"Kutheni hlukana?" "Ndicela ubuhlobo bam obude," "khange bavumelane nabalinganiswa." Ndikhumbula ixesha xa bedibana. Uye wagcuma emzimbeni ngomzimba onzulu wegephu kwaye ukusuka phantsi kwe-mini ye-mini ukuba wayemfanyekiswe nje, apho wayengu "ukubona" isimilo "sakhe ...
- Kutheni wahlukana? - Lo ngumbuzo ongakhathaliyo. Thina, ii-hamsters, ubudlelwane obukhethekileyo. Singabathandi abafanelekileyo. Uthando luyasifumana, lithatha ezona fom zinqabileyo, thina ...-ndifuna impendulo ethile ... - wazama ukundidla xa singazange sasondla ngexesha.
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- Battysushka, sikelela uQhawulo-mtshato ... - Kutheni utshatile, ntombi yam? - Ewe, apha, isidenge yayikuku ... - Uyabona, yena, Duru, utshatile, kwaye uqhawulo-mtshato ...
Kutheni, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, sahlukana?
Izizathu zinokubizwa ngokuba zizo zonke iintlobo: Ukuphulukana netrasti, izinto ezinomdla, ngokwasemzimbeni, ezesondo kunye nolukholo, iingxaki zemali, ukupholisa iimvakalelo, ukungcakaza, ukhula, njl njl.
Ngokoluvo lwam, zonke ezi zinto zingasentla azizizo zizathu, kodwa zibonakaliso, umphumo wezo dade, ezizizathu zokwenene.
Ngoku asiyi kuqwalasela iimeko zobudlelwane apho amahlakani axhaphaza kwaye alawulane, babelane ngezimvo zabantu ababhinqileyo, yima kwimigaqo-siseko yematriarchate, zitshutshiswa ngamacala ahlukeneyo kunye nokuxhomekeka eziphezulu.
Siza kuthetha nge-uqhelekileyo, eqhelekileyo ukusuka kwindawo yokujonga umntu, ubudlelwane bamadoda nabafazi, esikunye nawe, sikunye.
Okokuqala, nasiphi na isiphumo sobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi sisiphumo esikhethekileyo, bobabini, kwaye indoda nomfazi batyale imali (umphumo), ngaphandle kwepesenti.
Ke, indoda ayifuni ukunyamezela ubundlobongela, umfazi akasafuni ukumhlonela umntu kwaye amkhathalele. Yonke enye into sisiphumo nje.
Nditsalela ingqalelo kwinto yokuba ezi phelelo zilele ekuthandanisweni kwethu, oko kukuthi, umntu uyekile ukuziva umnqweno wokuqhubeka nobudlelwane. Ngaphandle kwethu kuya kufa kuphela kukufa njengemeko engenakuphikiswa.
Ukongeza, sihlala siphule imithetho esisiseko sobudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi onokuthi babonakalise into enje: Ukuba indoda ithanda ukusondelana nomfazi, imele itshatele; Ukuba umfazi ufuna ukutshata, akafanelanga ukwala umyeni wakhe emdeni.
Into eyahlukileyo yayo yonke imithetho yobomi yinto ethile yenze ngokuzimeleyo kwisimo sethu sengqondo kubo (imithetho): Enoba siyakholelwa kubukho babo okanye hayi, sivumelana ngokulunga okanye hayi, Qhubeka nokusebenza kwaye ube nempembelelo yayo kuthi.
Ngapha koko, sihlala silibaleka okanye singazi konke ukuba le ndoda kunye nebhinqa ladalwa ukuba lizaliswe, kwaye lingakhuphisane.
Uninzi lwethu kwikholam "ulwalamano" lunokubhala ngokukhululekileyo: "Ndihlala ndifumanisa ukuba." Ngapha koko, ubudlelwane babo bazakhelwe phezu kwezizathu.
Uninzi lwethu alulungile kwaye alufuni ubudlelwane obongakho, abafuni 'basebenze "ngokwabo, tshintsha. Uninzi lwethu lwamkela ukhetho lwenkanuko xa sitshintshile xa sitshintsha phantsi kwempembelelo yehomoni, xa ungafuneki wenze nantoni na, ukwenza nayiphi na imizamo, ngenxa yokuba kunjalo BANYE NAYE NJENGOKO KULUNGILEYO NJENGOKUXELWA KWAKHONA.
