Asingabo bonke abantwana abanezimpawu ezibonakala ngathi yimovie malunga "nendoda yemvula" okanye ukuhamba eMelika uva. Rhoqo abanye bacinga ukuba umntwana uphathelelekile, akazami, akhuliswe kakubi. Abo baqinisekile ukuba abazali abazi ukuba bawuphatha njani umntwana ukuba baqale ukuqalisa ngengcebiso, izimvo kunye nokuthuka. Iziphumo zotshintsho olunjalo zinokuba zahlukile, ukusuka kwingqumbo elula kunye noloyiko, kude kube yinkqubo ye-nervating, eya kuthi ga kwi-Hsterics okanye yomeleze izinto ezingalunganga.
Sibuze oomama abaliqela, abanabantwana bawo babonakala ngathi bangabalusi bomnye umntu, eyindlela abaphila ngayo nomntu oqhelekileyo kwihlabathi eligxekwa rhoqo.
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Ndinomntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala "ngamehlo anobulumko." Kuye kwaye ulinde ukungaziphathi kakuhle: 'Ngaphandle kwesiphene' kutheni ", uhlobo oluthile lwabakhulisa. Kwaye akukho nzima ixhasa incoko nakwimeko enzima (leyo, kunye nabangaphandle) phantse idlula ngokupheleleyo e-Echolalia.- Ngaba uyayithanda i-ice cream?
-Ndithanda i-ice cream.
- kwaye ufuna ukuba ngubani?
-Ufuna ukuba njalo.
Ewe, apha abantu babonakala bengaqhelekanga ... kum. Kwaye ekubeni ayingasenzani into eyenzekayo, kwaye ukuba ndithi "i-Autism" - bagqiba kwelokuba yibhanti enjalo, umzekelo, ukuthetha malunga ne-a Umntwana, okanye kwindoda endala akazange ayithathe, okanye amanye amayeza awayifumana-ngokubanzi, kokona kulungileyo kwiimbono zakhe ezinokuncedwa ngabantwana.
Ndimamela iingcebiso ezilandelayo, kodwa ngenxa yesizathu esithile akukho namnye omamela owam - indlela enokunxibelelana ngayo nomntwana, kwaye ihlala ngaphandle konxibelelwano.
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Intombazana eneminyaka emithandathu ubudala ifunda ngokukhawuleza, uyazi ukuba i-encyclopedia yabantwana i-encyclopedia, yahluleke engqondweni. Kwaye kwangaxeshanye, iingxaki zasekhaya ngamanye amaxesha zinokuthi zilibale kwaye zichazwe, kodwa azifihli iinkosana, kunye nobunzima bamaqhosha, kunzima ukucinezela njengoko kulandela). Ndingakhala ngequbuliso, njengabantwana xa bediniwe. Ingaqala ukuphindaphinda amagama umntu ngumntu, uthanda kakhulu okanye ungaphandle kwaye ubakhwele kwisangqa.
Kunomsindo omkhulu xa ndindixelela ukuba lonakaliswe engqondweni kuba ndamenza wamenza ukuba afunde. Andizange ndiyinyanzele, iphinde ndiyifunde, yandisa ngandlela ithile ngandlela.
Kutshanje ukubeka kwi-Autism ye-Autism, kodwa ucacisa ukuba luhlobo luni lophuhliso olungalinganiyo kwi-autism yile, kufana nokuthetha nokuba lilize. Kwangoko, i-autismm yenzekile kuba umntwana wayefundwe ekuqaleni.
Kuya kufuneka atshise ezandleni zakhe ngalo lonke ixesha ukuba azive elile, kwaye uzama ukuthatha iithoyi zakhe ukuze ezenze, ukuze bangabi yi-Indel.
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Ngokwesiqhelo kwenzeka njalo-abantu abanomsindo baphoswa kwaye baqala ukukhwaza.Ngamanye amaxesha banokuqondwa ("inkwenkwe yakho ivukile umntwana wam ukusuka entanyeni yomnqamlezo"), ngamanye amaxesha u-Hayi ("Kutheni umntwana wakho etshicela kwivenkile ?!")
