Ukukhulisa abantwana ngumsebenzi onzima nakwezo ntsapho zizeleyo. Umama, ovutha ngumntwana wedwa, ungamoneli konke konke. Ufuna ukukhulisa indoda yokwenene kwinkwenkwe. Kodwa njani ukuba uNyana azi ukuba ethandwa, kodwa ekhule ngokuzimela, enoxanduva, enenjongo? Ungawugcina njani ulungelelwaniso phakathi kothando kunye ne-riger? Masithethe Ngobunzima bomama abazisa oonyana ngaphandle koncedo.
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Ukunqongophala kwexesha
Ewe kunjalo, ukukhulisa umntwana (ukutya, ukukhwela, ukuphatha, nxiba, ufunde njalo) oomama abalowo kufuneka basebenze kakhulu. Rhoqo, abantwana abanaso ingqalelo eyoneleyo yomama, ukhathalelo, kwaye nobukho.
Ibhunga lelinye-Fumana ixesha lonyana, nokuba udiniwe kangakanani.
Sukudlula emntwaneni ngenxa yokuhamba kwentloko okanye yokusebenza okuntsonkothileyo. Thatha ixesha kungekuphela kwiiklasi, kodwa nangokuthetha, ehamba epakini, uxoxa ngekhathuni okanye i-cinema. Yonwabela uluntu lwabanye - umntwana uyakhula ngokukhawuleza kwaye akunakulindeleka ukuba akhumbule ukuba ingakanani imali oyifumeneyo. Kodwa ixesha elichithwe kunye liya kuba lubaluleke ngaye.
Akukho mzekelo wamadoda
Umzekelo wamadoda kwimfundo yamakhwenkwe udlala indima ebalulekileyo. Ukuba utata akanakuba ngumzekelo, khangela umgqatswa ofanelekileyo kule ndima phakathi kwezihlobo nabahlobo. Isenokuba utata wakho, umhlobo osondeleyo kunye nomntu osebenza naye. Ukuba phakathi kwabantu bokwenyani ongambonisi umntu onokuthi uthathe umzekelo, mayibe ngumlinganiswa kwincwadi okanye kwifilimu.
Ungalibali ngemidlalo. Mhlawumbi umqeqeshi onomdlalo wamanqindi okanye i-basketball iya kuba ngumzekelo wamadoda wamadoda wonyana wakho. Ungaphoswa lityala lokugxininisa isenzo se-knight of storserby ukuba ifanelekile. Ingqwalaselo yamanqaku xa amadoda angaqhelekanga anike abantwana kunye nabasetyhini, bancede abantu abadala ukuba badlulisele iingxowa ezinzima, abafazi badlula phambili okanye babakhonze. Ukwenza isimo somntu kwinkwenkwe, umama uya kusebenza kakhulu.
Uloyiko kunye nobunzima
Imfundo efanelekileyo yomntwana ifuna ulwazi ngeziseko ze-psychology kunye ne-pedagog, amava emihla ngemihla, umonde, ubulumko, ixesha. Emva koqhawulo-mtshato, oshiyekileyo yedwa neengxaki kunye neenkxalabo, kulula ukuwela kwidima. Ayifanele iyenza loo nto. Ungavumeli uloyiko kunye namava ukuba bahlale emphefumlweni wakho. Ngaba ucinga ukuba uwuyeke umntwana katata wakho kwaye ubeka ityala ngobomi bentsapho obungaphumelelanga?
Kodwa kungcono ukuba umntwana akanaye uYise kunokuba uza kubona umzekelo ongafanelekanga wokuziphatha kwamadoda.
Ngaba woyika ukukhula ukuthuthuzela, ukungonwabi? Funda iincwadi, phuhlisa, ulandele ingcebiso yeengcali zengqondo. Yiba nguMama owaneleyo kwaye unxibelelane nonyana wakho, njengoMhlobo.
Eyona nto iphambili kukuzabalazela ngcono, ungazami ukuwela ubuso phakathi koxinzelelo olupheleleyo emntwaneni kunye nokungahoyi umdla kumdla wakhe. Sukuzama ukutshintsha uyihlo, ungazami ukumnika umhlaba wonke - yiba ngokwakho, ngokunyaniseka, onothando, ukukhathalela nokuzikhathalela.
