Ulwalamano olusempilweni lubonisa ibhalansi egqibeleleyo phakathi "thatha kwaye unike", kodwa banamathela kulo mthetho, ngelishwa, ayingabo bonke. Kwaye ukuba i-ivisisini yaphukile, ke umntu sebenzisa ngokucacileyo umntu okanye ngokufihlakeleyo. Kweli nqaku, siza kuxela malunga neempawu ezili-9 eziya kuyenza icace ukuba kubudlelwane oyinto yokusetyenziswa.
I-dins ezisisigxina kwizono zangaphambili
Akukho mntu ungenasono- nokuba ezona ngqiqweni zenziwe iimpazamo. Kodwa isikhumbuzo esihlala sinomntu malunga nendawo kwaye xa siphosakele - siphikiso esifihliweyo elinokubangela imvakalelo yokuba netyala kumnxibelelanisi. Ukuba isiqingatha sesibini sihlala sikhumbuza ngeempazamo zakho, yazi-ufuna ukufumana into ngaphandle kokuthatha i-akhawunti yakho.Malunga nezinto onomdla kuzo azikho
Uthetha ngolonwabo olukhulu malunga neendlela zakhe zokuzonwabisa, kodwa ngokukhawuleza xa efumana iiklasi zakho ozithandayo, ngoko nangoko wawubona imicimbi eminye ebalulekileyo nengxamisekileyo? Esi sesinye isizathu sokucinga. Kubudlelwane obugcweleyo obugcweleyo, kubalulekile ukuba amaqabane ukuba abe nomdla kubomi bomntu omthandayo, kwaye oko kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba ithini imibuzo-malunga nesokisi zemoto.
Ngalo lonke ixesha ukuzithemba kwakho kuyasondela kwi-zero
Ubudlelwane abuphelelanga kwisondo, uhlahlo-lwabiwo mali oludibeneyo nolonwabo. Kubaluleke kakhulu, ubudlelwane buvumela abathathi-nxaxheba ngamnye ukuba bakhule ngokwemigaqo yophuhliso lwalo. Xa umntu esazi amandla akhe kunye nobuthathaka bakhe - zenza ukuzithemba kwazo kuwo. Kwaye umsebenzi wabathathi-nxaxheba kwisibini-nceda omnye komnye uhamba kwicala elifanelekileyo. Ukuba sele ungakukhumbuli, xa ixesha lokugqibela livile kwi-heyvel elithandekayo okanye ukuncoma kwidilesi yakho, kodwa bahlala bemamela izifundo ezide kwi-mines yabo - baleka, kuyakusebenzisa ngokuqinisekileyo.Izalamane zihlangabezana
Ngenxa yeemvakalelo, amantombazana atyekele ekungafanelekanga ukuba angakhathali iqabane, kodwa abanye abayi. Uhlalutyo lobudlelwane ukusuka kwecala ngamanye amaxesha luvumela ukuba ubone lonke ubuthathaka, kuba akukho kuphazamiseka "kweglasi epinki". Akukho mfuneko yokuba ulandele ngokupheleleyo lonke ingcebiso kwicala, kodwa kusekufanele ukuba ubaphulaphule, ngakumbi abantu abanganamdla kubazali, abazalwana noodade. Kukukhe kube lusizi ngakumbi xa, ngaphandle kokufaka ibango labantu, abantu bazama ukudlulisela iNyaniso efanayo ngawe-zama ukumamela iimpikiswano kwaye mhlawumbi zilungile?
Iqabane lithi "yonke into iza kuba ngcono"
Kuzo zonke iimeko, iqabane lakho linyanzelisa ukuba yonke into ingaba luthango, ukuxabana kwangaxeshanye uluvo lwalo ngulowo "wonke umntu uza kuba ngcono"? Akukho mntu ungeyonto yokuba kukho umntu okhethekileyo ecaleni kwakho, nto leyo eyi-100% eqikelela ukuphuculwa kwayo yonke imicimbi, kodwa kusekho ithuba elincinci kakhulu. Ngaphezulu, amaxesha amaninzi, la magama, umntu afumana nje oko kungenelwa kuye. Ukuqinisekisa ukuba kufuneka umcele ukuba azibuze okungenani iimpikiswano ezimbalwa ezinzima, kutheni kungangcono kuye wonke umntu? Kwaye ukuba sele kulandelayo: "Owu, yonke into, yenzele, njengoko uyazi" okanye into enjalo, ungathandabuzi - phambi kwakho i-wipilator.Iqabane lingakhathali ngokupheleleyo kwimpumelelo yakho kunye nokusilela.
Ukuba umntu othandekayo akaphenduli nangayiphi na indlela eya kwi-fiasco noloyiso - ithetha into enye - awunamdla kuye. Kwaye kubudlelwane nawe, unokuba ngumkhwa, okanye kuba ukhululekile. Mhlawumbi ujonga wena njengomhlangano onetalente, kodwa njengomfazi ongenamdla.
Akafuni kukunceda
Ayizizo zonke iingxaki umntu anokucombulula ngaphandle koncedo, ngakumbi umfazi. Kubudlelwane obuqhelekileyo, indoda ithatha uxanduva ukusombulula imisebenzi enzima kwaye incedise ibhinqa layo, likhusele kwaye likhusele. Ukuba unohlobo oluthile lwengxaki, ubhenela kwintanda yakho yoncedo, kwaye ayingxami ukunceda - lo ngolunye uphawu oluyinto esetyenziswayo."Hayi" ayithethi nto
Ewe kunjalo, kukho iimeko apho zonke iintsilelo kufuneka zidluliselwe ziindlebe, kodwa iimeko zikaxakeka zeyunithi. Ukuba "hayi" sisimo esingenanto esingenanto kwiqabane, kwaye izenzo zayo ngokunxulumene nawe sele ziqala ukuba njengobundlobongela-yiyeke obu budlelwane ngokukhawuleza.
Uhlala unyanzelisa "indlela elungileyo"
Inyaniso yemida "yinyani" "isetyenziswa ngokungachanekanga" ekukhuliseni abantwana xa bezama ukuziphatha ngendlela eqhelekileyo eluntwini. Xa oku kusetyenziswa kubudlelwane, oku kukukaluhlobo lwenkqubo yemfundo. Yinjongo nje yemfundo enjalo-yenza iqabane elifanelekileyo njengefanelekileyo kuwe. Kwaye ukuba isithandwa sakho sihlala sikuxelela indlela yokwenza, kwaye akukho mfuneko yokuba - cinga ngayo, kwaye ungakukhathazi?