Unethamsanqa noninazala, ukuba akakhuphuki ngeengcebiso zokukhulisa abantwana. Kodwa ungumntu ongonwabanga, ukuba phantsi kwengcaciso yoncedo oluqale ukukhuthaza ezopolitiko zakho, fundisa ingqondo ukuqiqa kwaye akuthelekise nabanye abantu.
Indlela yokwabelana ngayo imisebenzi yokuphakamisa umntwana
Kuthekani ukuba umkhwekazi wakho ufuna ngokwenene ukunceda ekukhuliseni umzukulwana othandekayo nomzukulwana olindelweyo okanye umzukulwana, kodwa enyanisweni ukutyeshela emntwaneni kwaye ushumayele iinyaniso zakho? Okokuqala, ukuthoba, ukuthoba kuphela. Umntwana wakho uya kubandezeleka ngenxa yolawulo kusapho lweengxabano. Eyona nto iphambili kuyeyona nto iphambili kukuba yintuthuzelo ye-crumbs kunye nemeko yayo eqhelekileyo yengqondo. Nokuba awufumani ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kunye noninazala, umntwana wakho ngokwezifiso nxamnye nogogo ayisiyeyona ndlela ilungileyo. Umntwana akanakulindeleka ukuba aqonde ukuba kutheni uthetha kakubi malunga nomkhwekazi kwaye uxabane naye.
KUTHENI IXESHA LOKUQHUTYELWA IMFUNDO YABANTU
Wonke umntu unobomi babo kwaye nganye ngendlela yayo ibona isicombululo kwimibuzo eyahlukeneyo. Ukuba umshiya umntana womntwana ngexesha lokufunda okanye umsebenzi, kufuneka azicombulule iingxaki ezininzi. Mhlawumbi akafuni ukungakwazi ukukunceda, kodwa enyanisweni uyavuma ukuba awuthandi ukhathalelo lomntwana kunye namanye amanqaku. Kufuneka uqonde nje isalamane sakho, chaza ukuba iphosa into engalunganga kwisikhundla sakho. Ukuba umkhwentwe ongumkhwekazi uyeza entsalela iyeza emntwaneni kwaye akunika iingcebiso ezininzi malunga nokukhuliswa kwayo (ocinga ukuba ungathandi), unokumamela kwaye wenze indlela ocinga ngayo.
Ngobuchule baxelela umolokazana nomyeni endibazisa umntwana ngendlela yam?
Ukuba ufuna ukuxelela umkhwekazi onombono owahlukileyo malunga nokukhuliswa komntwana, kuya kufuneka uyenze njengethambeka. Thatha umzuzu ofanelekileyo, kwaye uthethe njengabantu abadala. Ungayi kubuntu ukuze umama weqabane lakho engasekho, thabatha ucango. Kwakhona, masingaze silibale ukuba ngandlel 'ithile ikhulise indoda oyitshatayo. Mhlawumbi ayiko kangako, iphosakele kwaye kufuneka iqondwe ukuba yintoni umahluko kwiimbono. Mhlawumbi kufanelekile ukuba senze inkonzo yokusebenza ngenene ekukhuliseni abantwana kwaMamazala. Kungenzeka ukuba kwixa elizayo uyakufuna kakhulu ukunceda umakhulu wakho. Buyisela iibhulorho ezitshisiweyo zinzima kakhulu kunokuchitha incoko yababini.
Kuthekani ukuba umkhwekazi akafuni ukuva amazwi am?
Ukuqala incoko enzima kunye nomkhwekazi, lela kwincoko eyakhayo neyakhayo. Mamela into ethethwa ngumyeni kamama. Mhlawumbi umntu uyaqonda, unokuseka ubudlelwane. Ewe, xa umkhwekazi ofuna ngokwenene ukuba ufuna ukukunceda kwaye ubeke endaweni yakho. Ngapha koko, kwenzeka ukuba oomama abancinci bangathanda ukufumana uhlobo oluthile loncedo, kodwa ngelishwa naliphi na indawo. Ukuba awufumani ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kwaphela, kwaye awungekhe uwele umkhwekazi, kuya kufuneka uthembele umakhulu, kufuneka niyithembe iMisebenzi esezantsi yokukhuliswa komntwana wakho okanye into engayi kuba nako ukubuchaphazela kakhulu ubomi buka-A Umntwana: Yondla, nxiba, uhambe nomntwana epakini njalo njalo. Ukuqukumbela, sinokuthi asikufanelekeli ukuchitha ixesha kunye namandla kwiimbambano, i-quararels. Guqula loo misebenzi inokuphelisa ngokukhuselekileyo umntu. Ngokuthe ngcembe, yonke into iya kulungiswa kwaye iingxabano azizukufika.