Oomama bahlukile
Oomama bahlukile-kulungile kwaye nothando, ukukhathalela kunye nesiqalekiso, ngokungqongqo kwaye ufuna. Kwinkqubo yokukhulisa umntwana, oomama banoluhlu olupheleleyo lweemvakalelo ezahlukeneyo, uloyiko, amava. Kuyimfuneko ukulawula imeko yakho yemvakalelo ukuze umntwana angayivanga imeko yakho yemvakalelo, uxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo.
OKO KUFUNA UKUBA:
- Ixhala kakhulu;
- ukutyeba kakhulu;
- ukubetha ngobumnene;
- Unoburhalarhume;
- eyakho;
- i-pessimist.
Ezi ntlobo zoomama aziboni ukuba ubunyhakazi wonwabe. Kubo, uNyana akangobuntu obabubuntu obodwa kunye neminqweno yakhe, kodwa into yokuziqonda, ukukhululwa kweemvakalelo, ukusombulula imisebenzi yabo ebalulekileyo. Ukuba uziqwalasele ezinye zezi ngxaki, uyaphulukana.
Iingcebiso zoochwephesha beengqondo
- Sukuzijonga njengetyala - musa ukuhlala kwixesha elidlulileyo (abantu abaphazamisayo, ubudlelwane alwanelanga wonke umntu, thanda nje umntwana kwaye uyikhathalele);
- Sukuzama ukukholisa abantu obathandayo (ukuba uyangena kuyo yonke into, umntwana uya kukhula nge-egos, ngaba uyayifuna?);
- Sukuzama ukuba ngumntwana kuye wonke umntu-Yiba nguMama owongezelelweyo, oku kuya kwanela;
- Khumbula ukuba abantwana bafunda kumzekelo wakho (unokutsho ikhulu le nto iyenzakalisayo, kodwa kwanecuba lokucheba icuba eliphambi komntwana unokumbiza ngomnqweno wokutshaya);
- Ukudumisa Ngezenzo ezilungileyo (indumiso - sisixhobo esinamandla ekukhuliseni abantwana, sisebenzise rhoqo njengoko kunokwenzeka);
- Yonke into, ufundisa ntoni umntwana, ufunde ngokuzolileyo kwaye ngomonde (Awunako ukwenza lo mthetho - umfundisekile);
- Nceda inkwenkwe iqonde ngokwesondo ukuba ihlonitshwe ngamantombazana, ubudoda, inkalipho, amandla omoya);
- Vumela inkululeko yomntwana kunye nelungelo lokhetho-ngoko ke liya kuba nemvo yoxanduva lwamagama kunye nezenzo;
- Musa ukuthintela unxibelelwano notata, ukuba alunampembelelobi kumntwana (ubuntu bothumo alunakuvumela uNyana);
- Ukuphulula, inkxaso, nceda umntwana- kufuneka ave uthando kwaye akhathalele nakweyiphi na imeko, kuba imvakalelo yokhuseleko ivumela abantwana ukuba bahlale nabantwana;
- Sukuzincama kwaye uNyana Kanye ngenxa yokuba ungenamntu kufutshane (Esi asisosizathu sokuba ungonwabanga);
Sukuphendula kubomi bobuqu- ukuba udibana nomntu oza kukhululeka ngubani, ungala ubudlelwane, ukukhokelwa yimvakalelo yakho (mhlawumbi lo mntu uya konwaba kungekuphela nje, kodwa nomntwana wakho) ;
- Masibe yimali yomntwana (ukuze unyana kwixesha elizayo anobuchule bezemali, makabe nemali encinci kwibakala lokuqala, anokulilahla ngokubonayo);
- chitha ixesha ngokwahlukeneyo (vumela unyana wakho noNyana kuya kubakho izinto zokuzonwabisa kunye neeklasi kunye nethuba lokubahlukanisa);
- Qwalasela imida kwaye uhambe kancinci uye ecaleni (umntwana omdala uba yinto, kokukhona ezakhe izinto ozithandayo, abahlobo, iiklasi, iminqweno, iminqweno, iminqweno, iminqweno.
Oomama abangatshatanga, kunjalo, balinde ubunzima obuninzi. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, akukho lula ukufundisa abantwana kufikelela kwiintsapho ezizeleyo, nootatomkhulu nomalume, oomalume. Kodwa esi sesona sifundo sibalaseleyo emhlabeni! Oomama abalazula-kukhona abo bafuna ingqalelo yabo, inkathalelo kunye nothando ecaleni kwabo. Eyona nto iphambili kukufundisa abantwana kungekuphela nje ukuba bathathe uthando, kodwa kukwazi ukuyinika. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kusebenza.