Asisoloko sikulungela ubomi benene kwaye kwakamsinya nje ukuba isenzo sehormones sibuthathaka, 'sifumanisa ukuba linenekazi lentliziyo yethu, nesidenge, ngaphandle kwayo , "Ibhokhwe".
Umfazi: -Ndikunike eyona minyaka ilungileyo ebomini bam! Indoda: -Umka umva, andizange ndizisebenzise!
Iintliziyo zethu zihlunyiwe, phakathi kwethu ukhula eludongeni kwaye sinyanzelekile ukuba sikhwaze sivakale.
Siyalibala ukuba amadoda nabafazi bahlukile, batsho ukuba nakwiiplanethi ezahlukeneyo.
Umfazi: - Wena, madoda, kuphela ngesondo kunye nentswelo, kwaye thina, bafazi, ufuna ingqalelo ... Indoda: -Ukujonga! Ngoku kuya kubakho isini!
Asifezekanga, kodwa sinokwenza yonke into esivela kuthi kuxhomekeke kugcino.
Okokuqala, kufuneka uthathe isigqibo ngaphakathi kuwe kunye neqabane lakho elizayo (O), ukuba umanyano lwakho 'luye lwanyaniseka kwaye lunyanisekile! "
Okwesibini, ekuqaleni, kufuneka uvume ukuba nayiphi na imeko kufuneka ixoxwe kwaye ityhilwe. Bonke ubunzima kunye novuyo kufuneka lusonjululwe ukuba ludlule kunye.
Okwesithathu, ubudlelwane bufanele bube semthethweni: kufuneka utshatile. Ebusweni, umfazi "probe", njengakwisebe leziqholo, othintela isigqibo, "Thatha okanye ungathathi". Kwi-teabiby, ngumfazi osemngciphekweni kakhulu. Ukugcina ibhalansi kunye nokuzithemba ndiza kongeza ukuba indoda isemngciphekweni kakhulu emtshatweni-ke ngoko sinokubona kanye kwintsapho. Kodwa esi asisosizathu ...
Okwesine, "bafuna ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, emva koko bafumanise omnye komnye, emva koko uye kulala.
Abantu abakrelekrele kakhulu baya konwabela ipropathi eninzi kakhulu kunokubabiza ngokwesondo, ukusuka ekunxibelelaneni nengqondo ekhulelweyo yomntu wesini.
Kuluncedo lokuqonda ngenene. Ngokutsho kwe-Diana Rab, ugqirha wefilosofi kwi-precholology psychology, ingqondo yeyona nyama yesondo. Unjingalwazi Jeffrey Miller uthi iimpawu ezinje ngolwimi, isikeri kunye nobukrelekrele bavela kuzo zombini izini, kuba babenomtsalane ngokwesini kuzo zombini isini.
Imincili yesini iyahluka kangako ukuba ingabonakalisi amagama. Esona sizathu sonwabisayo esinako, bantu, kukukwazi kwethu ukucinga, khawufane kwaye uvakalelwe kwaye uziva.
Ke ngoko, musa ukukhawuleza ukulala, hlakuleleni inyani, funda ubukrelekrele, usandisa amandla akho ngokwesondo, uguqule amandla akho ngokwesondo kwaye uyithumele ukuze iphumelele kwimidlalo, isayensi, umculo, ukudanisa, njl. Funda into ebizwa ngokuba nguMakhulu kaMakhulu.
Ke kutheni sisahlula?
Thina, uninzi lwethu, asikho kwaphela kwaye silondoloze ubudlelwane. Sizimisele ngokupheleleyo kwiTV yethu kwaye sasihlala sihluthiwe ngamandla okukhanya, oko kukuthi, ngokwesondo. Ulwazi olumangalisayo lomphefumlo. Kwaye siqala ukwazi umzimba omnye, ngaphandle kokuhambisa umphefumlo.
Ubudlelwane bakhelwe kwiimvakalelo (ukuba neemvakalelo kuphela kwisiseko sabo) ziyintshabalalo. Ngendlela, unjingalwazi we-psychology lisa feldman barret uthi iimvakalelo - yile nto sizenzayo, hayi umntu esingenakukwazi ukuya ndawo.
Ke, yonke into isezandleni zethu, kumandla ethu. Kwaye sinqwenela ukuba sizidala.