Ayiyi kuba ziindaba nakubani na onamaqabane, emphefumlweni apho iimvakalelo zabantu abazithandayo ziyaqaqamba rhoqo. Ukusuka kwi-TOOT YOKUZIPHATHA KWEMVAVANYO KWI-CHEEK YOKUZIPHATHA NGOKUGQIBELA
U-Lauresi Steinberg, ugqirha weFilosofi, ugqirha wezonyango kunye nonyango lwengqondo. Le ayisiyobuliso okanye i-erotict enomtsalane, endaweni yoko le yinto engekhoyo engenasithandwa esidlulisela into enzulu.Makhe sinike izizathu ezithandathu zokuba kutheni umntu emanga ibunzi.
1. Isibini sinonxibelelwano olusondeleyo kakhulu
Ukuqabula ebunzini kwiqabane lothando lithetha malunga nento eyahlukileyo kunoko ifakwe kwindlebe kwigumbi lokulala. U-Steinberg uthi u-Steinberg uthi ucacisa i-Steinberg.
Kungenxa yoko le nto abazali okanye ootatomkhulu notatomkhulu bemangalisa ibunzi - esi senzo sisibonakaliso sibonisa uthando ngokweemvakalelo.
Iqabane lifuna ukwanga umphefumlo
Ngapha koko, kukho intetho yokwenyani evela kwindawo yebhayoloji ye-biologing yokuba kutheni ukwanga ebunzini bubonisa ubushushu ngaphakathi. Ubushushu kunye noxinzelelo lwemilebe yomntu ebunzi buvuselela i-Prycoidal Gland ebalaselisa imichiza ebangela uvuyo kunye nokuphakanyiswa kwengqondo. Eli qabane lomzimba liyinto ebalulekileyo icingisise, iimbono awabelana ngazo, kunye naye njengomntu, hayi nje umzimba wenyama.3. Umfazi hayi nje into nje emnandi
Ayinamsebenzi, lo ngumhlobo ongakhange ubone kwi-kindergarten, okanye inkanuko entsha - ukuba indoda iqabula intombi yakhe ebunzini lakhe, unokuqiniseka ukuba kwangaxeshanye ucinga ngaye Umzimba ohlekisayo). USteinberg uthi: "Ukuqabula ebunzi kubonisa ukuba umfazi uthathwa njengento nje yesondo. Le yimfesane, hayi indlela yesondo iqabane lokubonisa ukuhlonela kunye nokuhlonela ibhinqa lakhe.
4. Iqabane lifuna ukuziva uthando
"Amaqabane ahlala ebonisa indlela yokuziphatha elungileyo abafuna ukuyifumana," ucacisa uSteinberg. Ngokuthetha ngokuthetha, ukuba indoda imnandi njengomfazi ebunzi, inethemba lokuba uza kuphendula nothando.5. Umtsalane wesondo akakho
Ukuba iqabane langa kuphela ebunzini, linokuthetha ukuba umdla wesini kulwalamano uya kuhla. Nangona kunjalo, idityanisiwe kakhulu nento eyenzekayo phakathi kokubini. Ukuba intombazana ayiqinisekanga ukuba kwenzeka ntoni kulwalamano lwayo, kufanelekile ukuzama ukufaka imilebe yakhe phantsi kokuqabula kwaye ubone ukuba yintoni eza kwenzeka.
Ukuba iqabane lisusiwe okanye lingabonakala ngathi likreqi, lixesha lokuba uthethe ngento eyenzekileyo. Kwaye ukuba emva koku kuya kulandela ukuncama ebunzi ebunzini kumthi wokunxibelelana, oko kunokuthetha ukuba uchithe ixesha ngokugqibeleleyo, kodwa akafuni okungakumbi kubudlelwane.
6. Iqabane "lokubhiyozela uloyiso", ukukholelwa ukuba wayenethamsanqa ukufumana umfazi onjalo
Xa ufumana iqabane ngeemvakalelo ezifanayo, kuyimpumelelo yokwenene, emva koko uloyiso lunokuvela.
Mhlawumbi yiyo loo nto iifoto kunye ne-memes kunye nokuqabula ebunzini ziye zathandwa kakhulu kwi-Instagram. "Ukuqinisekisa ukuba umntu othile ukuthathela ingqalelo wena kunye nesimo sakho sengqondo kubaluleke kakhulu, kwaye abantu banekratshi ukubonisa ukuba banokubonisa," utsho njalo.