Ngelishwa, abantu abaninzi namhlanje bakhetha ukuhlala "kubi", kuba luhlobo lwetyhefu, kuba boyika ukuba bodwa kwaye bagxekwa ngabanye. Kodwa inyani yile yokuba isizungu asiyothusa ngokupheleleyo, kwaye akukho nto ineentloni. Phantse onke amantombazana ayoyika ukuba nesizungu.
Kwaye banokubakholisa ukuba bakhuphe, okuya kubenza bazive boyikeke. Emva koko bayaqonda ukuba bayoyikisa-ukuba bangabili-lonely, kodwa baqulathe 'i "shit".1. Akukho mfuneko yokoyika ukuba yiyodwa, lowo ungavumeliyo ukuba
Ke, masiqale ngento ekufuneka uyiyo umntu ongayamkeli into oyiyo, kwaye akayixabisi. Indoda engakwaziyo ukusilela kwakho kwaye ihlala izama ukuphinda ithathele ingqalelo "kwintanda yakho." Umntu ogxekayo onke inyathelo lakho, owenza uzive ngathi alwenzi nto. Indoda engakuvumeli ukuba wenze into oyithandayo, kwaye ngubani na ozibekelayo inkululeko yakho. Kufanelekile ukucinga ngayo ngomzuzu kwaye uqonde ukuba kulula ukuba yedwa.
2. Kungcono ukuchitha ixesha lodwa kunokuba kwinkampani embi
Kutheni ufuna ukoyike ukuba ulilolo kwindawo yokutyela oyithandayo, hamba ngemovie wena okanye hamba uyedwa ukuba uziva ukhululekile. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kubaluleke kakhulu ukwenza yonke le nto nomntu ongathandanga ukuchitha ixesha nawe kwaye ayijonga nje umsebenzi ongenakufikeleleka.3. Kungcono ukulala wedwa kunokuvuka ecaleni komntu ongamaziyo
Ewe, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, ngamanye amaxesha kuyenzeka ukuba ulale kakhulu kwaye uvuke wedwa. Kodwa kubi kakhulu kunokuvuka kwaye kungamazi umntu ngokulandelayo, ongubani, njengoko wayecinga ngaphambili, uyazi kakuhle. Kodwa kuyinyani ukuba emva kwethuba inkwenkwe ayiyi kuba ngumtsalane, onothando, onothando, onobubele nemfesane othandana nothando. Kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba ucinge-vuka ecaleni kwendoda eyekiweyo uthando kwaye ikunyamekele, oko kuthetha nantoni na eyenye.
4. Kungcono ukwenza iimpazamo kunokuba ungabi nalo mfo
Iimpazamo ziyinxalenye yobomi, kwaye zihlala zizifundo ezixabisekileyo ezinokusifundisa zona. Akukho sidingo soyike ukwenza iimpazamo, kuba basifundisa ngento oyifunayo okanye abangayifuni. Kungcono ukuba woyike ukungabikho kuloo ndoda eya kuqhutywa ngamazwi nezithembiso ezimnandi, kodwa ayizukuthanda ngokwenene.5. Kufuneka woyike ukungakhathali, kodwa wenze uthando, ngaphandle kokuziva uthandekayo
Akunakulindeleka ukuba nabani na afune ukuba kunye nomntu ogqwethayo kwinkalo yolwalamano olunemvakalelo kunakwicala, kodwa uswele iimvakalelo ezilungileyo, kwaye unyamezele iimfuno zabo. Ekubona into engaphezulu kwento kunokuba ngumntu oneemfuno kunye neminqweno. Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba ube naye ... akukho ngcono ukwenza uthando nendoda oziva ifudumele kwaye uthando.
6. Incoko nabantu abangaqondiyo
Ngokuqinisekileyo, yayifumana umntu ngamnye-uthi ngenkwenkwe esithandana nayo, kwaye 'ubonakalisa kuphela ngokwasemzimbeni' kwaye engaze aphulaphule ngenyameko oko akuthethayo. Kuthekani ngencoko epholileyo nomfana oselula, onokuthetha naye. Okanye ukugxeka rhoqo, xa iingcinga zakho azihloniphi, izimvo kunye nembono kunye nembono yokukholisa ukuba kuphela uyakwazi, kodwa yintoni engeyiyo. Kutheni le nto nifanele nibe nabo bangakwaziyo ukwenza incoko efundisayo nenomdla ... kuba ekugqibeleni iya kuba yinto epholileyo.7. Kufuneka woyike ukuba ungabili, kodwa ufumane ukonzakala kokuziphatha
Iinyembezi azilophawu lobuthathaka konke konke. Kodwa kufanelekile ukuba woyike ukuba kunye nomntu onako ukuzuza imvakalelo kwaye waphule intliziyo ekwanele ukuba ulale kwaye ukhohlise isizathu xa ebonakalisa yonke into . Akukho mfuneko yokuba nexhala malunga nokuba ungalila, kodwa yintoni onokuyifumana nomntu ongayi kukhathalela oko uzivayo, kwaye ongayi kukuphatha ngothando, intlonipho kunye nemfesane.
8. Kungcono ukuba nesizungu, kwaye hayi ngendoda engakukhathalelanga
Kulula kakhulu ukuba ufunde ukonwabela isizungu, kwaye ungazinikeli umntu ongafanelanga nesipikili sakho. Ihlala yenzeka rhoqo ukuba lo mfo ubeyintombi yakhe, ngokungakhethi, kwaye ukungabi yinto ephambili ebomini bakhe.
Kuya kufuneka ukuba ube kufutshane nomntu owenza ukuba uve intanda yakho, ikhuselwe kwaye igqitywe ngokweemvakalelo. Indoda enokuthi ive iingcinga ezingacaluzi, zive iimvakalelo, ithe yathetha ngaphandle kobunzulu bomphefumlo wakho.