Ukuba unyana wam unetyala ngokwenene, ngoko andilunganga, kutheni i-krestik yabekwa kwiklasi ye-Aikido, ndiyaxolisa, ndicela ukuba bafune ntoni abantu abafuna abantu.
Ngokubanzi, xa usitsho ngokuzolileyo "umntwana unokukhubazeka," uninzi lwabantu luzola, lucela uxolo kwaye luhambe. Kodwa ngamanye amaxesha hayi, qhubeka ufune ukuba iba nzima ngoku. Kuya kufuneka ubuze "kwaye ucebisa ntoni?"
Kodwa olona ninzi lwabantu luphawu. "Yindlela awakunibela ngayo uThixo," okanye apho "ngenxa yokuba abazali bebezibandakanyekile, aba bantwana bazalwa," kukho itempile eyaneleyo, kwaye kuyafuneka ukuzenza mihla le, kwaye Yonke into iyakuhamba, ziyakhululwa iidemon. Apha ndidla ngokuqhekeza uphahla kwaye ndiqala ukuthetha ne-nity engathandekiyo, njenge "impilo entle, ngakumbi i-oncological." Kulungile ukuba abantu abanjalo abafiki mihla le.
Ngapha koko, ukugqabhuka okungaqhelekanga, umntwana "nje" akaphumli emtywini, engakhathaleli, akahloniphi kwaye ahlonipha; Ikhathuni lekhathuni e-Chule. Nasebusweni, okanye kumfanekiso, okanye ngendlela eshukumayo ebomini akukho nto ixhalabisayo.
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Malunga nentombazana yam kwiminyaka yathi ayizami apha kwaye ingazami apho. Kutheni unobuso obuqhelekileyo, kutheni ungaziqondi iziqhulo, kutheni ungakoyikeka njani ngeholide, kutheni unalo lonke ixesha lweenyembezi, thetha nje ... zama, qokelela, fumana bonke Indlela kwaye uncume, kwaye uya kuba ngabahlobo kwaye ungabi ngabahlobo kwaye ungazeki.
Ungayiqonda njani ukuba ulambile, uyagula, uyakukhathaza, uyintoni na, isidenge? Le yimibuzo.
Mhlawumbi kwakubonakala ngathi yonke into ilula, kuba intombazana ngokwakhe ihlala ilumke kwaye ihle ngenkangeleko, inesidima, ifundwe kakhulu (kwaye ngoku, iyafunda). Kodwa umthwalo wemvakalelo kwaye ngoku akukho lula. Ngaphambili, le ntombazana iqaqambile nje, ngoku iqala ukukhangela umhlala phantsi, ukuba unxunguphele, okanye ubuncinci ungalayishwa. Kwiminyaka edlulileyo, iindlela zazo ziphuhlile.
Kodwa ke, yonke into engaqondakaliyo, njengoko umntu enokuthathwa njenge-gally kwaye elumkile ngaxeshanye.
Wayeyazi indlela yokuncuma, xa nje ukuqina ngesizathu esithile, ayitsali ukuba uncume, kwaye kusengqiqweni. Kwaye iinyembezi zabo zifanele kakhulu, azinakuba neentloni, iinyembezi azinyamezeleki, kodwa zizama ukuqhubeka nokwenza into, thetha nabantu kunye nokuxinana ngenxa yale nto. Abaqukiyo, nje kwiimbombo zeliso baqeshwa. Njengoko unokukhulisa indoda iinyembezi, andiqondi.
