Utata kwisithuba: Yintoni ekufuneka uyazi malunga ne-Tactile ukuba unesidima ukuba unayo umntwana

QAPHELA: Funda ngezantsi, kuphela ukuba (yayi) ngumama baby, bhela (uhlala) ngomntwana / utata wakho awunguye umntwana ofanelekileyo owehlayo Ulala kwaye ulele yena, akaxhomekanga kwiintsuku zokujikeleza zesifuba, axoka kwaye adlala ngokwabo imini yonke, kwaye unexesha lokwenza yonke into, ukongeza emntwaneni.

Ewe, kwaye ukuba awunaye umakhulu / i-nanny. Kubalulekile. Abanye basenokungaqondi.

Ukuba umntwana wakho akahambi ngezandla, athi, "Ukulala kuphela ngamabele emlonyeni", "akazange alale iinyanga ezintathu ngaphandle kwam," kwaye "awudinwanga," ulapha.

Kwiveki yokuqala emva kokuzalwa unyana wam, ndahlala uLote kwiinethiwekhi zentlalo. Ndalifumana njani ixesha? Kulungile .... Emva kwemini walala ngaphezulu kwam, isisu esiswini. Eli libali elahlukileyo, kutheni le nto, ngenye imini ndiza kuxelela. Kodwa ngenxa yesi sizathu, isiqingatha semini endalala nayo. Kwaye isiqingatha sesibini, ukuqhubeka nokufaka isisu, kunjalo, "tupil ebumbandeni". Hayi, ngokunyaniseka ndizamile ukufunda iincwadi ekuqaleni. Kodwa sakubeka ebumnyameni, ngokukhanya akalalanga. Kwaye ndacinezela i-e-ncwadi kunye ne-elbow yakho kwiveki yesibini yokufunda. Yayingathanga ukubuyiselwa, ke yahlala isindiswe, ifowuni, kwaye kuyo inethiwekhi yentlalo.

Elinye lamaqela ndifunda ngenkuthalo yayikukuzithetha isiNgesi, malunga nokukhulelwa kunye neentsana. "Zinayo" kwiindibano ezimama-phantse yonke into ngathi. Ukubandezeleka kancinci malunga nommiselo ongahlawulelwanga kunye nemibuzo encinci malunga nendlela yokunciphisa umzimba. Kodwa ingxoxo enye itsala ingqalelo yam ngokukhethekileyo. Malunga nokuba kungakanani kwiinyanga zokuqala umfazi ohleli yedwa nomntwana ediniwe ngeqhinga, ekupheleni kosuku echukunyiswe ngokupheleleyo [ichukunyiswe ngokupheleleyo [ichukunyiswe ngokupheleleyo]. Kwaye isibakala sokuba amadoda angayiqondi le nto kwaye akhubekise ekungangeni, ukusondelelana, ukungavumiyo ukubeleka nokuba ebhedini.

Yayiyingcinga entsha ngokupheleleyo kum. Wawela ngokuqinileyo kwinkumbulo, kwaye ndacinga ngayo ndaza ndaqonda iiyure ezinde emva koko.

Ngapha koko, nyani. Ibhinqa elityayo, lihlala lisoloko 'lizinika le nto. " Kwaye ngaphandle kokuthatha ingqalelo esifubeni, umzimba wakhe uhlala uyinto ye-hugs, ukwanga, kucinezela, imidlalo. Uhlala emchukumisa, uchukumisa umntwana, uvale, unxiba, uyadlala kwaye idlala isithunywa, nesisa kunye ne-ceress kunye ne-ceress kunye ne-ceress kunye ne-ceress. Yonke imini! Kwaye nokuba yeyokuba yeyokuba yeyokwenzela i-uforthetic yethemba eliphakamileyo emhlabeni ... ayikhathaleli ngayo? ..

