18 baphila nomzali omnye. Kwangelo xesha, imbono ephosakeleyo ixhaphake kakhulu ukuba abantwana abakhulayo kwiintsapho ezingafezekanga, kwixesha elizayo aziphumelelanga njengabantwana abahlala kwiintsapho ezinabazali ababini. Kwintsapho enjalo, ngumntu omnye kuphela ongumzali, umsebenzi ongagqibekanga unzima kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iingcebiso ezininzi eziya kunceda ukuzisa umntwana yedwa kwaye ungahambi ngengqondo.
1. Sukukhathalela ukhathalelo malunga nawe
Kuyimfuneko ukuba uziqonde kwangoko ukuba kufuneka uzinyamekele ngokufanelekileyo iimfuno zakho. Kuphela kuxa umntu eziva ephumle kakuhle kwaye esempilweni, unokunyamekela ngokupheleleyo abantwana bakhe.Uninzi lwabazali ludla ngokubeka abantwana babo iimfuno zabantwana babo kwindawo yokuqala, kwaye ezabo ekugqibeleni, kodwa oku kuyakukhokelela kwinto yokuba baya kuhlala bediniwe. Qiniseka ukuba wabela ixesha rhoqo kwaye uluncedo, phumla kwaye uzibandakanye njengokushaja ekhaya.
2. Hlanganisa iinzame kunye nabanye abazali abangatshatanga
Ngokuqinisekileyo wonke umntu oye wabona into efanayo ibonakala ngathi yayinguye kuphela umntu owaziyo ukuba ungumzali onesithukuthezi. Nangona kunjalo, amanani athi baninzi abanye abantu abazi kakuhle ukuba yintoni.
Unokufumana abazali abangatshatanga kwi-Intanethi, esikolweni somntwana wakho, kwiziganeko zangaphandle okanye ngesicelo esikhethekileyo. Kukho neendawo ezininzi ezikwi-Intanethi ezinokuthi zinike inkxaso kunye nengcebiso nge-Facebook okanye iisayithi ezinje ngohlanga olunye olunye.
3. Yenza uluntu
Ukongeza ekufumaneni inkxaso evela kwabanye abazali abangenamaqabane, unokwenza uluntu olubandakanya iintsapho ezifanayo. Njengoko besitsho, kunye kwaye usizi kulula. Kwaye isihloko esiqhelekileyo sidibanisa abantu njengoko singenakwenzeka.4. Thatha uncedo
Akukho sidingo sokuzama ukuba yi-superhero kwaye wenze yonke into ngokwakho. Ngokuqinisekileyo, ubusuku obuya kubakho abantu (izalamane, izihlobo, njl.njl), efuna ngokunyanisekileyo ukhathalela isithukuthezi kunye nabantwana bakhe, kwaye sifuna ukumnceda. Kufanelekile ukubanika ingxelo kubo ngelizwine kanye ekufuneka uncede kuwo, nokuba luncedo lwamaxesha ngemveliso okanye ukufumana umntwana esikolweni.
Akukho nto ihlazisayo xa efuna uncedo kwaye ithathe uncedo kubantu ababathandayo. Kwangelo xesha, iceliwe ayisayi kuthathwa njengobuthathaka okanye ingakwazi, kodwa kuya kuthathwa njengomzali olungileyo.
5. Yiba nononophelo lwabantwana
Imfundo yomntwana omnye kumzali omnye ngumsebenzi onomceli mngeni ngenxa yexabiso eliphezulu lokuqesha i-nanny, njl njl.
Ukuba ekhaya kukho igumbi elithi "eyongezelelweyo", unokunikela ngomfundi wakhe ngenjongo yokukhathalela umntwana. Okanye ungazama ukubonisana nabanye abazali abangatshatanga ukuba bajonge abantwana kamva. Kukho omnye umsindo kunye nokudibanisa oku-abantwana baya kuba nakho ukudlala omnye komnye, kwaye ukukhathalela kuya kuba lula.
6. Cwangcisa kwiimeko ezingxamisekileyo
Ukuba ukhulisa umntwana yedwa, kufuneka kubekho isicwangciso esigciniweyo okanye ezimbini kwimeko "engahambanga kakuhle." Kuya kufuneka wenze uluhlu lwabantu abaqhelekileyo onokubizwa nangaliphi na ixesha. Ngayiphi na imeko, uya kuze ulufune uncedo, kwaye kubalulekile ukwazi kwangaphambili ukuba ungaxhomekeka kuye.Kukwakufanelekile ukufunda kwangaphambili apho unoku-odola khona i-Naneny yeNgxamisekileyo okanye kwiiNkonzo zeFeergarten. Ukwazi umntu onokukhathalela umntwana kwimeko kaxakeka, unokunciphisa inkxalabo kwiimeko zoxinzelelo.
7. Imo yosuku
Ishedyuli ibaluleke kakhulu kubantwana abancinci, kuba ulwazi malunga nokuba kulindeleke ukuba kubonakale ukubonakala kolawulo. Kubaluleke nangakumbi xa kukho umzali omnye endlwini.
Kufanelekile ukufaka imowudi kunye netshathi yomntwana kangangoko kunokwenzeka-ixesha lokulala (ngaphambi nasemva kwesikolo), ixesha lokuya ekhaya, ixesha lokufumana ukutya kunye nexesha lemini ngeempelaveki.