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Inkwenkwe yam incinci, kubandakanya ubungakanani, kwaye inomdla kakhulu. Kuyenzeka ukuba loo nto le nto izimvo ezihlangulwe ngokukhethekileyo kwiindawo ezidlulayo zingaphezulu. Ngokuphindaphindiweyo, nangayiphi na imeko. Uninzi lwabantu luyafa-unyana wam phantse oneminyaka emihlanu ujongeka ngathi iminyaka emithathu kwaye ngamanye amaxesha aziphathe malunga nokufanayo.Eyona nto inzima kakhulu izithuthi zikawonke-wonke. Ngesizathu esithile, elona nani liphezulu lobukrakra bahlangabezana netram. Omnye umntu ongathandekiyo akazange athanda ukuba inkwenkwe imdaka ngasemva kwesihlalo phambi kwakhe. Umzamo wam wokubeka umanyano ukuba ubambe iimbadada zabafana, ukuze ngokuqinisekileyo ndiyeke nantoni na, i-auntie engakhathalelwanga, kwaye ndenza ngathi ayikho apha kwaphela. Inkwenkwe yayikhwaza lonke eli xesha (phantse iqhubeka ikhula). Kwimigaqo, imfuneko ye-tenkinino yayinengqiqo, kodwa yena ngokwakhe wabuhlungu.
Abanye bahlala benzile kwinto yokuba inkwenkwe ilele phantsi, nto leyo engachukumisi mntu.
Ngokubanzi, zonke iingxaki nonyana wam inxulumene nenkqubo yolawulo eyakhiwe kuyo. Phantse angamameli amaqela eezwi, akaphenduli xa bebongoza ukubaleka kwivenkile. Kuyinyani, ipetroli kwaye ekubeni phakathi kwesihlwele, uqalisa ukuqalisa ukuhlaselwa kuloo nkampu ejikelezileyo kwaye kubonakalisa isidenge esincinci, ngelixa kunye ngandlel 'ithile ethembekile kuye.
Kodwa eneneni, ndiyakrokrela ukuba abantu babukrola isibini sethu esimibalabala, ngenxa yazo yonke imigaqo-nkqubo emfutshane nomntwana wam, i-Ofisi yakudala yeSilumko "ayinakukoyiswa sisiphithiphithi." Kwaye intloko. Sihlala sibukele ngononophelo kwaye ngamanye amaxesha sikhaba, crawl ....
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Umntwana wam ophakathi wafunyaniswa sisifo se-Autisting Decisorm Design Design Iminyaka emalunga ne-7, kade, kodwa yayiphantse yangxwelerhileyo esikolweni, yaxilongwa ngoxinzelelo. Uninzi lwazo zonke ndabethwa ndedwa ngomnye weengcali zengqondo, endandihlonitshwa ngaphambili, nelo elithembekileyo. Uye wathi emva koko umntwana wam ochithiwe kwaye kufanelekile ukutshaya.
Ngoku ulishumi elinesithathu kwaye kuye kwabuyekezwa kakhulu, utata kwaye ndityala kakhulu kuyo. Kodwa kukho abantu abacaphukayo kukunganyameni kwakhe, kwaye ngokubanzi "kodwa into angayenzi into, ayinamdla kwabo, le, ayihambi kwixesha lodwa. Kwaye omnye umama womntwana onogqatso bendixelele, ethelekisa naye, ekucacileyo: Nanku unento oyaziyo ngayo.
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Ngokubanzi, inkwenkwe yam (inesiphene se-Autict Spectrum) kungekuphela nje ukuba angathethi kwaye enze ubuso obuhle, ukhwela i-zombie kwifilimu: Ukubeka izandla ngaphambili, ngoku , ngaphantsi) kunezinja ezoyikisayo zasendle. Kunye nabantu abadlula ngendlela emnyama.
Kodwa ngokubanzi, oko kuyamangalisa kangangokuba kucacile ukuba yonke into ayilunganga kakhulu, kodwa ayithinteli abantu konke konke, ukucebisa ukwenza izandla ezininzi, ukuze zingakwenzi kwaye zichaze Kulo, akunakwenzeka ukuba uziphathe.
Kwaye ayizenzi nantoni na enqatshelwe, i-buzles kumthamo ofanayo, othetha abantu, okanye bahleke ngaphandle kwesizathu esivakalayo. Okanye ubuso ngokwakha ngokwakhe, nje une-grtee kwaye ubonakalisa kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha.
