Emva kokuzalwa komntwana, abazali balumkeke kakhulu ngayo yonke into kwaye konke okunxulumene nomntwana, kwaye kwazama ukuyinyamekela ngamandla abo onke. Kodwa abazali (ngokukodwa "abaqalayo", abanayo ibuma) bahlala bengazi ukuba baziphethe njani ngokuchanekileyo.
Inyani yile yokuba ngokunxulumene nombulelo osanda kuzalwa, olugqithisileyo olufunekayo. Sibonisa ezinye iingcebiso malunga nento eyaziyo ukuba umzali ngamnye, okhathale umntwana.I-1 yokondla ichanekile
Ubisi lukamama kuphela komthombo wamandla omntwana. Okokuqala, kufuneka uqiniseke ukuba umntwana usela ubisi olwaneleyo, kuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhula komntwana. Kuyimfuneko ukunika isixa esisandula ukuzalwa "ngokuchanekileyo" sobisi ngokungqinelana neengcebiso zoGqirha woSapho. Okwesibini, kuya kufuneka ujonge i-PESE apho umntwana ayondla khona. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, oko kuyakutya umntwana kwi-pose kunokuchaphazela ukugaya kwakhe. Kwaye akufuneki silibale ukuba umntwana kufuneka anyamalale.
2 Bamba izandla zakho zicocekile
Ulusu lomntwana, kunye namajoni amajoni omzimba, ukhathazekile kwizifo nosulelo. Ungaze uchukumise umntwana wakho ngaphandle kokutshintsha izandla zakho, kwaye kufuneka yenziwe ngokuchanekileyo ukuthintela abafowunelwa beentsholongwane nomntwana. Oku kubalulekile kungekuphela nje kumama, kodwa nakumntu wonke. Ihlala iyimfuneko ukucela abanye ukuba bahlambe iingalo zakho ngaphambi kokuba bachukumise umntwana. Xa umntu evela esitratweni, ngokubanzi akunakwenzeka ukuba amvumele okanye kwangoko3 Musa ukusebenzisa kakubi iimpahla zabantwana
Iimveliso zabantwana ziyimfuneko kwinkathalo efanelekileyo yomntwana. Zininzi iimveliso ezenzelwe ngokukodwa ukukhathalela ulusu kunye nococeko lwabantwana. Kodwa ukusetyenziswa kakhulu kwezi mveliso kunokwenzakalisa umntwana kunye nolusu lwayo. Kuyimfuneko ukuzama ukuphepha "ukugqithisela" usebenzisa ezi mveliso, kunye nononophelo ukuba imali esetyenziselwa ukuthambisa kolusu lwentsana isetyenziswa. Ukuba umntwana uqala ubuncinci nakuphi na ukungonwabi emva kokusebenzisa nayiphi na imali, kufuneka uyeke ukuyiyeka ngokukhawuleza ukuyisebenzisa.
4 Lungiselela kakuhle
Ixesha lokukhulelwa-lelona xesha lilungileyo lokulungiselela ukhathalelo losana olusanda kuzalwa. Ngeli xesha, kuya kufuneka ufunde uncwadi olukhethekileyo olunokwenzeka, kunye nokubonisana nabazali abanamava. Oku kuyakunceda ukumelana kakuhle neemeko ezingaqhelekanga kunye nokukhusela iimpazamo. Ukusukela ngomhla wokuqala wokukhulelwa, kufanelekile ukulungiselela ukuzalwa kwaye uqaphele ukuba konke okusemandleni ukumnyamekela umntwana.
Ukuba abazali bajamelana nabuphi na ubunzima, kwaye umntwana uhlala ekhala, kufuneka atyelele ugqirha wabo, kwaye angaze anike iyeza kumntwana ngaphandle kokubonisana nogqirha.