8. Qhelanisa
Ukuba umntwana unabagcini abaliqela, umzekelo, omnye umzali, ootat'omkhulu, utat'omkhulu okanye uNanny, kuya kufuneka ubacacisele ngokungqalileyo kwibhedi enye.Xa umntwana eqonda ukuba imigaqo ethile "isebenza" nabantu abohlukeneyo, uya kubangela iingxaki ezongezelelekileyo ngezithintelo, indlela yokuziphatha noqeqesho kwixesha elizayo.
9. Ukuba nethemba
Abantwana baya kuba nakho ukufumana olona tshintsho luncinci kwindlela yokuziphatha kunye nemvakalelo yabazali babo. Ke ngoko, kuyimfuneko ukuba ugxile kwimizuzu elungileyo yobomi, njengabahlobo kunye nosapho. Oku kuyakwenza indawo yokuhlala enamakhaya amaninzi.
Qiniseka ukuba ugcina imvakalelo yokuhlekisa kwaye ungamoyiki ukujonga ubudenge.
10. Vumela ixesha elidlulileyo kwaye ungaziva uziva unetyala
Kwintsapho enomzali omnye, nokuba izame kangakanani, akunakwenzeka ukuba isebenze njengabazali bobabini. Kuyimfuneko ukuba 'ungakhathali' kwinto yokuba awunakwenza zodwa, kwaye endaweni yoko, cinga ngento enokwazi ukubanika abantwana bakho.Kuyimfuneko ukulibala nje ngengcinga yokuba ubomi bunokuba lula okanye bhetele nabazali ababini. Ayinyani. Zininzi izibonelelo kwaye zininzi zosapho kuzo zombini iimeko, ke zizisola yile nto incinci.
11. Phendula imibuzo
Abantwana banokuba nemibuzo yokuba kutheni iintlanzi zabo ekhaya zihlukahlukene nabahlobo babo abaninzi. Xa becela ukuba kutheni kunjalo, akudingi kufundisa imeko okanye ubuxoki / ukungasebenzi.
Kuxhomekeka kwiminyaka yobudala, kubalulekile ukubacacisela inyani malunga noko kwenzeka kwaye kwenzeka njani ukuba iimeko zangoku ziphuhlileyo. Ngokwemvelo, akufanelekanga ukuba uxele iinkcukacha ngakumbi kunokuba kunyanzelekile, kwaye akunyanzelekanga ukuba uthethe kakubi ngomzali. Kodwa kwangaxeshanye, kufanelekile ukuzama ukunyaniseka kwaye uthembeke.
12. Jonga abantwana njengabantwana
Ukungabikho kweqabane, abaninzi babona abantwana babo njengomnxibelelanisi wokunxibelelana okanye uvelwano. Akukho meko ayinakukwenza oku - abantwana nje abajongwa kule ndima.Kubudlelwane babantu abadala kukho iinkcukacha ezininzi ukuba abantwana abanakuqonda okanye ukuqonda, kwaye kuya kubangela ukudideka kunye nengqumbo.
Kwakhona, akufuneki ukuba ususe ingqumbo ebantwaneni bakho kwaye ukhokele ngokucacileyo iimfuno zakho zeemvakalelo ngendima yomzali.
13. Fumana iimodeli
Imalunga nokufumana nayiphi na imizekelo elungileyo yokuxelisa abantu besini esahlukileyo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umntwana abe nonxibelelwano olubi ngokusilela komzali olahlekileyo.
Ukwenza oku, unokufumana abahlobo abasondeleyo okanye amalungu osapho abafuna ukuchitha ixesha nabantwana. Kuyimfuneko ukukhuthaza abantwana ukuba benze ubudlelwane obubalulekileyo nabantu obathembayo kwaye abanokunikela nomzekelo.
14. Yiba nothando nendumiso
Abantwana bafuna uthando kunye nokudunyiswa yonke imihla. Kufanelekile ukuba unxibelelane nabantwana rhoqo, ukudlala nabo, ukuba uhambe kwaye ukhuthaze incoko evulekileyo.Qiniseka ukuba ugxininisa ukuba umntwana usenza kakuhle umntwana, nokuba zincinci kangakanani. Kuya kufuneka ukuba udumise imigudu yabo, ingafezekisi. Kuya kukhuthaza abantwana ukuba banganyanzeli ukuba banikezele ngomsebenzi onzima, ukuba awuboni mpumelelo okwangoku.
Endaweni yokuchitha imali kwizipho, kungcono ukuchitha ixesha namandla ukudala iinkumbulo zexesha elide.
Ukuqukumbela
Ukuba ngumzali onesizungu luxanduva olunzima. Ngaphandle koncedo lweqabane onokuthi lithembele kuzo, abazali abangatshatanga baya kuba nexhala ngakumbi.
Nangona kunjalo, uphando lubonisa ukuba xa umntwana ekhula kwintsapho enomzali omnye, ayinayo ifuthe elibi ekusebenzeni kwakhe esikolweni. Ngelixa usapho yindawo ezinzileyo nekhuselekileyo, abantwana banokuphumelela kwizifundo zabo kunye nobomi.