Ngokubanzi, indlela engathethekiyo engalunganga ayiyonto ininzi, kodwa ilizwe leengcebiso zelizwe leSoviet. I-Orthodox icebisa ngokuya kwiwaka leekhilomitha ukuba unamathisele okanye uncokole nabadala kwinto ethile. Ekuqondeni kwabo, i-feat enomngcipheko wobomi bomntwana kufuneka ihlawulise into apho kwaye enze ummangaliso. Ndithi "enkosi", ngenxa yokuba ukuchaza ukuba kutheni ndingafuni ukuthuthumbisa ndibhenca ingozi ye-core kunye ne-epileptic ndakhwaza. Umsebenzi ongenokwenzeka.
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Ndinomntwana onobuthathaka kakhulu, kwaye nditsho noxinzelelo lwengqondo. Kwaye uhlala kwi-verge lonke ixesha, kuba wonke umntu uzabalazela ukuveza uluvo lwakhe xa uphantse kwisicwangciso seminyaka emihlanu ezingalweni zakho okanye xa intombazana iqala ukulila ngenxa yokulayisha imvakalelo okanye indlala. Akanayo indawo yokhuseleko, "ihle, kwaye ngequbuliso sele ephule. Ndidla ngokuqonda ukuba yintoni ingxaki.Kwaye ukuba ixhego liyeza kuwe, kwaye uya kumphendula wathi: "Andibuzanga uluvo lwakho," - Okanye: "Enkosi," enkosini niyakuhlasela kwangoko . Kuyinyani, akukho mfazi mdala emva koko wathula. Ngokwesiqhelo okanye uqalisa ukukhwaza, okanye ukuhlasela: "Ndiyayibona indlela oqonda ngayo!"
Rhoqo kukho iimeko apho abanye abantu begqabaza ngokubonakala komntwana oye wakhetha ubuso bakhe kunye nabamakishi, umzekelo. Ngenxa yoku, ukuba ndikuthule, intombazana ingafumana imini yonke kwaye ikhale ngaphambi kwexesha lokulala.
Ndenza ntoni?
Ndifunda ukuyichola imida yakho, ngaphandle kokuya kwisazisi salowo usityhilwa kuthi. Sicengceleza amagama. Kwaye ndicacisa intombi yam ukuba kwenzeke ntoni. Obu buhlobo bethu nolwalamano lwethu nolwalamano lwethu nabantu abaziphatha ngokungachanekanga, bavakalise uluvo lwethu ngathi, kwaye ndalatha kubo.
Akunakwenzeka ukuba uthe cwaka. Okokuqala, abahlaseli abathi cwaka, ukuba uthe cwaka, okwesibini, into endingayimi kuye, intombazana inobuhlungu kakhulu.
Ubomi bam bokubethelwa eSocium yinkonzo yomkhosi osisigxina. Engenanto yakwenza ne-hyperopica, njengoko ndithetha ngamanye amaxesha. Kuba ndiphendula kuphela ekuphenduleni kuhlaselo olucacileyo.
Xa indalo isohlwayo, iingxaki zisonjululwe ngokulula. Ukuthuthuzela umntwana, banike i-gingerbread, itshokholethi okanye ibhegi yobisi, kwayenjalo. Kodwa yonke into idlula ngexesha. Rhoqo apho ndinqwenela ukuthetha.
Kwangelo xesha, intombazana ingenaxabiso ekuhlaleni, inesidima kwaye oko kubizwayo kukuphakanyiswa.
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Ndinomntwana ongahambelani nencwadana yokundwendwela. Oko kukuthi, ukhangela iminyaka emi-2 ngaphezulu kwepasipoti yakhe, kwaye akhokelela kwiminyaka emi-2 encinci. Kwangelo xesha, ngokwesifo sengqondo esifanayo, asingabo ababhali, kodwa uhlobo oluthile lwenkunkuma. Ngokusemthethweni-isana labantwana.
Kwaye oku kungangqinelani koko babonayo, kwaye indlela aziphatha ngayo, iyona nemazi ejikelezileyo rhoqo ibe ngumhluzi. Kuba bakholelwa ukuba phambi kwabo umntwana weBanga lesi-3, kwaye thina kuphela kulo nyaka ukuya esikolweni. Kwaye ukuphendula kwezentlalo yinkqubo yeminyaka emihlanu. Ngenxa yoko, kukho u-Aunt oqhelekileyo onamathele rhoqo.
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