Umntu ngamnye uneentshaba-abantu abakuvuyela ukumenzakalisa kunye nokubandezeleka. Ngamanye amaxesha utshaba luvela ngenxa yeyantlukwano oluthile phakathi kwabantu, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha lunye ngenxa yeemeko. Ngamanye amaxesha, abanye abantu ekugqibeleni bayithiyile umntu konke ngaphandle kwesizathu.
Nokuba zivela phi ezi ntshaba, kufanelekile ukuba ziqwalasele izizathu zokuba zifanelekile ukuba zifanelekile.1. Sisifundo esihle sokusebenza kulawulo lomsindo.
Ukunyaniseka, iintshaba zezona zinto zibalaseleyo ziya kunceda ukuphucula ulawulo lomsindo. Nangona kungekho mntu uyimfihlo yokuba iintshaba zinokubangela umsindo kuye nawuphi na umntu, kuyinyani ukuba banokunceda kumnqweno wokujamelana nalo msindo. Sithetha ngengxaki. Kwelinye icala, akunakwenzeka ukuba ube nomsindo ngenene ngomntu omthandayo. Kodwa kuphela xa umntu ecaphuka, uya kukwazi ukufunda indlela yokulawula.
Ulawulo lomsindo lusebenza ngakumbi xa luveliswayo ekusebenzeni, kwaye hayi kwinkolelo.
Ke ngoko, iintshaba zibhetele kunabo nakuphi na abanyanga, kuba ngokwenene bayakuthiya, kwaye ngokufanelekileyo, kwaye kunokwenzeka ukuba bafumane ithuba lokulawula ingqumbo yabo.
2. Eli lithuba lokhuphiswano olusempilweni.
Mhlawumbi abantu abaninzi abayazi le nto, kodwa iintshaba zinokwenza ukhuphiswano olusempilweni. Umntu ufumana inkuthazo efanelekileyo ukukhuphisana, kwaye kunokubaluleka kakhulu kukutyhala uloyiso.
Nangona kunjalo, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba akukho mfuneko yokuba ube yeyona nguqulelo imbi kakhulu ngexesha lokuzama ukuphelisa kuyo yonke into. Ukusebenza nomntu okwi-emntwini kunzima, kwaye kuyimfuneko ukuqinisekisa ukuba ayiyi kuba yingozi kuye okanye isimilo sakhe. Ukhuphiswano olusempilweni sisiqinisekiso sempumelelo.
3. Izimvo ezingalunganga zivuselela
Kuyinyani ukuba iintshaba azisoze zithethe nantoni na elungileyo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuza kuthi ga ngoku njengamazwi abo ayengafaniyo yintiyo, inokuba nesabelo senyaniso.Ewe kunjalo, ngalo lonke ixesha ukuva into embi okanye engathandekiyo etshaba, kuvavanywa ngokugqibeleleyo. Kukho amathuba okuba amazwi otshaba eyinyani, kwaye ukuqonda kwenyani linyathelo elibalulekileyo elinceda ukuba ngcono ngokubanzi. Obunye ubungqina bokuba iintshaba zinokuba ziingcali ze-kia.
4. Iintshaba zinokuba ngamantshontsho abomeleleyo
Ukuba umntu uthandwa lutshaba lwakhe, oko kunokuthetha ukuba uza kuzama ukunxibelelana naye kwaye axolelanise. Ekugqibeleni, ukuba bobabini bayakwazi ukufumana ulwimi oluqhelekileyo kwaye balungisa imeko, kuya kuba nakho ukufumana umhlobo omtsha. Kwaye oku akunqandi mntu.
Inganceda ekusebenzeni nabantu ekuhambeni kwexesha. Emva kwayo yonke loo nto, umntu uya kubangela izakhono zakhe zokusebenzisana, kwaye oku kunokuba yinto enkulu dibanisa umsebenzi wakhe.
5. Oku kwenza ukuba kwenzeke ukuba senze into eyakhayo
Nokuba kwi-barrel engalunganga kukho itispuni yento elungileyo.Ngamanye amaxesha ulwazi lwento yokuba umntu uneentshaba, unokumnceda ajonge kwimizuzu emininzi ethandekayo yobomi bakhe. Amaxesha amaninzi abantu batyeshela eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu ebomini. Kwaye kunokubangelwa kukukhathazeka kakhulu malunga neentshaba abanazo.
Nangona kunjalo, oku kwamkelwa kunokukhuthaza nabani na ukuba acinge kwaye ubone izinto ezahlukeneyo kwizinto nakubantu abayijikelezileyo.
6. Ukungaqondi okuqhelekileyo
Ngamanye amaxesha unobangela wentiyo nomntu onokuba yinto engenabungozi kakhulu. Mhlawumbi umntu akazange azi nesona sizathu sobudlelwane boona, kwaye utshaba lwakhe luncede ukufunda ukuba injalo.
Ukuzama nje ukusondela kutshaba, ungasiqonda isizathu sekhefu. Oku, kunokunceda ukuseka ubudlelwane kwixesha elizayo. Ukungaqondani kuhlala kwenzeka, kwaye kufuneka ukwazi ukuziphangela.
7. Unokufunda ukuxabisa uthando
Isikhumbuzo esisoloko sikho ukuba zikho iintshaba, ziya kusinceda singathathi kanye abo bathanda umntu. Uthando kunye nentiyo zimbini iimvakalelo ezichaseneyo, kwaye umntu unokuyibeka enye okomzuzwana.Nangona kunjalo, nangona umntu uhlala enentshaba, kuya kuhlala kukho abantu abamthandayo. Aba bantu kufuneka baxatyiswe ngenxa yento abayenzayo umntu. Ungaze uvumele intiyo ebangelwa ziintshaba, ukuba iqikelelwe abanye abantu.
8. Ngaba ngokwenene ndifuna intiyo?
Ubuxoki bokwenyani kwinto yokuba iintshaba zizisa iimvakalelo ezimbi kuphela kwaye zibangela ukuba baphendule. Ukuba umntu ufuna ngokwenene ukuphila ubomi obuchumileyo, akafanele "ahambe naye yonke le miguge kunye namava."
Intiyo imbi, kwaye kuya kufuneka uzame konke okusemandleni am ukuyisusa. Inyani eyaziwayo kukuba akukho mntu unokufezekisa ubomi obuninzi, ngelixa ephethe impahla emininzi yeemvakalelo kunye naye. Kwaye intiyo yeyona ndlela inkulu yemvakalelo "yemoto."