Utshatile, utshatile: Ungabalungokazi we-love square

Xa zimbini zithandana, akukho ndawo yesithathu-ithi ubulumko bobulumko. Kodwa yenzeka ukuze utshatile, kwaye utshatile. Kwaye bonke abathathi-nxaxheba kolu thando "i-quadrangle" ayikho kuzo zonke iimvakalelo zovuyo, kodwa amaxesha amaninzi, ukubandezeleka nokuxinana.

Ngokutsho kwezengqondo, umntu unokuthanda abantu ababini kunye nangaphezulu ngaxeshanye kwaye akukho nto imbi. Unokufumana inkanuko ephathekayo kwiqabane elinye, kwaye uye kwenye imvakalelo yothando, kodwa ukuba "nditshatile, kwaye utshatile" luthando olungavunyelwanga nguMbutho.

Abantu bakhuthaza ntoni abantu ukuba bangenelele kubudlelwane obunjalo?

1. Isenokuba luthando olutsha, intlanganiso entsha enekratshi. Abantu bayazitsalela ngenkani. Okanye, mhlawumbi, uthando oludala lwadibana, kwaye iimvakalelo ziphinda zaphela.

2. Ubudlelwane obungaphandle busetyenziswa, njengomgaqo, xa into ilahlekile. Kunye namaqabane babopha umkhwa, abantwana, indlu, kodwa akukho kuqonda nakukhathazeka.

3. Umnqweno wokwahlukanisa ubomi kunye nezesondo. Amaqabane asemthethweni sele esele i-crap. Kwaye ndifuna iimvakalelo ezibukhali. Ubudlelwane obungenamsebenzi buya kulibazisa kwaye buye kumbandela.

4. Ingqumbo yakudala kunye neengxaki zosapho. Umnqweno wokuziphindezela ngokuvukela. Kodwa amaxesha amaninzi abafazi bathi: Ndinomyeni olungileyo. Ndiyamhlonela yena noyise wabantwana bam, kodwa andinakwenza nto nam. Kwaye amadoda agutyungelwe yinto yokuba abanakulahla abantwana babo.

Xa ubudlelwane obunjalo bulibazisiwe, impikiswano ivelisiwe, kungekuphela kubudlelwane bosapho, kodwa nakumphefumlo wakhe. Nokuba yeyiphi na imbalelwano yayiqatshelwe, inyani yokungcatsha okanye kamva iya kuvula amaqabane asemthethweni. Iya kuyinyusa ngokungathandabuzekiyo ixesha lokukhetha: Nokuba litshabalalise intsapho okanye liqhubeke nokuphila ngengqondo yetyala? Abafazi bajamelana neemeko ezinjalo. Zingaphezulu kwethambeka kuguquko olusisiseko ebomini, kodwa ngaba lowo unyuliweyo unokufumana utata olungileyo nabantwana bakhe? Nokuba uza kukugcina ukuthembeka, kuba ubudlelwane kunye nayo bunokuba yinto eqinileyo ecaleni. Inokuvula nomyeni wakhe, kwaye ke inxalenye yonyuliweyo ayiyi kulandela.

Kuyo nayiphi na imeko, ukuba kwiimeko ezinjalo, bafumane ulonwabo kunye nentuthuzelo yangaphakathi, akunakuphumelela. Uya kugxothwa imvakalelo yetyala ngaphambi "kweqela elikhohlisayo".

Kwaye ngaphambi kokwenza isigqibo, kuya kufuneka ucinge kakuhle ukuba ucinga ukuba "ubudlelwane ecaleni". Mhlawumbi cinga ngendlela yokuphucula ubudlelwane neqabane?