Bendihlala ndikuthanda ukugona. Kwaye ndatshata ngempumelelo - umyeni uyafana. Kwangoko, ngokoluvo lwam, sasiku-Tectile fowunelela ngalo lonke ixesha awayesekhaya. Ndandihlala ndiyichukumisa, ndibambe emva kwesandla, ndancuma, ndanga. Salala "kwi-Oakh". Kodwa xa unyana wethu enkqonkqoza iinyanga ezintathu, kwaye umyeni wam waza wakhalaza kuye, kodwa andizange ndicinge kwangoko, kodwa ndaqonda ukuba uthetha kuqala ngokwasemzimbeni kwaye wakhumbula le ngxoxo.

Ewe, ewe ingaba yile nto! ..

Ngequbuliso "ngokucacileyo" ukuba kwezi veki ziye zakuthintela rhoqo into yokuba ukusondela, oko kukuthi, unxibelelwano lwe-Tactile. Ngokungathi kukuncancisa ngeempelaveki. Ebusuku, ngamanye amaxesha ngenzondelelo wafudukela kwisiqingatha sakhe sebhedi. Wancokola nomyeni wakhe malunga ne-roshoting ekhitshini, kodwa phantse akazange amchukumise ... ngalo naliphi na ixesha lesimahla ndizikhathalele ngenyameko, uthathe ishawari, kwaye malunga nendlu , ukutya, ukuhlamba, i-irong ... kodwa akuyo yonke i-hugs.

Yayiyimvakalelo yokuba bendingathi "icinyiwe". Bakhupha iibhetri kwi-pusheries yam engaphakathi, bonke ubomi bakhe bandinyanzela ukuba ndibabule abantu, bagcine izandla, bachukumisa. Kwaye ewe-bamba i-buzz enamandla kuyo.

Ngoku ndifuna nyani unxibelelwano. Ndakhangela ngenkuthalo, ndinoloyiko nomyeni wam, izihlobo, izalamane, abamelwane abakwintlanganiso kunye ne-hugcall entlanganisweni kwaye engasekho. Yazi ukuba yayilusizi kakhulu. Hayi, ewe, bekukho imizuzwana yokuqaqamba, kunye nokugcoba ngokuncancisa, kodwa ikakhulu ngeempelaveki. Okanye xa sinobuqaqawuli (enkosi umama, sichithe iinyanga ezimbini! ...) Kwiinyanga ezimbini, xa ndandichitha ixesha ndedwa, ngesizathu esithile sihlala sibuhlungu ikakhulu , Bendidla nje nje bendifuna ukuwa, ngamanye amaxesha, mhlawumbi, ndincokole ekhitshini, kodwa ukuze bangandichukumisi, ukuba ayisiyiyo i-massage. Ndibande, ndiphumle kwaye ndiguqukele ngqo ephupheni. Kuba phambili yayisebusuku ngobusuku kunye neesandla zakhe ebusuku kunye namabele amdaka.

Ndaye ndathetha nabanye oomama okutsha, kwaye kwathi loo mantombazana avela kwiqela elithetha isiNgesi yayilungile - sinjalo.

Kwaye ilungelo kukuba amadoda akasiqondi.

Amadoda, ootata ... Kwaneyona nto imangalisayo kwaye iqondile (umyeni wam ufana!), Abachithi iintsuku, bakroba amabele, ayathuthuzela. Ewe, u-Damn ootata abadli ngeenxa zonke iwotshi. Izandla zabo kunye nokubuyela umva aziguli kangako ukusuka ekucothweni okungapheliyo nokuphakamisa umntwana. Emva kokuzalwa komntwana, abaweli egazini le-Estrogen, i-prolactin ayiphakamisi, ifumana amanqaku okanye i-libido. Akukho nto yaguqukayo "Apho, ngezantsi, ngenxa yezithuba okanye ngenxa yezithuba okanye i-episiotomy, abazange bangathobeli isikhafu kwicandelo likaKesarestan. Ayoyiqubi kwaye ayoyiki kwakhona ukuqala ukwenza uthando. Andifuni kunkqonkqoza iqabane ngeli xesha lokuthatha amathuba ongezelelweyo kangangesiqingatha seyure yokulala. Bavela emsebenzini, ekhaya ekhaya, umntwana uhlala elala, yonke into inje ngaphambili. Kutheni le nto ngokungekho na ngaphambili. .. Kwaye inyani yokuba umfazi sele egqobhoza kwigumbi lokulala emva kwedabi lokulala, linje?

