Ubuhlobo yeyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa ayisoloko izuza, kwaye ayisiyiyo yonke into yobuhlobo, ekoyiswa ngokuzenzekelayo. Iya kuthakazelelwa, kodwa kwezinye iimeko ikwayeyona inde kwaye "yomelele" ubuhlobo ekufuneka uyibeke inqaku. Kulungile ukuba ubudlelwane bakho nomhlobo / intombi ikhona into kuluhlu olungezantsi.
Emva konxibelelwano kunye nomhlobo / intombi, imo yakho yemozulu iyaqaqamba kakuhle
Asikho kwaphela malunga nale meko xa umntu esabelana nawe usizi kunye nawe, ekhuphisana kuye, waphulukana nemvakalelo yakho. Bathathwa ziimeko apho imeko imbi iba liqabane lakho rhoqo lonxibelelwano lwakho. Umzekelo, ngequbuliso uye waqaphela ukuba emva kokunxibelelana nentombi, ngokuthe ngcembe uyaqala ukuzithemba - emva kwayo yonke loo nto, ngokungafaniyo nawe, yimicimbi.Umhlobo wakho, uyi-The "evuthayo" oqhele ukuqhayisa
Ukuziphatha okunjalo, umntu onalo ncedo lwakho uyanelisa iimfuno zakhe ze-narcissism, kwaye le ndlela yokuziphatha ibizwa kakhulu kubuhlobo babasetyhini. Kodwa enyanisweni, nangona ibonakale "yiyo" yobomi bomhlobo, uzama ukuzichasa ngezincoko ezinjalo. Mhlawumbi akazithembi kubudlelwane nendoda yakhe, kwaye mhlawumbi utshatile okanye ixesha elide engazenzi izigwebo zakhe - kunokubakho izizathu ezininzi. Ngayiphi na imeko, umntu, ngoko uIro ubonakalisa kuphela iinkalo ezilungileyo zobomi bakhe, izama ukufihla ingxaki yabo yokomoya.
Umhlobo uhlala enika i-tectorical, enomsindo kunye neengcebiso ezinzima
Rhoqo, ukubakho okunjalo kuhlobo lwabantu abangekho kubudlelwane. Ke, umzekelo, xa udibana nomhlobo rhoqo weqonga: "Unokuvuya njani na? Bahamba kuwo onke amacala amane! " Iintombi ezinjalo ziphantse zaphuma ngokunyanzelwa kobudlelwane kunye neentsapho, kwaye akukho luhlobo lulungileyo ngokuqinisekileyo kuya kukhokelela kwinto elungileyo.Umhlobo odlala indima ye-psychotherapist
Ukuba nganye nganye iintlanganiso zakho okanye intetho kwifowuni ifana neseshoni ye-psychoperapy, lo ngomnye umqondiso wokuba ubuhlobo buyenzile. Ngaba uhlala ugcina intombi, uyithuthuzele? Ayilunganga. Umntu unokuxambulisana: "Ngaba kufanelekile ukuba kufuneke?". Ngazo zonke iinkalo, ibhalansi iyafuneka - ukugcinwa kwe-interano
Ukuba amabali akho malunga neengxaki, ukusuka kwicala lentombi eqhubekayo kufika kumfutshane: "Ewe, ungakhathazeki, ndinayo," inokuthetha ngento enye eguqukele kuye. Akakhathali nokuba kwenzeka ntoni kuwe, kwaye usebenzisa njenge vest. Ke ngoko, zivakalise izinto eziza kuqala, ziyazixabisa, ixesha lakho kunye nokukhetha abahlobo bakho ngononophelo.
Umhlobo unqwenelela yonke ixesha lasimahla olichitha naye
Ukuziphatha okunjalo kubuhlobo kutshona kakhulu phakathi kolutsha, kodwa abantu abadala bajongana nale nto. Apha kukho ulwaphulo-mthetho olucacileyo lwemida yakho, umhlobo uzama ukulawula inyathelo ngalinye: "Uyaphi? Kwaye nini? Nabani? Kutheni usiya apho? Kwaye kutheni ungandibize nam? " - Le yi-hypercontrol, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo hayi ubuhlobo.Ubuhlobo obutsala ezantsi
Umntu ngamnye unemikhwa emibi, ayingabi kunjalo bonke aba kuyingozi kakhulu ukuze bayeke ingqalelo kubo. Kodwa ukuba umhlobo uphakaze ngokucacileyo indlela engonwabisiyo, akafuni ukukhula kwaye aphile njengomntu oqhelekileyo, kwaye wena, ngelixa usemsebenzini uziva ngathi igaba elibi livuliwe ecaleni kwakhe - baleka kubuhlobo obubi. Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, ulwazi lusafumaneka kwaye alusafumani yonke into.
Ubuhlobo bakho abubonakali, kwaye unemilinganiselo eyahlukeneyo kunye nezimvo.
Le yenye yeemeko ezimbalwa xa ubuhlobo akufuneki bumiswe kabukhali - kwanele nje ukunciphisa ngokuthe ngcembe unxibelelwano kunye neentlanganiso ubuncinci. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba ungamkhathaleli umntu, ufihle kuye - nje ngexesha lokuncokola, iimpendulo mazenze okufutshane nakwimeko, ungazibuze imibuzo ngokwakho ukuze ungabhaleli kwiincoko zexesha elide. Inkqubo ibuhlungu, kodwa ubuhlobo bokwenene phakathi kwabantu abahluke kakhulu ngekhe basebenze.Umhlobo uyandingcatsha kwaye uziphatha ngokunganyaniseki
Imeko yeklasi kubuhlobo bomfazi ngumhlobo kwaye kuzama ukubonisa ukuba umtsalane ngakumbi, onomtsalane, ulumkile, ungcono, engcono kunawe kuyo yonke into. Kwaye ukuze obu bungqina bubonakalisiwe kangangoko kunokwenzeka, kuhlala kuzama ukutsala umdla wenkwenkwe / umyeni wakho. Kwaye ukuba indlela yokuziphatha kwayo iphela ebusweni bakho, kulula ukuyicinga ukuba iya kuba yintoni kum.
Umhlobo i-incocier firemoter quarchrels kusapho
Ukuhamba oko kusapho lwakho, ukuqhekeka, umhlobo onjalo uhlala emkhundleni kwaye eqala ukubonisa ukumkhathalela. Umzekelo: "Kutheni ukhalela kakhulu? Unembonakalo elungileyo! ". Kule meko, intombi yakhokelela kwintiyo efihliweyo - uzama ukubonisa ukuphakama kwakhe, okungapheliyo kobuhlobo bokwenene.Umhlobo uyala xa ubhenela ngoncedo
Xa intombi iyanceda, kodwa ngamanye amaxesha ayinakho ukunceda - oko kuyinto eqhelekileyo. Kodwa ukuba phantsi kolawulo lomhlobo, kukho umntu ohlala 'exakekile', akaze afike kwingeniso, kodwa kwicala lawo elifuna ukuba isetyenziswe ngokuchasene naye.