Mhlawumbi ayimfihlo kuye nabani na olona nxibelelwano lubalaseleyo ngulowo waziyo ukuba mamela. Kwaye ekhaya, kwimeko yencoko kunye nesiqingatha sakho esithandekayo, kuyaba nzima ngakumbi, emva kwayo yonke loo nto, kufuneka uphulaphule ukuze aziqonde.
Ukubizwa kuka-"-Perdumes Ukuma" kubuchule obukhulu kulwalamano oluqinileyo, kuba ivumela iqabane ukuba liziva likhathalele kwaye liqonde. Makhe sinike amaxesha amathandathu okuthetha indlela yokubonisa uvelwano kwiqabane lakho xa efuna ukwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakhe1. Iingcebiso-Ityala eliphezulu
Sukuzama ukusombulula ingxaki okanye unike ingcebiso, ukuba ayibuzwa ngokuthe ngqo ngayo. Ngamanye amaxesha abantu bafuna nje ukuba baviwe kwaye beva iimvakalelo zabo. Xa umntu ebuhlungu, ufuna intetho yovelwano, hayi icebiso. Ewe kunjalo, iphakamisa umnqweno wokunceda kwaye inike isigqibo ngokukhawuleza kumntu wakho othandekayo, kodwa iBhunga lisenokungabi yinto efunwa ngulo mntu okwangoku. Amadoda adla ngokusombulula iingxaki, kodwa kufanelekile ukubalazela le ngxaki.
2. Umonde, unyamezelo kuphela!
Yiba nomonde kwaye ungakhathali ukuba iqabane alinakuthele lisithi uyaziva.Ngamanye amaxesha umntu uthatha ixesha lokufumana amagama ukubonisa into azivayo. Ukuthula kunye nomonde kuyanceda abantu bavakalise iimvakalelo zabo.
3. Ngobubele amandla
Sukuthatha iimvakalelo zeqabane lakho "kwiakhawunti yakho." Yimvakalelo yakhe kwaye ayinyanzelekanga ukuba iqengqele ngeyakho. Uvelwano luthetha ukwamkelwa kweemvakalelo zeqabane njengoko zinjalo.
4. Khumbula-awuthathwanga
Ungazikhuseli kwaye ungabi ngxaki xa iqabane libonisa iimvakalelo ozikhathazayo. Akunyanzelekanga ukuba igxeke. Kufuneka sinike iqabane ukuba liveze amava am ngokukhuselekileyo ngaphandle kokuphazamiseka. Kuya kubakho enye, lixesha elifanelekileyo lokuthetha oko engqondweni. Ngamanye amaxesha kubalulekile ukuba ubuze: "Ngaba ndinganako ngokuzolileyo ndivakalise into endiyicingayo? Ndidinga ukuthetha ngento endikhathazayo. "5. "IVOYO LOKUFUNDA"
Sebenzisa i-ke ebizwa ngokuba "kukuva okungafunekiyo", ubuchule obwenza omnye umntu ukuba umntu aqonde kwaye amkhathalele. Xa umntu esithi: "Ndiyaqonda ukuba kuyakukhathaza ngoku." Okanye "ndivile ukuba awunaxesha lilula," iqabane livakalelwa kukuba unokuxelela ngakumbi ngale ngxaki. Ukuba uthi: "Andisiqondi isizathu sokuba uvakalelwe" okanye "Awundikhathaza," ke iqabane livaliwe.
6. Unonophelo oluphakathi
Nika uvelwano ukuba iqabane libuhlungu, kodwa akalindeli ububele. Imfesane inokubangela imvakalelo yokuthantamisa okanye i-patreage, kunye noKhathalelo olunyanisiweyo- hayi.
Iingcali zengqondo zihlala zinika "umsebenzi wasekhaya" ukuze uziqhelasele imizuzu emihlanu ngemini "yokuva" kwemascothum ". Iqabane kwaye ithetha into eyakhayo malunga neqabane B. Umzekelo: "Ndiyayibulela into yokuba isidlo sangokuhlwa esilungiselele" okanye "Unceda umsebenzi wakho wasekhaya." Emva koko, iqabane lithetha into enye engeyiyo. Umzekelo, "Ndingathanda ukuba uncede ukucoca ekhaya" okanye "ndingathanda ukuba uhlambe abantwana ngokuhlwa." Ukuza kuthi ga ngoku, iqabane lithi, iqabane lakho liphulaphule. Emva koko iqabane i-B litsho enye elungileyo nengalunganga, ngelixa iqabane liphulaphule. Emva koko, akunakwenzeka ukuxoxa ngento ethethwayo.
Lo msebenzi mncinci uvumela ukuba uvakalise kancinci inkathazo encinci yobomi bemihla ngemihla, ukuze bangaqokeleli, besenza udonga phakathi kwesibini.