Okokugqibela, amaxesha amaninzi bengazazi kwaye abacingi ukuba kunokwenzeka-ungafuni ukuba kukufuphi. Ngamanye amaxesha awufuni, kuba ivila kakhulu kakhulu. Ngamanye amaxesha awufuni, kuba ndifuna ukulala kwaye musa ukubamba imilenze. Ngamanye amaxesha ukungafuni, ngenxa yokuba ubunyani buyadanduluka ngaphakathi kuwe - HAYI, ukuba unama-testindes, kwaye uye kuzo isidoda, ungakhulelwa! Ungakhulelwa! ...

Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha - awunakufuna nje ukulinyathela, kuba uchukunyiswe ngokupheleleyo.

Sukufuna ukwanga kwaye hume. Sele kuphela - wancuma kwaye uphilisiwe namhlanje ikhulu. Ufuna ukuba yindoda, ingqondo, kodwa hayi umzimba. Umzimba wakho ufuna ukuphumla kwaye ungabi kancinci ngoku.

Kwaye ukuba kunjalo-iiveki, iinyanga? Yintoni eya kuhlala umntu ?. ..

Kodwa kusekho uxinzelelo lwentlalo kubafazi. Balinde ukuba baya kuzame ngokukhawuleza. Ukuba isondo siya kuba njengangaphambili. Liza kuthini ixesha lokukhulisa umntwana, kwaye kwangaxeshanye yonke into isuswe ngokugqibeleleyo kwaye ipheka isidlo sangokuhlwa sezitya ezintathu. Ukuba nothando kwaye unikele ingqalelo. Kwaye ujongeke ngokugqibeleleyo.

Kwenziwe ntoni?..

Eyona nto ibaluleke kakhulu kukuba kufuneka uthathe inyani- awunyanzelekanga. Unelungelo lokuba nguwe. Ukungafani neemagazini ezingenayo. Unelungelo lokuzimela "ukuxhamla" xa uyifuna.

Ewe, kufuneka uthethe, Xelela, chaza, buza. Nika umyeni kunye nezihlobo zakhe ukuba zikhathalele umntwana ukuba afumane ixesha kunye namathuba. Ukuphumla wedwa. Thatha umzimba wakho ngokwakho. Khumbula ukuba yeyakho. Buyisela. Sukuzama ukuba ngumama nomfazi ofanelekileyo. Awukabinalo ixesha lokwenza, kukho into ekufuneka uyincama into.

Kwaye ewe, indoda yakho iya kuhlala ihleli. Kuba uyindoda ekhulileyo ekhulileyo, kwaye uyayazi indlela yokuthanda. Qonda kwaye wamkele. Ngapha koko, kanye ukusuka ekuzaleni abantwana? .. kwaye ngenxa yokuba kufuneka uziqonde kwaye unokwazi ukuthi "hayi" xa unjalo - hayi. Xa ungenanto ukuzinika mna. Umntwana akasayi kulinda, kwaye umntu omdala unakho. Ngokukhula kwabantwana ngokukhawuleza, uya kubandezeleka.

Ekugqibeleni, wenza owona msebenzi ubalulekileyo emhlabeni ngoku - uyasela ukuthanda umntwana wakho. Umntwana wakho. Kwaye unelungelo lokuba kulo msebenzi. I-nelaskova, ayikabi kunjalo, ayingabinanga. Okanye ichukumisekile.

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